My response to Tantacrul and his video.

[DutchMister1488]

Ikr, they just dont know what its like to never experience happiness it feels souless

 

[SolomonKado]

Before I finally found my new philosophy of "FTW", I was still a person who understood. I worked in a prison where inmates chose to take their life. It was normal for people to think "well it's another free bed" with very little investigation into it. I knew it was because of the overwhelming feeling of being lost. This world only caters to a certain type of person. Also, if it doesn't make money then it doesn't matter. If it loses money then they'll really look at it. It's all about money. To afford the best care you had better be prepared to spend a lot of money. I've even read in other places how Doctor's have chosen to CTB due to a system they no longer believe in. DR'S!!! The good ones who try to get their patients the best help, but without money then they are out of luck. WHO THE FUCK IS RUNNING THIS PLACE! Sorry for yelling, but I have come to the realization that this world is no longer worth it and I'm very passionate about it. I've made it 40+ years and have lost faith in the planet as a whole. I feel horrible for leaving the ones who care about me behind, but I've had my fill of it. This is a place to talk openly about mental health and people like Tantacrul are trying to close those doors. Why?! Because they know better?! I've been here longer and done a lot more then they can imagine. Some people should just sit down.

 

[geogaddi_676]

Thank you

 

[Ms.Starr]

Beautifully written and brilliant! I commented under his video in defense of the site. His video is slander. No one is forced to be here nor was lured. We have a right to decide our fate without annoying people like Tantacrul intruding on our rights. We don't need his permission to feel and think however we do. The nerve of this guy!! He has no idea what we are going through. The site is not responsible for individual behavior. I am here because I want to be here. This site is amazing valuable to my life especially in the condition I am in because of the harm caused by the mental health industry and other people. The site is a safe haven in a world where there are no safe spaces in my life.

 

[d3c96524be95]

Beautifully written and brilliant! I commented under his video in defense of the site. His video is slander. No one is forced to be here nor was lured. We have a right to decide our fate without annoying people like Tantacrul intruding on our rights. We don't need his permission to feel and think however we do. The nerve of this guy!! He has no idea what we are going through. The site is not responsible for individual behavior. I am here because I want to be here. This site is amazing valuable to my life especially in the condition I am in because of the harm caused by the mental health industry and other people. The site is a safe haven in a world where there are no safe spaces in my life.

Chances are your comment was deleted (or will be anytime soon). That's how he's been handling contradiction on his channel so far. He's so persuaded we are unsound, unable to reason, incapable of critical thinking that he doesn't even want to see contradiction. Anyone who has endured involutary admission in ward will see a pattern here. If you revolt, you're unsound and should be mute by force.

 

[spoons]

I hope that thread that has his video linked is locked. That thread already has 5k views in 5 hours . 5k ads for his video smearing this site. Tantracul : he's trying to make money off us suicidal people imo. And just clicking his video makes him more money . I hope members repeatedly bumping that thread realize they are just providing more ads for his video.

His video is not interesting nor truth . So how does the thread linking it deserve 5k views in 5 hours? I don't remember too many threads receiving that many views or bumps that fast.

Each click helps the video in the YouTube algorithm.

the way people here keep talking about and replying to the thread where the dumb video is linked might make it go viral. Best way to combat that video is to not click on it and tell everyone to ignore it. take it as something not worthy of discussion because it isn't. It's just a. Attempt by a YouTuber to make money

Clicks on his video will make him money and move the video up on the YouTube algorithm. That's what YouTubers are after clicks & views which translate to money. He's using us suffering people to enrich himself with cash $.

i will never watch his video

I joined after seeing his video to get a good idea of what was going on. To see the other side, I guess. And honestly, I've been surprised. I mean, I came in expecting people to just outwardly telling me to kms. Sure, there may have been a few bad eggs here but I do feel like there's a conversation to be had. I only really lurk to remind myself that my depression isn't something I'm going through by myself. If I have to vent about the really heavy stuff I can come here.
I think his video could have been more objective. I do see some his points but I also see yours, (granted I didn't read the whole post because I'm dyslexic but I also didn't watch the entirety of his video either.) there are always things that can be done to make it safer and unfortunate with a lot of things, something bad has to happen to make a change. I'm happy to the see the changes that have been made to the forum and I'm glad it's still around.

If anyone ever needs a friend, let me know! We can snap or text or whatever. Just know that there is someone else really struggling out here too. Besties for the resties, or however long we're here for <3

I joined after seeing his video to get a good idea of what was going on. To see the other side, I guess. And honestly, I've been surprised. I mean, I came in expecting people to just outwardly telling me to kms. Sure, there may have been a few bad eggs here but I do feel like there's a conversation to be had. I only really lurk to remind myself that my depression isn't something I'm going through by myself. If I have to vent about the really heavy stuff I can come here.
I think his video could have been more objective. I do see some his points but I also see yours, (granted I didn't read the whole post because I'm dyslexic but I also didn't watch the entirety of his video either.) there are always things that can be done to make it safer and unfortunate with a lot of things, something bad has to happen to make a change. I'm happy to the see the changes that have been made to the forum and I'm glad it's still around.

If anyone ever needs a friend, let me know! We can snap or text or whatever. Just know that there is someone else really struggling out here too. Besties for the resties, or however long we're here for <3

I also wanted to post my poetry here if it was a good place, so let me know if I can, ig. Lol.

 

[Elle]

I joined after seeing his video to get a good idea of what was going on. To see the other side, I guess. And honestly, I've been surprised. I mean, I came in expecting people to just outwardly telling me to kms. Sure, there may have been a few bad eggs here but I do feel like there's a conversation to be had. I only really lurk to remind myself that my depression isn't something I'm going through by myself. If I have to vent about the really heavy stuff I can come here.
I think his video could have been more objective. I do see some his points but I also see yours, (granted I didn't read the whole post because I'm dyslexic but I also didn't watch the entirety of his video either.) there are always things that can be done to make it safer and unfortunate with a lot of things, something bad has to happen to make a change. I'm happy to the see the changes that have been made to the forum and I'm glad it's still around.

