Could you love an ugly person?

[Jen0804]

Looks don't matter to me nor does weight or income or assets. If you've got an ugly personality then that's something else. I love the outcasts in society.. the black sheep and forgotten ones. Those are the people in my friend circle

 

[Severen]

Looks don't matter to me nor does weight or income or assets. If you've got an ugly personality then that's something else. I love the outcasts in society.. the black sheep and forgotten ones. Those are the people in my friend circle

Well then you are quite unique. I used to be like you too but then I realized, the chances of me running into someone who doesn't have an ugly personality are like 1 out of 10000000000.

 

[Jen0804]

Well then you are quite unique. I used to be like you too but then I realized, the chances of me running into someone who doesn't have an ugly personality are like 1 out of 10000000000.

You are right, a lot of people do. Most people I encounter these days do have an ugly personality :/ I shut myself away to avoid them most of the time now

 

[Slenderman]

It seems that what others consider to be ugly is what physically attracts me so I dunno. I care about personality and shit but in the end they're all the same and I'm left disappointed lmao

 

[bayarea]

Yes, we'd have some related experiences i guess. i've been called ugly before and it's really sad how much looks matter... I'd definitely give others a chance before judging them

 

[262653]

I don't understand... Can I love her despite her ugliness or can I love her because of her ugliness? And what is love, again?

 

[Strumgewehr]

They like seeing you get angry... But if afterwards, you teach them a lesson. Then they will not like that. You need to hurt them and hurt them bad... And you need to make them fear you as if you are a demon from hell. If a dude SWATed me, he would have to leave the country to be safe because I don't have the $$$ to chase people all over the world... If I did though, he would have to CTB to escape me. I have this obsession with serving justice on people who committed crimes(what I consider crimes, I care nothing about what society sees as crimes because I don't care what sheeple and people who see me as a slave think) against me and I find it dishonorable to let people hurt me and get away with it. Letting it go, makes me feel like a dishonorable piece of shit coward. It goes against my code of honor. In your shoes, you could destroy his entire life easily if you wanted to. You were being merciful. The only reason I didn't destroy my father's life for being an abusive sociopath towards me when I was a child and a teen and for abandoning me is because, the memory of him being nice to me sometimes when I was a child, make it difficult and once he helped me out with money when I was 19. I remembered all the nice things he did for me and decided to be merciful.

Man! I wish I was a real man like you and not some pussy with a dick.

 

[262653]

By love you mean affectionate concern about another one's well-being (specify motive, if necessary), or an interest in potential boons another one could offer (carnal pleasures, data, gold, etc.) Either way I think I would, even I'm the one who considers that person ugly. Why would perceived person's ugliness be incompatible with perceived usefulness of that person? Looks and personalities I like are generally considered to be ugly.

But what is love, again? Here I took a few guesses.
"you are useful to me"
"you are useful to me and I want to fondly care about your well-being"
"you are useful to me and I want to fondly care about your well-being so that you are interested in mine too"
"I want to fuck you"
"I want you to become my partner in perpetuating our genes/lives/bloodline/etc."
"I've been commanded by hormones/neurochemicals/whatever to experience a deep affection for you"
Feel free to add/combine/edit/do nothing. (its a request, not a command.)

 

[Severen]

Man! I wish I was a real man like you and not some pussy with a dick.

What is stopping you?

 

[inconsequential]

Man! I wish I was a real man like you and not some pussy with a dick.

There is no such thing as, "a real man".

 

[Severen]

There is no such thing as, "a real man".

No. But there are cowards. And there are people who have no self esteem, no self respect so they just let people commit terrible crimes against them and get away with it. And for me, living like that would be like killing myself on the inside, 24/7. If I'm going to live life, then I will do so without being such a pathetic creature because I don't want to start hating myself. That is just making your life 10000 times worse.

 

[KadathianStr1d3r]

No not really. The "ugly" people i tried dating treated me like crap and kept pushing me to do things i was really scared of doing. Turns out the ones who pursue dating still usually go for desperates and they get alot of them most notably the vulnerable ones. I like somebody who is in the very least nice enough to look at, hygienic like a religion, fun without the trouble and somebody who is cool but can be honest when need be without becoming a monster. I really dont like abusive people and i swear there is far too many in the real world :(

 

[throwaway123]

This reminds me of a question i asked my former students:

"If given the choice, what would you prefer?

A) to be married to a person who was magically cursed to look ugly to every other person except yourself, but in reality, is the most beautiful person you have ever set eyes upon

B) or to be married to a sort of witch or warlock who casts an illusion to look beautiful to everyone else but yourself; in reality he/she is an ugly, almost grotesque creature.




Most of my students chose 'B'.

Needless to say, i was sorely disappointed.

