Women have changed more than men, from what I can tell.
Sure, some men are opening up more and being more vulnerable, but I don't know how much that is moving the needle.
Women, though... seem to still be using their old criteria like money and status but that has shifted since many women now have their own money and status so they "must" seek men with even more money/status than they would have in the past. Meanwhile, women seem to have also adopted more make criteria. In the past women cared less about a man's looks... but now they seem to care more. It was always shallow when men chose only on looks, and now women do the same thing... and that's hard to overcome suddenly without leaving a lot of men behind.
I get women being oppressed and held back for generations, in the US and in most of the world... I get there is some bounce-back when they get more freedom and not only want to exercise that but want to push the boundaries. Like, the famous interview with Justice Ginsberg who, when asked how many women she thought should be on the Supreme Court, she said nine. She continued that nobody thought it was weird to have all men, so why not have all women? And I get her sentiment... and IF all the best people at the time for the positions were women, I have ZERO problem with it. But... we had generations of putting unqualified or bad men in positions just because they were men even if there was a better female candidate... I would hate to see us swing the pendulum the other way and put an unqualified woman in place just to "stick it to the man." I hoped the quest for equality would be just that... equality. Lift women up and knock men down a peg. But there are a lot of people who seem to just want to turn things upside down as if that's any better.
Just like a LOT of good women have been historically overlooked and oppressed... I fear we could be headed towards a period of time where good men are overlooked and oppressed just to "make up" for things. I'm all for women having equal rights and equal power and being/doing anything they want in this world. I just wish that so many wouldn't be trying to turn the tables and be like the bad men of old. Also, this tends to make those men who still want to fuck over women even more determined to do so... because they are scared, and so the bad men are going to be worse men now, trying to "break" that "uppity" woman.
In a "perfect" world, we would still like people who don't like us... and it would still be difficult to make connections. But our society tends to make "difficult" into "nearly impossible" and "attainable" into "difficult" and everything is just a whole lot harder and more painful and discouraging than it really should be for us to find people and make connections.
Think when you are an innocent child, not yet scarred and corrupted by society... you could just walk up to another kid you see randomly and say "wanna play with me" or "wanna be friends" and they would. If you had fun you wanted to do it again, if you didn't then you were okay and asked someone else the next day. But ten years of being in the world after that, and exposure and understanding of how society seems to work... and young kids begin to form cliques and decide which kids are "better" than others and which kids "need" to be picked on and excluded... It starts when we are young, because we see how adults treat each other... and we mimic... and we see which adults seem to be in charge, and we mimic them more... and it goes on and on and on.