If anyone ever needs a friend, let me know! We can snap or text or whatever. Just know that there is someone else really struggling out here too. Besties for the resties, or however long we're here for <3

I also wanted to post my poetry here if it was a good place, so let me know if I can, ig. Lol.

You can post your poetry, in the off topic section

 

[TooConscious]

He's just a 'c°^t and a coward and people shouldn't even entertain him or those who comment on his.
Just focus on what helps you. Not some guy who 'sucks satan cock'

 

[d3c96524be95]

By the way, in his pinned comment, he wrote:

Something we can all do to hamper this site's ability to function is to contact the host service, […] Xenforo (SS breaks their license terms: https://xenforo.com/license-agreement/ )

I'm not sure that xenForo *hosts* this website, but it however true that they wrote its software. I fail to see at which point SS breaks xenForo license agreement however. I suspect he was thinking of this clause:

You undertake to ensure that the Software is not used by You or others to engage in or promote: illegal activity; any activity that would violate the rights of third parties; defamation, discrimination, harassment, hatred or harm of third parties.

But even with a very lenient interpretation, I find it very hard to argue that this site is used to promote or engage in harming third parties. Did he manage to also get that wrong? Or is he referring to another point I may have missed?

 

[Arihman]

I said it once and I'll say it again: I can accept voluntary suicide prevention that nonetheless leaves people the freedom to die for whatever reason they want. I would also agree to a waiting period as a compromise, with therapy included, to reduce impulsive suicides and make the decision to die less painful for loved ones as well, thus giving them time to prepare for the loss, and talk to the suicidal individual.

I can also accept people deeming suicide cowardly or stupid, or trying to talk other people out of killing themselves. That's just freedom of speech, and it's fully legitimate, as much as I think these opinions are dumb.

But these lowlives would hardly agree to such a compromise. Therefore, anyone who supports coercive suicide prevention, and wouldn't even agree to the above compromise is a complete scumbag, a putrid, flaming, radiocative piece of shit who belongs in a serial killer torture chamber.

If coercive suicide prevention advocates want to torture people, then they should be tortured, if not by some maniac, at least by life (like getting cancer or aomething else). They deserve no mercy, only cruelty.

 

[Ms.Starr]

Here's my question, and this goes for everyone, would you recommend this site to a loved one ? If someone you deeply care about tell about their will to end themselves, would you be like "Oh it's okay, it's your freedom, btw here's some way to ctb, you're so brave" would you?

Yes

 

[Professor K]

i also find ironic how he especially focus on this cake123 with so much hostility, stating that they're pretending to be a young woman and that since they're overly active on SS -according to his fallacious scenario you can watch from 18m56s of the video- surely means they're actually a criminal or a psychopathic old man behind the screen. but this rhetoric only fits his pro life agenda.

now what if i now say this: in reality, cake123 is a minor, a teen pretending to be an adult woman and that this teenager is just as vulnerable mentally as any other member. the reason cake123 is the most prolific member is that they dropped out of school, therefore they spend all their time on SS, completely lonely with no friend whatsoever. the reason they haven't ctb yet is that they are scared and at the same time, still have a little bit of hope in life and seek that through posting again and again.

it is so easy to invent a scenario which will subsequently put a group of people against another person. this is basic cliché popular high school kid bullying through dumb rumors level tactic. so very evil when you think about it.

just look at how ironic those popular comments that have received thousands of likes are and i'll quote them one after the other: ''The fact that cake123 is the most active user and still hasn't ctb'd is absurd. They're responsible for so many deaths and they preach ctb but dont have the courage to do it themselves.'' and one last that got 28k: ''My major question is how is Cake123 so prolific on this site but hasn't "caught the bus" himself. Very telling''

there are so many like this and THEY are very telling. they are bullying and encouraging this-according to my scenario- depressed vulnerable out of school teen who has 0 friend, to commit suicide. but they are the pro life good people out there. i mean dont we all know people who are suicidal or in treatment and keep relapsing, keep being suicidal, nevertheless aren't dead? and here they act like this isn't really common.

it is somehow morally correct to wish cake123 death solely under this good tantacrul's assumption that they are a psychopath.

this man just manipulated millions of viewers into believing that cake123 is a bad person who deserves to be hated and better off dead when it could very well be a vulnerable minor he predents wanting to protect at all cost.
this man who claim that we are a cult is recreating the exact same sort of cult-like strategies in his entire video and his obsession with cake123 is the most obvious one to point out.

you can find such irony in every aspect of life and i hate to see it so much with those 'pro life saviors'. ill leave it at that.

 

[MBG]

Because some under 30 yo want to ctb there should not be anywhere on the internet a resource for the rest of us to share information, thoughts and ideas? facepalm

 

[lachrymost]

i also find ironic how he especially focus on this cake123 with so much hostility, stating that they're pretending to be a young woman and that since they're overly active on SS -according to his fallacious scenario you can watch from 18m56s of the video- surely means they're actually a criminal or a psychopathic old man behind the screen. but this rhetoric only fits his pro life agenda.

[...]

Excellent argument. It's one I thought of, too. Definitely one of the posts I hope T-Cruel or a few of his pro-life commenters read. They love to say anyone serious about suicide would just do it. Which side are they on again?

 

[betternever2havbeen]

He's got his mug on a video about Kenneth Law as well-the video actually says "after his own loss (Tantacrul) in England ordered the poison to see how easy it would be" like WTF the guy who died that he did a video about had nothing to do with Kenneth Law-he didn't take SN! How can he claim any loss-he was just someone who followed him online who he didn't know. What a joke!

 

[Arihman]

The irony of all this is that if these assholes agreed to accepting a waiting period as a compromise, not only would suicidal people have their freedom still respected, but said people might actually decide to endure life due to being aware that it is a choice, and not a prison sentence. This in turn would also arguably lessen the suffering caused by the loss of a loved one, and to illustrate that, let's imagine 2 scenarios:

A) John commits suicide without speaking to anyone due to fear of being forced to live and institutionalized. Then, if he succeeds, John's body is suddenly found by family members, maybe in a mutilated state, or after some other violent-looking death (e.g hanging). Family and friends (maybe even strangers if the death was violent) are traumatized by the scene, or bybthe news of John's death, as well as by the sudden loss of their loved one. If he fails due to using a risky method, his life will possibly improve enough in a more distant future. Or he will end up disabled, detained, or he will live in fear of attempting again due to what could happen. Family and friends are then (temporarily) spared the loss, but John is still consistently miserable, maybe even more than before, for one reason or another. As above, he might get better, or he might not, or he might actually get worse.