You are a monk?

 

[Ko9]

I am ugly myself, but my theory over all is that you do not decide who you fall in love with.

 

[ImSorryEmma]

I have only loved one person besides my family my whole life and I believe she is the most beautiful person I had ever met so I don't know if she is considered ugly by your standards

 

[a.h]

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I think I must have an entirely different definition of ugly than everyone else. I would think that by definition it's impossible to (romantically) love someone that you deem ugly. Am I totally wrong on this? Would you enter into a relationship with someone who's 85 if only they had a fantastic personality? What if they were 400 pounds?

Am I shallow for not wanting a woman who's heavy enough to crush me or nearly as old as my mother would been?

If you love someone then he/she is the most perfect creature on earth no matter what. So it's impossible to love an ugly person.

I think that people mean that "ugly" is opposite of female/male models in looks in every way. The thing just is that there isn't in reality ugly people. We all get turned on by different things and see beauty differently. Often opposites attracts. Confidence is always attractive but with some humility.

I see unselfish, nice and genuine people always as beautyfull and I like them instantly. After my nde I started to see things that way even more. I lost my prejudices against everyone and liked everyone if they didn't hurt innocent animals and people etc.

 

[I’vehadenough]

I used to be gorgeous, then I turned horrifyingly ugly overnight. No one will date me unless they can't get any girls. I'm pretty on the inside, but no one cares about that. Hence, why I'm suicidal. So if you really mean what you say (doubtful) and don't mind dating an ugly woman, pm me

 

[Thanatos]

I have never and will never be truly loved. I'm not built for this world. There's only one girl I got very close with and I'd maybe even turn my life around for but barely even talk anymore. Too much work only to end up divorced and dead anyway. Plus I feel to much of a burden for anyone that I've broken up with girls over it even if they didnt feel mutual about it. I'm leaving soon and that's final.

 

[stupidmansuit]

No, because if they were super attractive, they wouldn't be interested in me, the only reason that person is looking to be 'loved' is because they're ugly and their options are slim to none, and they've developed their 'appealing' personally out of necessity. Human nature is just fucked on a fundamental level.

Make no mistake about it, if that ugly person with a great personality you decided to love woke up tomorrow attractive, the first thing they would do is dump your sorry ass.

 

[Dawn0071111]

The person Im killing myself over many thought he was ugly includig himself. I thought he was the hottest guy ever....

 

[woxihuanni]

If somebody is dating you and says they do not care about looks, they are saying that you are awfully ugly and they will never fall in love with you.

The thing with human consciousness is, it is hell by itself. Animals do not suffer like this, even if they cannot mate, it is not mind-destroying humiliation, and nobody is telling them to up their game in other areas in blatant hypocrisy.

 

[Baskol1]

Im going to be brutally honest and say no. For me look is very important, personality too, but anyone who says he doesnt care about looks is a liar.

 

[RememberWhatUCameFor]

there is a certain looks threshold that needs to be fullfilled

 

[Baskol1]

there is a certain looks threshold that needs to be fullfilled

Yes

 

[azucaramargo]

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I am a beautiful woman. I bid you I am one of the first among us to be preyed upon. I'm pretty sure it's because of my beauty and my smiley, warm personality. People do suck.

Lucky!!!!

 

[Wayfaerer]

Really depends. How ugly are we talking here? I could definitely love a 4/10 and maaaaaaybe a 3/10 if she were exceptional in other ways but any less than that is going to be a deal-breaker for me.

 

[I’vehadenough]

I am a beautiful woman. I bid you I am one of the first among us to be preyed upon. I'm pretty sure it's because of my beauty and my smiley, warm personality. People do suck.

What would you do if you suddenly got into an accident and your face got horribly disfigured wo any chance of recovery?

 

[Alchemist]

I actually have and I have been betrayed them. People can be shitty despite physical appearance.

 

[White_Room293]

No because most ugly people are ugly in the inside as well like most people on this Earth, so I'd rather just go for the sexy women. Because at least, I'm getting some eye candy out of it, instead of nothing.

Spend enough time with any man and you will fall in love with him no matter what unless there is something wrong with his body and he doesn't release any bacteria to infect you so the mating process can't begin.

Christ, I hope not. I know this might be rude but my friend is below average but I sleep with him because of convinence. I have no intention of falling in love and I don't want that in my life right now. I am sexual with most guys I meet in the same way so I would sleep with them just as much but that scares me. My friend seriously isn't that hot and I wouldn't want to fall in love with him. I mean if I think he's hot then it's fine and no one else's opinion matters but he's not. I really hope hormones don't blind me not including the horny hormones already affecting me already lol

 

[Lethe]

I couldn't love someone in general, lol.