Is this weird? TW!! R@pe.

[vanillacherry]

In 2024, I was raped by a college guy my sister is friends with in my own bed. I was 16 and he was in his mid to early twenties.

I told some friends about it, and they're all angry on my behalf. But I've never revealed his whole identity. Just his first name. And I have this dreadful fear that sometimes they don't believe. At the same time, I don't really care. I just want to get on with my life. And I don't care if they believe me at this point. But I haven't done anything about it. I honestly just want to forget it happened more than anything. But one of my friends is skeptical. And that's what made me feel this absolute need to prove myself. Again, I don't think I'll do anything about it. Is this weird?

 

[CarbonBased]

No, it's not weird at all. What happened to you was horrible and I would totally feel the need for validation, especially from my friends, if I were in your situation. I can see that you don't seek vengeance, but having your experience doubted or denied must hurt as hell anyway

 

[tonicer]

I can see that you don't seek vengeance, ...

Why? So many rape victims don't want vengeance. I would want a chance to kill my rapist personally. If it was legal i would gladly kill all the rapists out there with my bare hands. It's second only to murder IMHO.

 

[CarbonBased]

Why? So many rape victims don't want vengeance. I would want a chance to kill my rapist personally. If it was legal i would gladly kill all the rapists out there with my bare hands. It's second only to murder IMHO.

Oh, I must've misunderstood you. You said that you 'don't really care' and that you just want to 'get on with your life', so interpreted this as you not seeking any kind of revenge. There's nothing wrong with feeling the way you do, though. It's totally valid, given what you've been through

 

[JeyJeyOfJeypore]

Why? So many rape victims don't want vengeance. I would want a chance to kill my rapist personally. If it was legal i would gladly kill all the rapists out there with my bare hands. It's second only to murder IMHO.

Become batman
Edit: i mean Vayne

In 2024, I was raped by a college guy my sister is friends with in my own bed. I was 16 and he was in his mid to early twenties.

I told some friends about it, and they're all angry on my behalf. But I've never revealed his whole identity. Just his first name. And I have this dreadful fear that sometimes they don't believe. At the same time, I don't really care. I just want to get on with my life. And I don't care if they believe me at this point. But I haven't done anything about it. I honestly just want to forget it happened more than anything. But one of my friends is skeptical. And that's what made me feel this absolute need to prove myself. Again, I don't think I'll do anything about it. Is this weird?

Sometimes you cant have peace and validation at the same time
Victims get validation, and if you dont report it you arent seen as a victim

 

[vanillacherry]

Become batman
Edit: i mean Vayne

Sometimes you cant have peace and validation at the same time
Victims get validation, and if you dont report it you arent seen as a victim

I don't want to be seen as a victim of this ever, if that makes sense?

 

[JeyJeyOfJeypore]

Yes im just explaining why yiu feel the need to prove it
Youre not alone. There is rape threads here that dont report all the time

By my estimates 80% of girls here have been S A or rape in some sort of way

 

[vanillacherry]

Why? So many rape victims don't want vengeance. I would want a chance to kill my rapist personally. If it was legal i would gladly kill all the rapists out there with my bare hands. It's second only to murder IMHO.

I completely understand where you're coming from. And trust me, I used to dream about maiming the guy with my bare hands, but as time went on and I sat with it, I realised killing him wouldn't take back what he did. Sure, it'd be satisfying as hell for me, but killing someone will only traumatise me more. Like why do I need to dirty my hands further in order to feel clean? And this isn't acceptance either. I just don't need any more sins on my plate to weigh me down further.

Yes im just explaining why yiu feel the need to prove it
Youre not alone. There is rape threads here that dont report all the time

By my estimates 80% of girls here have been S A or rape in some sort of way

That's awful to hear. I genuinely wonder why so many people don't report it. I felt like I was ostracised for not reporting it, so I can only imagine how they feel.

No, it's not weird at all. What happened to you was horrible and I would totally feel the need for validation, especially from my friends, if I were in your situation. I can see that you don't seek vengeance, but having your experience doubted or denied must hurt as hell anyway

Yeah, it hurts more than I actually anticipated

 

[JeyJeyOfJeypore]

Its a loss, loss situation indeed. I cant understand men who do it. So much damage for a quickie and you risk your life

 

[kittypsst]

That's awful to hear. I genuinely wonder why so many people don't report it. I felt like I was ostracised for not reporting it, so I can only imagine how they feel.

Thousands of women and girls try to report rape every year, it's a given cops, doctors and every social service will be complicit in covering up, if not enable even worse.

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