B) John lives in a society where access to effective methods is allowed after a waiting period. He proceeds to make a request to the authorities to be granted the right to die, not due to the state itself providing the service, but simply by contacting vendors or companies to be granted access to safe and peaceful methods.

He tells his family that he made a request for the right to die, and talks to them about his reasons for wanting to end it, while warning them that they might lose him after the waiting period. He undergoes the waiting period, during which it will, among other things, be verified if his will to die is consistent and settled, and not the result of a temporary crisis that could realistically be fixed with the help of therapy as well. John, however, really wants to die, as he has been suicidal for years. So, at the end of the year, he warns his family of his final decision, and he bids them goodbye. He dies peacefully, and the loved ones are saddened by his loss, but at least they had time to prepare for it, and they were spared the sudden sight of a dead body.

Or John decides that life isn't so unbearable after all, while being at peace due to knowing that, if things go really bad, he will always have a way out, and he won't have to hide his intentions from anyone.

Now, which of these 2 scenarios would cause more suffering? I would have no doubt. So why is SS even a thing? Because scenario B, the one that would make SS arguably obsolete, isn't a thing yet, nor is it generally accepted by suicide prevention advocates. So I wonder, who is actually at fault here for being the cause of the worst scenario, including more suffering for those who are left behind? Pro-life advocates or pro-choice advocates? If the former want to help, as well as reduce suffering, maybe they should consider making scenario B a real thing.

To make an analogy, it would be like being unable to divorce from your spouse in case the marriage goes to shit, even after you tried to make it better VS being able to divorce when you're unhappy with each other. Which situation would cause you less anxiety? I bet the second one. And marriage is just ONE part of life. Yes, it doesn't cause as much suffering to end it as it does to lose a loved one, but there is also another key difference.

Which is that we didn't decide to be born, which is also why it is so important to have the legal Right to Die. Anything else is nothing but slavery and cruelty, and THIS is what is truly cruel and ethically reprehensible.

 

[yukii]

Truly a great response to Tantacrul's video in my opinion. I watched it through and it does nothing more than talk bad and slander this website. We suicidal people are suicidal for a reason, and this website exists as a result of nothing more than suicidal people banding together for each other. Tantacrul, who has never felt the true agony of living such a miserable life, just wants nothing more than to tear apart the very last support system for some of us here.

Although it may be true that people here may have given ways and methods on how to kill themselves, we are not actively encouraging it, we merely provide the method. If people here can find happiness in their own life and stop being suicidal, that's great, but it's never as simple as that. We already know the amount of pain that each other goes through, and there's nothing wrong with wanting to die after losing all reason to live. It's just like how when people are already guaranteed death from sickness, or if animals are already suffering from an ailment, we will put them out of their misery by giving them a quick and painless death. There is not much reason not to do the same for us if we are already suffering the same amount as said animals or people.​

 

[Wyldfyre4948]

He doesn't really understand what is going on here. When you're on the outside looking in you don't see things the same as others. I can say flying a plane is easy based out watching videos of pilots flying. Nobody I know understands what I'm going through because they don't know what is going on in my head. Everyone has their own baggage and deals with it differently.

People like Tantacrul think they're saving people but all they're doing is making people suffer needlessly. Me dying will not have any bearing on him so maybe he shouldn't concern himself with that. This is just a waste of time on his part to try and draw attention to something that isn't affecting him.

 

[Arihman]

He doesn't really understand what is going on here. When you're on the outside looking in you don't see things the same as others. I can say flying a plane is easy based out watching videos of pilots flying. Nobody I know understands what I'm going through because they don't know what is going on in my head. Everyone has their own baggage and deals with it differently.

The problem with this, though, is that it implies that if some people did live through the same struggles while being against suicide, they could easily tell you: "see, I experienced the same thing, and I don't want to be allowed to kill myself. Therefore, suicide is wrong". And indeed, people on Twitter or Reddit opposing this forum and suicide in general are often suicidal themselves, with some of them having recovered, and they use their own improvement as proof that everyone (save perhaps for the most extreme cases) can get better, thus claiming authority to speak for everyone else.

Now, their reasoning is wrong, because even if you touch the same feelings, not everyone wants to do what it takes to recover, and tou can't force yourself to want it, because, to quote Schopenhauer, you can do what you want, but you can't want what you want.

Also, if one wants to talk about causing suffering to those who are left behind, it should also be taken into account that your blood footprint is also erased upon dying, since we all harm other beings, animals and humans alike, just by existing.

 

[Memnon]

The youtuber Tantacrul, also known in this forum as @Jonels, finally recorded a video about this community, in which he slandered and insulted our members and I've decided to respond to him directly. He has been obsessed with this forum for the last few weeks, creating alt-account after alt-account to force his narrative on other people. A little reminder on how all of this started, back in November 2022.









These are some snippets of his posts before I kicked him from this community. I made pretty clear in that thread that he is allowed to use this forum and express criticism towards this forum as long as it's fair and in good faith. It's obvious from the posts above that this wasn't the case so I gave him the boot. As a result of that, he announced that he would make a video about this forum. It's pretty obvious that all of this is done solely because he wants to cause damage to this community because we didn't give him a platform for his immature behavior. And look, Tantacrul, you might not mention me and this forum by name but I'll mention you by name.

Chapter one. The real philosophy of this website
[responding to "How does the site work?", "The philosophy of this site"]

What's the purpose of this forum? Obviously Tantacrul isn't really interested in portraying this forum in a fair light, the video he made obviously doesn't have the intention to start a discussion about the moral implications of this forum with fair arguments. It's a direct response of us banning him for repeatedly(!) violating the rules back in November when he insulted the community and claimed we are reponsible for the death of another person. It's supposed to be another hitpiece, similiar to the one in December 2021 from the NYT.

