burninghill
Specialist
- Dec 2, 2025
- 356
I kind of want to know others' opinions on this but I also just want to get it out.
I'm not a very open person at all, but when you're in a relationship it's unavoidable. I have a hard time masking my emotions and they come out quite obviously and outwardly.
Every time I open up to my boyfriend about my mental health, he would ask if 'everything was okay between us' and I understand that this probably comes from his own insecurity, but it's incredibly frustrating because it feels as if, as long as our relationship is okay, then things are fine. That's the way he would act anyway when I would respond with saying that it's nothing to do with our relationship, which is true.
Long story short I told him to cut that out, nicely of course.
Now it's translated into him just saying that he 'loves me no matter what', which is lovely!!! Of course. But he says nothing else. It feels along the lines of 'things will get better'. Like as long as he loves me then things are fine.
I don't know. I just feel like my emotions are constantly undermined by him not not necessarily in a malicious way, maybe he just doesn't know how to respond but it's really tiring. I've lived a long life full of people not caring about the way I feel and to feel so close yet so far away from real care is really upsetting.
I will have a conversation with him soon about it but tonight isn't the night for that.
I'm not a very open person at all, but when you're in a relationship it's unavoidable. I have a hard time masking my emotions and they come out quite obviously and outwardly.
Every time I open up to my boyfriend about my mental health, he would ask if 'everything was okay between us' and I understand that this probably comes from his own insecurity, but it's incredibly frustrating because it feels as if, as long as our relationship is okay, then things are fine. That's the way he would act anyway when I would respond with saying that it's nothing to do with our relationship, which is true.
Long story short I told him to cut that out, nicely of course.
Now it's translated into him just saying that he 'loves me no matter what', which is lovely!!! Of course. But he says nothing else. It feels along the lines of 'things will get better'. Like as long as he loves me then things are fine.
I don't know. I just feel like my emotions are constantly undermined by him not not necessarily in a malicious way, maybe he just doesn't know how to respond but it's really tiring. I've lived a long life full of people not caring about the way I feel and to feel so close yet so far away from real care is really upsetting.
I will have a conversation with him soon about it but tonight isn't the night for that.
