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Arcanist
- Oct 28, 2019
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What is wrong with your body and face in your opinion exactly?I am sorry that you feel that way. I can't know how your life would have been if you were white. What I can say for me is that I am white and I have a high degree body dysphoria. Big part of the reasons why a am here. The body and face I desire are very distant from what I have, it doesn't have to do with getting more skinny or jacked. It has to do with bone structure so I will never have it. I wonder though, how can many people not have body dysphoria with instagram being that contant bombarding of perfect lives and bodies. And people will say "it's not real, they are also unhappy". I wish I was unhappy like them, in a luxurious hotel by some beach in greece with a natural blonde perfect face and body, not having to work for a day in their lives cause mamma and daddy + the income from their social media just for existing and showing off. They are paid to show off how perfect they are... how is that any fair, existencially speaking, with the rest of us ? They must be so unhappy, sure.
Personally, I have seen and heard of many occurrences where men on apps like grindr change their race discription from say asian to white, or change their profile pic to a white vs non white person of the same build and facial structure, and the white version gets over double the hits. That's why I know wanting white in the gay community isn't just an insecurity, but a wanting a real benefit.
And you are right there is no evidence that hot gay men are unhappy. It's just a cope used to tell ugly or non white people to shut them up.
I struggle to get dates due to my race. That's what feels so bad.Does anyone know if the OP of this post, Bodydysmorphia, is still alive?
I am sorry, and I know that being non-white and dating in the gay world is almost always harder. It's like being a double minority sort of. I am white and really struggling with dating in the gay world, so I know it must be hard for you. :(
I agree with you, and it makes me also super angry when I see these beautiful people with their social media, proudly displaying their hot bodies and seemingly raking in all this money. They are people, and they have their own problems too, so I try not to forget that. They are after all only showing us pictures when they appear happy, but we're only seeing snapshots, and not the whole reality of their lives. Of course they only want us to see them when they're in exotic places looking happy.
I struggle with body dysmorphia, but I can promise you, if SSRI's hadn't killed me sexually, I think I would probably have a boyfriend at this point, and my body dysmorphia would be easier to deal with. But it feels like SSRI's have ruined my life. I'm so tired of this bullshit.
It's also been shown in research studies that ugly people earn less, there is a wage gap between ugly and attractive people.