I already explained this here but the purpose of this forum is to provide a safe space for suicidal or struggling people in general to discuss deeply personal topics without censorship. That's the most straight-forward answer. I would add that this forum also provides a space to talk about these subjects without a forced narrative and that's one of the reasons why this place is so appealing to so many people. If you talk about your problems with anyone out there, it always comes with restrictions. If you say a little bit too loud that you are suicidal, you have to expect severe backlash and in the worst case, involuntary hospitalisation. I'll get to this point later, this is gonna be a very detailed response to the accusations directed at this community.
Another aspects what makes this forum so appealing to so many people is the fact that you can talk about your suicidality in this place without the risk of intervention. Instead, you receive honest compassion and empathy because we're all mind-liked people. We all suffer together in this place and we're all respecting each others boundaries. And that's important because I didn't experience that out there, I simply didn't. And we talk to each other with an even ground, which isn't the case when you talk to a psychiatrist for example, there is a very different power dynamic in such conversations than here. And this aspect of the forum, which has caused so many people to stay, hasn't even been mentioned once. This forum saves lives, without a doubt.

And there are people in this community that have been suffering for years for various reasons and unlike Tantacruls narrative, this community doesn't just consist of young people who are impulsive and eager to engage in harmful behavior without much thought. Tantacrul doesn't understand that nobody becomes suicidal in a vacuum. We all have valid reasons to be in this forum. He pretends that people are lured into this community for no reason and then convinced to kill themselves just for fun. That's obviously not true, I don't even know where to start when I want to debunk this claim. But reading through the registration queue and the posts in this forum from new members makes very clear to me that most members who come to this place have a long experience with mental or physical health problems. And if someone comes to this place, they specifically seek out a forum with our philosophy, for a reason. Let's make one thing clear, people register in this place voluntarily because they have needs they want to address in this forum. And that's okay.

Here are some scientific articles digging into the nature of this forum and you will realize rather quickly that scientists have called this community pro-choice repeatedly in the past. These articles provide a very nuanced insight into this community and I appreciated the work that's been done.

UBIRA ETheses - The social and psychological work of metaphor: a corpus linguistic investigation

https://thesis.unipd.it/bitstream/20.500.12608/42144/1/Sartori_Elisa.pdf

Now, let's dig into the next claim.
You claim that this forum consists of 4 philosophies around the nine minute mark.
1. Nihilism.
2. Anti-natalism
3. Pro-mortalism
4. Libertarianism

While the first two philosophies are actually quite common in this forum, pro-mortalism and libertarianism isn't. There might be individual members who have libertarian or efilist beliefs but to say that these are dominant philosophies as you claim is absurd. There is a reason why nihilism and anti-natalism are common themes in this forum, it's because depressed people tend to have a more negative outlook on life compared to the rest of the population. It's quite natural actually and it's not really a surprise that this community tends to be more nihilistic compared to the average population. And anti-natalism, which is also more common in this community, is a belief that's shared in this forum because many of us didn't have the best parents and sometimes, our own parents contributed to our suffering. But I'll go into details about this later.

I don't know why you claim pro-mortalism is a dominant philosophy in this forum, it's not. Again, there might be individual posters who hold a pro-mortalist belief but that's in no way representative for the entire community. And that's really important because you use this framing over the course of the entire video to portray this forum as some kind of cult that pushes people into suicide because we supposedly gain satisfaction from doing so. That's a lie. Most members here recognise that ending your life is a serious act and shouldn't be done without severe introspection. But we regularly applaud and celebrate when members announce that they're leaving the forum because they have recovered. That's a good thing. Shouldn't that be obvious? Regarding libertarianism, you seem to confuse a fundamental basic human right like self-determination for libertarianism and I don't know why how you came to that conclusion. For me, it tells me a lot about your ignorance around this topic. The right to die is a human right and the ECHR has agreed with me on that topic repeatedly.

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And that's the most shared value in this forum: self-determination, you being the only decision maker when it comes to matters that affect your welfare. And for many of us in this forum, we consider the right to die a human right. This has nothing to do with libertarianism as you claim but everything with individual autonomy, those are very fundamental values of every civilisation. And you live in the UK, right? So I wonder, why don't you value the right to die as a fundamental right? Do you disagree that people should have the right to make deeply personal decisions about their own life without interference of the state? That would be a regressive idea. Are you regressive, Tantacrul? Do you want to go back to times where women and men didn't have the legal right to make their own decisions concerning their welfare? I don't really think so.

But your attempt to slander this forum as some kind of obscure cult already failed. I believe in the right to die as a human right. I think every person who consider their life unworthy of living for various reasons, and the most common reason is chronic mental and physical pain, should have a right to exercise their right to die without interference of the state. And this sentiment has just recently been reinforced by the Federal Consitutional Court of Germany, making clear in their court ruling that the right to die isn't "restriced to serious or terminal diseases or specific phases of life or of a disease". It would contradict the fact that the right to die "is rooted in human dignity" and therefore does "NOT require any additional explanation or justification". The court also made clear that the right to die "also includes the right to seek and use voluntarily offered help to do so and that's by far the most progressive court ruling to this day, validating the right to die as a basic human right.
It seems to me that your entire video is based on a misunderstanding of the right to die. You consider the right to die a controversial topic and people fighting for ways to exercise said rights must be malicious actors according to your video but that's not really the case if you do some research about the ethical consensus in various countries regarding suicide and assisted suicide too. That's very important. You claim that sharing ressources and information regarding ways to exercise our right to die is bad and evil, I say it's an act of compassion. Let's end this here and come back to this topic later.

Chapter two. What are my beliefs
[responding to "who is responsible for setting up this site?"]

