30+ peer support thread.

[U. A.]

Crunchy old fuck reporting in.

 

[kouna]

42 here. My bday is in 2 weeks.
Up to 39 my life was pretty good, but being betrayed and robbed by my business partner has turned my life a mess. The legal system can't really help with things either.
Most of it is my fault for not being cautious and blindly trusting him.
The past 3 months saw me losing my job, my wife and returning to my parents' house since living alone in my house (I'm a homeowner) was torture. I'll rent the house, which will help financially, however I'm totally anedonic, nothing gives me pleasure anymore, not sports, not alcohol and drugs and I've totally lost my will to work. I'm starting a new job with the beginning of the year but I couldn't care less. I want my divorce to end quickly and then it's CTB time.

 

[Xiaojiu]

This thread will always be active as long as there is at least one person posting. : )

Thank you for sharing! I'm sorry about your situation. You have wonderful preferences! I also love nature, mountains and forests. I started drinking tea recently. I love that as well. : )

Thank you! How do you enjoy nature? And what tea do you like to drink?
And what are your preferences for coping/distractions?

I can't hike anymore, so my husband drives me to the mountains and forests to cheer me up. I used to be a hiker and mountain climber, so dealing with the physical issues that have continued to worsen is heartbreaking and soul crushing for me.

 

[2minutes2ctb]

How do people go through their 30's ? Like seriously ? Life wasn't too bad until 30 but then… I'm sorry, I guess I was just not ready for this enormous pile of sh!t called life.

 

[bwonto]

43 here and a lot of these stories resonate with me. Thanks to all for sharing them.

 

[Bruce]

Maybe. There's certainly cowardice when it comes to actually hanging myself. So another day happens

I wouldn't say it's cowardice. It takes a lot of courage (and some desperation as well) to take this (hopefully) last step. You have to be 100%. Maybe you're not 100%, yet. Maybe you will be one day. But right now you are here, talking about this step. How many people can say that they merely think about it? They are so afraid to even acknowledge us, to talk about any problem, to talk about anything relating to death. Now THAT is fear my friend. You don't have that. Maybe the absence of fear is courage!?

Thank you! How do you enjoy nature? And what tea do you like to drink?
And what are your preferences for coping/distractions?

I can't hike anymore, so my husband drives me to the mountains and forests to cheer me up. I used to be a hiker and mountain climber, so dealing with the physical issues that have continued to worsen is heartbreaking and soul crushing for me.

I like to walk on the beach. There is also where I do sports. I cycle as often as I can. I like to move. When it's warm enough. When it's warm enough I also go hiking with a friend. Not too often because I don't have much money and because I'm sad. I love it when I'm in the forest. It's quiet and the air is clean. We usually spend around a week there. We sleep in hammocks. : )

I haven't decided on my favorite tea yet. I bought around eight different types and I drink a little bit from each every now and then. It feels really nice drinking tea (any tea with a little bit of honey) and reading books. At some point I lived in the countryside and I was doing that near a fireplace. That was bliss!

Alright, I'm going to be honest. There's another reason why I haven't decided on a favorite tea yet. I keep forgetting which I just drank. I have memory problems. Sometimes I even forget how old I am. I do remember my name and my date of birth though. : )

What is your favorite tea? Maybe I have it and I'll try it next and I'll tell you how much I love it.

The only way for me to cope is to either move away (like go on the beach or in the mountains) where are far less distractions or put headphones (with ANC) on and play a game or read a book. I have this thing where I can really immerse myself in these experiences. When I play a story-based game or when I'm reading a book I feel like I'm there. For me characters can be friends, people with hopes and dreams. I'm happy when they're happy, sometimes I cry when they go suffer or when they die.

How do you do it? How do you cope?

Well, I'm happy you have someone who offers support to you. I'm alone. Sometimes it's.. devastating. It's really nice that he helps.

If I may I'll make a suggestion: Try to look on the bright side, you can still SEE the forests, you can still SMELL the aromas there, you can still HEAR the birds singing, the trees and their leafs moving in the wind. I know it's not the same but it's still something. Think about what you lost, it makes you the person you are today, but think about what you still have as well. It won't make everything perfect but maybe it will help a little.

edit: I just made this. ^_^