The only option I can imagine is making your own funeral arrangements, which unfortunately mean paying in advance. I did that, and was able to specify how I want things to go. I did it for my family so that all they will have to do is call the funeral people and they'll come, pick up my body, and handle everything. BUT... I guess my family could just decide not to call and to do everything their own way. That's the both weird and wonderful thing about being dead, for me. No longer a player in this world.