You dedicate a lot of your video talking about my beliefs without actually knowing why I'm a member in this forum.
I'm a trans woman who has suffered their entire life. My childhood was ruined by neglectful parents and I've had a terrible upbringing. As a result of that I experienced suicidal ideation very early in my life. Being trans teached me that we live in a society that doesn't really give a fuck about marginalised people. That's why I have become a member in this forum. During the years I have realized that the right to die is a deeply neglected right, in the majority of the world it's surpressed and you're not really allowed to talk openly about suicide. If you want to know more about the stigma around mental health, just talk to a few members of this forum and ask them why they are active in this forum.
I'm secular. I don't believe in any religion. And I consider the right to die when you're suffering so much that you can't take it any longer a compassionate and empathic position. I think people like you who fear monger about this forum and take valid criticism to the extreme are not acting in good faith. You claim this forum has anything to do with inceldom. If you did some research, you would know that inceldom isn't really a common theme in this forum. You will find so many different groups with different backgrounds in this community, we're actually quite diverse and people are here for very different reason. We're also very heterogenic when it comes to ideology. You claim we're a cult and that we all believe in the same thing. That's not really true. We disagree on so many topics. Some members are left-wing, some are right-wing, some are socially conservative and some are more liberal. I had so many political discussions with people who had a different opinion than me and that's okay. We don't really have any common goals in this forum. The only thing that truly connects us is the need for a place to talk about deeply personal topics without censorship and a forced narrative and the idea that we should have a right to make deeply decisions without intervention of a third party. And that's it.

Here is the deal. I've been suicidal my entire life. I'm not just an admin, I'm a member myself. I'm a human. And I'm trans. I know how it feels to be trapped in this place. I know how it feels to suffer. I know how it feels when nobody seems to understand you. I know how it feels when you can't open up to anybody because you fear judgemental reactions and involuntary hospitalisation when you just say the wrong words. And I know the dire need to find relief from pain. Do you, Jonels? You, who claims to speak for all the suicidal people out there, do you represent their interests and their needs? Really?

Chapter three. Are we a cult?
[responding to "Don't seek help", "A note about cults", "Malicious actors"]

You claim that this community is a cult, giving us three indicators that this is the case.

First, a cult has a "highly peculiar" alternative ideology, which runs contrary to mainstream - you claim that applies to us.
Second, a cult has "ridicilous hostility" towards mental health professionals and the idea of treatment.
Third, a cult is notorious for cutting people off from their support networks.

I mean, honestly, these are quite vague and I haven't seen a clear definition of a cult yet that would match the purpose of this forum. You could apply the first point to any community that whose ideals aren't mainstream yet and especially with the combination of the second or even the third point, I see a common theme. You know, I'm a trans woman. And there is a long history of the media misrepresenting who we are. And you're doing a similiar thing right now. I mean, let's look at some headlines, right?

How long can the cult of transgenderism last?

www.catholicworldreport.com

The Cult of Transgenderism

The Cult of Transgenderism:My Brother's Crisis of Identity in an America Gone MadBy "Lisa" Last year, my brother

frc.org

The Trans Cult

A few years ago, three things happened in the course of a single week in my life. First, a friend told me about a letter her daughter, then 11, had received from her closest summer-camp friend. The girl had some big news: She was now a boy. Then, another mother told me she and her […]

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There are prominent vocal right-wingers who use exactly the same points to go after trans people. They call us the LGBT cult, they claim we groom children.

Libs of TikTok Goes on Tucker to Call LGBTQ Community a ‘Cult’ with ‘Evil People’ Who Want To Groom Kids

Fox News host Tucker Carlson sat down with the formerly anonymous creator Chaya Raichik, who declared the "LGBTQ community" has become a "cult."

www.mediaite.com

The Problem With How We Talk About Grooming

Allegations against Broadway star Alice Ripley, as well as a recent story about Millie Bobby Brown, sparked discussion about "grooming."

www.rollingstone.com

Tucker Carlson and Libs of TikTok Spread Transphobia for the Holidays

Libs of TikTok creator Chaya Raichik called the LGBTQ community a "cult" and pushed more baseless grooming rumors on 'Tucker Carlson Today.'

www.rollingstone.com

It's exactly the same thing. If you apply some bad faith, you can make any movement look bad with the right framing. And that's you're doing right now. Congrats Tantacrul, you learned from the best. Take very vague descriptions of a cult and apply them without any nuance and consideration for context to the entire community and ooops, we look like the bad guys.

What do you know about me? Nothing. But you have no problem smearing me as a bad-faith actor, as someone who simply acts on bad intentions. I mean, that's a common theme, you know. I belong to many subcultures that have endured the same slander. I'm transgender, that's why I immediately knew where your narrative is coming from. Do you see how the media hounds us trans people? The way you talk about this community of struggling people comes from the same place of judgement. We're victims, not perpetrators. You're just a different color of judgement. This time you're not lashing out against trans people who supposedly groom vulnerable people, you're lashing out against suicidal people who supposedly do the same. Suicidal people who appreciate this forum, people who voluntarily seeked this community as a source of support. And don't they have a right to have a safe space without the forced narratives, the same bullshit you're pulling right now on suicidal people? Oh no, "we need to save them", right? We need to get the nanny state to take down this community, right? That's what you're doing right now but you're not speaking for anyone. You're only speaking for yourself and your language is bigotry.

Next, you you said this community is an echo chamber of negative thoughts and nihilistic view points and you claim to prove that with how many examples? 5 posts? 6 posts? Are these representative examples of the entire community? You mentioned "Cake123" who has several thousand posts but why are they representative of the entire community? You're cherry picking members who suit your narrative, we have members in this forum with even more posts who disagree with that particular member. I just want to make something clear. We have 1'700'000 posts in this forum and we have over 26'000 members and you pick a few anecdotal(!) cases, intentionally leaving out important context to paint a narrative I've already debunked repeatedly before, for example when I responded to the NYT article. So if you think debunking your video is gonna be difficult, you're mistaken, Tantarcul. As I just said, we have several thousand members who came to this place because it gave them something. Do you speak for them? You claim this forum has 10 million monthly visitors on average, doesn't that send a message to you, Tantacrul? Do you really speak for people who are struggling or are you just merely pretending to be talking for them? Maybe that's the problem. Let's make one thing clear, you are talking about suicidal people and not(!) for them. You haven't really engaged with this community in good faith and maybe that's the reason why people rather come to us? Who would want to seek support from someone who slanders 25k suicidal people, people who are literally suffering so much, as a cult of predators? That's so telling. It's always the same with you people, it's only judgemental toxic slander. Every single time and you always think it's so brilliant...

