I think I’m going to be alone forever because I’m the ugly fat girl.. are there any men who could ever love me?

[Higurashi415]

Not all of them. I didn't say all of them. There are many times more good ugly people than good pretty people. When they have the ability to easily get new friends or partners (because they are attractive and people don't automatically reject them), they can just shit on people's heads and treat them like garbage because a replacement is just around the corner. Some ugly people know the pain of such treatment and have a choice to either inflict it on others or never do it to anyone in hopes that it will get recognized by someone else someday. The latter method may work now to some extent but it won't in the next few years. There's just not many of us left.

Having a chip on your shoulder can definitely make you more bitter, I'm not so sure it's true. Could be, but I don't think it's that obvious.
Especially because there's a whole spectrum between being ugly, whatever that means, and being beautiful. I've not met many decent beautiful people in my life, but there's a WHOLE LOT of normal people around. Unremarkable by beauty standards.

Anyways beauty is overrated in these discussions, unless you're like 20 years old. If you're having issues with finding a partner (not you specifically, you in general) I don't think it's about beauty unless you're incomprehensively ugly.
If beauty was that important we'd all be beautiful in a couple of generations and that's clearly not happened.

 

[Dejected 55]

Yes. I've been getting the same from others. They are basically just sugarcoating what they are thinking: "You're not good enough for us! Have something we want from you!" and "Go away from me! Look for them somewhere else that's far away from me!".

Exactly. That reminds me... the multiple times women have told me how I would "make some woman happy" or "you are exactly the kind of guy who would make me happy" while they do not at all want to be with me. I was talking with one woman platonically, and I mean that. We just somehow got into a conversation at work and without any provocation or flirting from me... I had been confiding in my loneliness and such... she randomly offered something like, "You are exactly the kind of man who could ultimately make me happy." I didn't know what to do with that, especially since I knew she was married. She followed it up, though, with saying this wasn't a good time for her to think of anyone else because she was trying to rebuild her marriage after her husband had an affair.

So, here's the thing. This was an attractive woman, but I honestly wasn't flirting or thinking about her that way. She proffered the over-the-top "you could make me happy" line but immediately undercut it with, but I'd rather stick with my man who not only isn't as good as I just said you were BUT also he cheats on me and I need to make it better. What the actual hell? IF I had been attracted to her, that would have fucked me up. But I wasn't, so I just brushed past it.

 

[CuriousPotato]

Having a chip on your shoulder can definitely make you more bitter, I'm not so sure it's true. Could be, but I don't think it's that obvious.
Especially because there's a whole spectrum between being ugly, whatever that means, and being beautiful. I've not met many decent beautiful people in my life, but there's a WHOLE LOT of normal people around. Unremarkable by beauty standards.

Anyways beauty is overrated in these discussions, unless you're like 20 years old. If you're having issues with finding a partner (not you specifically, you in general) I don't think it's about beauty unless you're incomprehensively ugly.
If beauty was that important we'd all be beautiful in a couple of generations and that's clearly not happened.

I haven't been able to find many reasonable people when searching for them in person. It's been been just a big bag of selfish mammals.

"If beauty was that important we'd all be beautiful in a couple of generations and that's clearly not happened." >>> To that I'd say: Wait for it. Ever since tons of women started working a few decades ago, they no longer needed to depend on any man who showed interest in them. They gradually started getting very very picky about their (expensive) meal tickets and entertainment providers. By that I mean men. Too bad they think higher beauty means better partner. Many very old people figured out that's not the case.

 

[pain247]

Without a question there are guys out there looking to be loved just like you are looking. However you will not find them in a bar or in your home. Try church, community programs and similar.