There are several scientific studies researching this forum and none of them describe this community as pro-mortalist. We might have individual members, vocal members who subscribe to an efilist worldview but then again, this is a forum for adults so shouldn't they have a right to speak their mind? That's the point of this forum, right? Being able to speak your mind in a safe space, right? That's absolutely the contrary of a cult. And all the active members who clearly disagree with me on various subjects prove that point.

Next, you take one case of someone who has been convicted and sentenced for doing things to other people outside of this forum and imply that we are in some way responsible for this. Again, predators exist in every community.

MySpace, Facebook attract online predators

If you don't know what it means to “facebook” someone, then odds are you don't have any young people in your house who do it all the time. It means to look for details about a person on any of the booming Internet sites where people post details about themselves. It's hugely popular, but police...

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Playstation Pedophiles « Filtering Facts

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They're on Facebook, Youtube, Twitter, they are on Twitch, they have been on MySpace - pretending that this has anything to do with this forum just proves you're ignorant about the nature of the internet. Yeah, this forum does attract a few bad apples due to the nature of this forum but keep in mind, you have have one(!) conviction for a forum with 25k members that has existed for over 5 years and the conviction itself has nothing to do with the purpose of this community. This guy deserved to get punished for violating other people for sexual pleasure. I have no problem saying that. But are predators overrepresented in this community or are you just framing this forum in a particularly bad way with one singular case of a crime? Again, this community has 25k members. How representative is your little anecdotal case then? Not very representative at all, am I right?
Yeah, that's what I thought. Of course a community like ours that has vulnerable people (which doesn't translate to "no individual autonomy" btw) attracts bad apples. If we have reasonable doubts about someones intention, we reserve our right to boot them from the community. But you can't reads minds, that's why you're assuming I'm a bad-faith actor, and I can't read minds, that's why I don't know the intentions of people who come to this community. It's as simple as that. Of course I could ban anyone I consider dubious but who wants to be in a community where I single-handedly rule who is allowed to be here and who isnt?

Chapter four. Protecting the vulnerable
[responding to "protecting the vulnerable"]

You bring up the fact that people need to agree that they are of sound mind when they use the website. You quote a professor who said "People... take their own lives when they can see no end to their pain, when they feel trapped by it and that there is no way. Like physical pain, there is only so much mental pain that we can withstand and, when we reach our limit, something has to give. Sadly, for too many people, it is life that gives".

What an absurd quote. First of all, it implies that any kind of pain is temporary and that relief from pain is never an option if it results in someone's decision to exercise their right to die. I think your quote doesn't actually delegitimize the forum, it legitimizes it, making clear that some pain is so difficult to endure that providing relief in the form of death is an act of mercy. That's the key philosophy behind assisted suicide. What's the problem here? How does that relate to the forum?

And you criticise that we don't protect vulnerable people enough. Well, luckily I already addressed that talking point in a previous thread. Being vulnerable doesn't mean you are unable to make rational decisions, see this study:

Mental capacity in psychiatric patients: Systematic review - PubMed

Mental capacity can be reliably assessed. The majority of psychiatric in-patients have capacity, and socio-demographic variables do not have a major impact but clinical ones do.

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

I have to reject your entire premise based on that scientific study. I think vulnerable people have a right to individual autonomy, so they also have right to make decisions they consider appropiate for the current situation. We both know protecting "vulnerabel people" is a scape goat to go after all people who are struggling, it's a deeply regressive notion, it's an extension of the "think of the children"-fallacy and it comes from a social-conservative interpretion of liberty. I don't even know why you bring up that topic in the first place, it's not a topic specific to this forum, the question if vulnerable people should roam the internet freely without any protections is a conversation we should have when we talk about safety on the internet in general and if it's okay to infringe on the individual autonomy of adults in certain situations. But as I said, I reject your premise and the study I've linked seems to agree with me.

You're also implying that a distressed mental state is only temporary but how do you know? We had member in this forum who experience strong depression and suicidality for years, myself included by the way. What's the point of that talking point? We simply don't know if someone can recover from their struggle. I know a lot of people can't. Are we just gonna throw them under the bus and prolong their life indefinitely even when they scream and yell for relief? Is that a compassionate position?

As I said, you shouldn't pretend to talk for suicidal people. You don't. You have no idea about the subject matter and you should have sticked to music.
How do you even know if people who register in this community don't have the mental capacity to use this forum? It's just an assumption, nothing else. I think people who specifically seek out the content of this forum know what they want. And most people here don't sound like they're in some kind of episode as you suggest. The vast majority of members can describe very well why they are here. If you just spent a little bit of time here instead of being a judgemental dork, you would realize that we have plenty of members who have been struggling for years without relief. And you're essentially sitting on your chair, probably not knowing what it means to suffer, and you scream you want more, you want more? More of what? More suffering? And you think that's the compassionate position?

Chapter five. Instruction threads and the "marketplace"
[responding to "the instructions thread", "the marketplace"]

You're implying we work with Exit. It's a conspiracy theory. The forum doesn't make any profit, period. Your claim that this forum is illegal in most countries is therefore incorrect. Nobody is allowed to sell anything on the forum. If we find out, we take action. Your claim that the forum works as a marketplace is therefore false as well. You shouldn't listen so much to Kelli. She doesn't understand anything and she is simply spreading misinformation to make the forum look twice as bad. But I'll talk about her later.

Not a good look, Tantacrul. The website isn't illegal, that's why we're still here. There have been countless attempts to deplatform us, don't worry. Shout as much as you want.

Chapter six. Bobby C
[responding to "assisting those below 18"]

You claim that we knew who Bobby C was. We don't. It's as simple as that. It's all just really a fallacy. He was a member of your community too, right? So I could ask, hey why didn't this guy feel comfortable enough to open up in your server if you're such a great guy? I could play the same blame game but that doesn't really bring us anywhere. We can all point the fingers all day long and pretend this forum the only factor when it comes to someones decision to make a tragic choice. That's not the case and you know that. I'm just curious, why did you start caring about that guy when it was too late? Do you even care or is this video just an attempt to virtue signal what a great person you are? Your choice.

Chapter seven. Responsible reporting

Right at the very start, (at the 4 minute mark) Tantacrul claims that he wants to follow guidelines on media reporting about suicide and that's why he claims he doesn't want to mention the name of the website. But there is a just a problem. He already liked and followed several people on Twitter who have the name of the website in their bio. So it's unavoidable that his community will find its way to this forum.

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If someone from his audience wants to dig a little bit deeper into the forum that's mentioned in his video, it's not gonna be very difficult to find it, thanks to him following people who use social media to spread awareness about this community. So let's make one thing clear. He intentionally exposes his audience to this forum, I consider this a little bit hypocritical. Just to make clear who acts responsible in this situation. And here is the thing, based on the screenshots you've included in your video, people will find this forum. What do you think happened every time when a news outlet covered the existence of this forum? It increased our member count.

It was a big mistake to talk about this forum because as I'm writing this thread, just a few hours after you published your video, we already had thousands of guests. The registration queue spiked, depressed people from your community want to join our forum. I'm asking you right now, given you think this is a very bad place: can you live with the guilt, when your audience makes accounts in this forum, a place that's apparently so bad, it needs political legislation to be taken down?

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"Everyone's got their priority I suppose."

Your goal to follow media guidelines already backfired. And if you really think your video is gonna change anything, after the NYT already covered us on their front page, you're mistaken. I can defend my position, this community and the existence of this forum with a clear conscience. I've done this repeatedly in the past. And you know why I did that? Because I believe in something. I believe in individual autonomy and I believe in compassionate treatment of struggling people, so much, that I dedicate a large junk of my life for that cause. I don't spend a lot of time taking down what other people have built, I spent my time maintaining this community because I believe it's a good thing. And what are you doing? You're making a video concern trolling about this forum but I can assure you, if you read the messages I've read of people who were bedridden, haunted with so much physical pain they couldn't even leave their bed anymore, you'd think twice about posting such a video, throwing these people under the bus. No, if you have talked to these people, you would become an activist for compassionate treatment of these people and that includes the right to die. Because, here is the deal, for some people, the only relief from pain is death. That's why in my country we legalized assisted suicide to the fullest extend. The right to die is a neglected topic, almost every single country outlawed assisted suicide but there is a need for it, and that's why this forum has legitimacy and that's why people seek to participate in this forum. It's all about neglected needs. I live in one of the few countries that legalized assisted suicide. You don't. You don't want the forum to exist? Then get to work and make sure the people that write desperate messages to me don't have to use this forum to find peace in their last moments of their life.

Chapter eight. Who are the opponents of Sanctioned Suicide?
[responding to "taking action"]

A lot of your information is based on claims from people you call "grieving family members". The spearhead of these grieving parents is Kelli. She leads FixThe26 and is the most vocal opponent of this forum. I have thought about this for a long time but given that these people still successfully pretend to be victims, I have to break my silence about the behavior of these people. FixThe26 and the woman who is behind that organisation has a history of harassing, slandering, stalking, mocking and threatening members of our community. When she doxed Mahakali, a well-known member here, posting a picture of her on Twitter, it enraged the entire community. Let's take a look at her actions.

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I have censored the image. Kelli didn't censor it. It was an attempt to silence a critic. Someone who has been a member in the forum. I talked to Mahakali and she confirmed that this instance here greatly contributed to her suffering. This is enough to push someone over the edge. She died one month later.

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Here she encouraged physical violence on the past site owner, saying he should get publicly executed. Lynch mob. This is a woman that's highly unstable and she has every reason to spread misinformation and outright lies about this community. I know you didn't know that, Tantacrul. But maybe you should have done your research. You think I made it up? Just recently her account twitter.com/fixthe26 got suspended, finally.

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She engaged in so much targeted harassement and abuse. There are more victims. And all the other family members you included in your video, I'm not gonna name them to protect their identity, have engaged in similiar behavior. Someone celebrated when a member of our community committed suicide after months of abuse and bullying she directed towards that member. They love to play with the identity, leak names. They play the intimidation games really well. Jeremy, an ex-member who has done an interview for Fixthe26, has stalked and harassed a trans member of our community. The list is long. But this thread isn't about these people, I don't play these games. This thread is about your inability to do proper research and take everything they say for granted to craft a narrative that's dangerous to say the least.

But here is the deal. These people aren't victims. They didn't take their own life. They're predators. And it's important to know that not one single "grieving parent" so far has condemned what Kelli has done under that username, the opposite is the case. They all engage in the same kind of harassement towards members of this community. Kelli has already created a new account, twitter.com/SanctionedStop. She is actively cirumcumventing her Twitter ban. So once again, these people weaponized grief. They have spread so many lies about this community and when I took leadership of this community, they did the same to me.

And look. I'm not gonna tell you what to think. I'm a free thinker, not a cultist as you claim. You can make up your own mind. But you should ask yourself, why are the most vocal opponents of this forum predators who harass and stalk individuals like that?
Read this thread if you want to know more about these people and their shady behavior.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/apology-to-ss-re-nyt-article-tessb-harriet.103328/

Last but not least, these screenshot of me supposedly attacking these people doesn't display anything I have written. As I said, these people have every reason to spread misinformation. Every time someone takes time to criticise them on Twitter, they claim it's me. As if I don't have better things to do than create account after account after account. And if you knew what else they think to know about me, you would know that they don't know anything about me. They're not gonna like that, but that's the truth.

Chapter nine. Online safety bill
[responding to "taking action"]

I already wrote a thread about this and if you value freedom of speech and privacy, you shouldn't support it.

https://sanctioned-suicide.net/thre...ed-in-online-safety-bill.104247/#post-1792545

Chapter ten. The mental health system
[responding to "Please seek help. You are not alone."]

Last but not least you finally address the flaws in our system. I'm impressed. Your video takes 46 minutes to watch and you dedicate a few seconds when the video is about to end about the mental health system. Did you address coercision as a common practice? Human rights violations? No. You just claim there are a few problems and that's it, for example that many of us can't talk about being suicidal because we get shamed. But do you even understand the scope of the problem? It's not just about shaming people, which is one of the reasons people would rather come to this forum to discuss deeply personal issues, it's about coercision on a systemic level. Human rights violations. You can get locked up if you tell your doctor that you're suicidal. Talking about your suicidality is a game with fire, I have played it before and you can burn yourself really badly.

So when you claim that this forum or the community has cult-like behavior, referring to members of this community spreading negative sentiments towards mental health institutions or their parents, there is a fucking reason. First of all, I never did any of that, okay. I'm not aware that we are discouraging people from talking to important people in their lives about their problems. But we also need to look at the circumstances of most members in this community. I just recently launched a poll, asking members if their parents contributed to their suffering because my parents certainly played their role when it comes to my struggles. And according to that poll, around 75%(!) of all respondents said their parents contributed in some way to their struggles. So wouldn't it only be a natural theme of this community that members distrust their parents in some way? You don't think there is a very personal reason why so many of us are anti-natalists? And most importantly, many of us dealt with traumatic experiencs around involuntary hospitalisation, then again, wouldn't it be only natural to have concerns around that, especially when they neglect our individual autonomy and our bodily integrity, which are very fundamental concepts of any civilisation? I had close friends of mine describe very horrible and traumatic experiences, which happened as a result of involuntary hospitalisation, some even said they would rather die(!) then ever go back. Maybe you're simply arguing from a position of ignorance, Tantacrul. And maybe you said all of these things about this community because you don't really care about the well being of suicidal people, about the horrible human rights violations we have to endure in these institutions when we open up. Maybe that's the reason why all of that was so easy for you to say but you forget that the people you blame are the same people you claim to care so much about. Odd, isn't it. Again, if people in this community have a negative opinion of their family members or of their doctors, there is certainly a reason for that.

And about mental health, here is a tweet from someone who has recently committed suicide. She was a suicide prevention activist.


Maybe, the problem with mental health isn't just that you get shamed a little bit if you open up, you donk. Look here.

'Toxic culture' of abuse at mental health hospital revealed by BBC secret filming

BBC Panorama goes undercover and finds patients being humiliated, verbally abused and bullied by staff.

www.bbc.co.uk

Maybe that gives you a hint? Come on.

And look, I also want to get one point across. No amount of therapy fixes physical or mental pain, political discrimination and financial problems. There are some problems you can't fix with the mental health system because we live in a society that doesn't really care about struggling people. You want some examples from a trans woman?

Oklahoma Could Force Trans People Under 26 Years Old To Detransition Medically

A new bill has been filed in Oklahoma that would ban gender affirming care under age 26. Republican states are moving towards banning transition entirely.

erininthemorn.substack.com

UK government blocks Scotland's new gender recognition law | CNN

The UK government has blocked a new law intended to allow trans people in Scotland to change their legal gender without a medical diagnosis -- a controversial move that has added fuel to the already highly emotional debate over Scottish independence.

www.cnn.com

So you're essentially defending that system with that video and blaming us for speaking out. You're a part of the problem. I live in a country with a high rate of involuntary hospitalisation and it's not cool. You really need to be careful with your words if you value your freedom, especially when you're suicidal and talking to a doctor.

And let's make some things clear, before I end my response to your poorly researched video. You ended your video on this note:
"Every step closer can connect someone to life and the help they want, sometimes those steps are big but sometimes, all it takes is a smile"

That's literally how you decided to end that video, your most meaningful video ever - with an empty platitude. Do you think people in this community who are in so much pain that they literally want to end their lives want your smile? It just proves all over again that you have no idea about the suffering that's happening in this community. You're blind and you'll never be able to understand. Do you think that was a smart way to end the video? It wasn't. You're the perfect example of everything that's wrong with this society. You just showed us every problem with suicide, the way we handle it both as a societal problem but also as a human right. And it shows me you don't care.

My compassion for people doesn't end with suicide prevention. Suicide prevention without addressing systemic issues that causes suidiality in the first place is meaningless. There are so many problems in this world, repeating the suicide hotline every time you talk about suicide is merely a bandaid but it doesn't fix anything. I want more people to live happy and decent lives but those who want a way out, should have a way out. 99% of the world outlawed assisted suicide and you point the finger to that one forum that that breaks the stigma around the right to die?

I'm done with my response. I think I made my case. And I think I was very clear about my opinion. It took a lot of time to write that. Thanks for reading.

If it takes that many words to explain how you're correct then it is obvious that you are incorrect.

 

[Tesha]

If it takes that many words to explain how you're correct then it is obvious that you are incorrect.

If it takes that few words to get banned, then it's obvious you're incorrect.

 

[lachrymost]

If it takes that many words to explain how you're correct then it is obvious that you are incorrect.

The most anti-intellectual way to say "TLDR"?

 

[JustSomeoneOnline]

thank you, thank you so much for making this. i watched his video and i just couldnt make it past the first couple of minutes. i tried to find a single comment that might defend us but it was just piles upon piles of praise for him and people insulting this community.

it makes my blood boil just reading it.

 

[KAZ-2Y5]

What will we do if this website is taken down?

That's why I made a word document with everything I need to remember in case that happens. I suggest everyone does this.

 

[Leagueofgentlemen]

Does anyone else find his voice really cold and clinical and creepy?

And for the record, this place actually prevents a lot of self harm because a lot of the stupider ideas are shut down by knowledgeable people here, like I wanted to touch the third rail as I'm near to train tracks as I was very desperate but the reality was shown to be dangerous and likely to give life ruining injuries instead of killing. And he doesn't mention the recovery section.

 

[Lumenier]

I know I'm late as all hell to this party but my god, this was written so well that I think it may have turned me straight for this admin for a moment there.

 

[Unlovable98]

Tell me you've never been depressed or suicidal without telling me you've never been depressed or suicidal.

Its a common philosophy among those who've never faced the kind of suffering we all know all too well. Clearly nobody can be suicidal without being delusional! life is so great why would anybody ever want to die?!

 

[fetty]

Is the person you're talking about run a YouTube channel where he makes music or music making software or something of the like?

 

[Otto Mann]

Tantacrul's fantastic endorsement led me to discover this website. Great promo

 

[Kadaver]

Funnily enough I found SS through his video. I watched his video and really wanted a place where I could talk about suicide without being judged so I did some digging lol