Why do people hate those who kill themselves?

[Mizzmini45]

Maybe it hits a nerve for some people who secretly understand. My brother was like this . He got angry when he would hear someone commit suicide but yet he would always talk about suicide with me when no one was around

 

[Quinlor]

I believe it's just a false sense of social responsibility or social duty of prevent ctb.

Probably most of people give a shit about you, but they have unconsciously a way of thinking structured by Christian society that make them "try to save you".

 

[s1mplem3]

I don't understand it.

I don't think they understand, many people do so just because they see others and repeat.

 

[lanitoasmr]

because they don't understand how fucked up is our life

 

[lizinha]

It's because they can't relate with it or because its not human nature . Same concept with people who struggle with drug issues they get resented looked down upon. it sucks

 

[sickInsominic42]

I never met anyone who hated someone for killing themselves. They always feel bad. Was there anything they could have done? This person had so much to live for blah blah blah. In my case nothing can be done. I have a painful incurable disease. So I think when I go people are going to be surprised but they will certainly understand that I didn't want to live as a prisoner trapped in my own body.

I'm in the same boat. I'm never going to be cured but my family guilts me into staying alive then leaves me to suffer alone just do they can feel better about themselves. But isn't it selfish to force someone to live a life that they don't want just so they don't have to feel guilty

 

[Istanbulite]

They envy and blame themselves (if they are family or friends)

 

[ornitier199]

I don't give a damn if they 'hate' me for ctb, this is for me not for them, especially if they don't even know me.
What they think of my decision does not matter, idc it won't stop me. They want to get bent and angry over my personal decision that's a them thing.
Telling me do it instead as a counter is nothing. Like I need them to tell me to do something I'm already doing.

 

[FuneralCry]

It is hard to answer the question, but often grief can turn to anger, and this is part of the grieving process. Those left behind are unable to understand what the person went through as they are not in a similar situation themselves. Maybe they start to become angry at them, as that person leaving has caused them to experience pain. Many non suicidal people are delusional, they see suicide as a selfish act and is something that could have been prevented in every case.

 

[partialhang]

Jealousy probably.

 

[MementoMori81]

I'm not too sure on this one. I don't think the people left behind by suicide necessarily hate the individual who took that option. I would be more inclined to say that they are extremely hurt, just absolutely gutted that someone they care about found life that difficult, that reprehensible or that they were in that much pain that they decided to end their own life.
They no doubt go through a whole sequence of feelings; shock, anger, pain, remorse and, let's be honest, an extreme sense of guilt. They'll likely ask themselves why? Why hadn't they noticed? Could have they done something to stop it, to help you find the will to survive and so on?

Also, you've got to consider the fact that a lot of people find suicide really difficult to get their head around because, just like anyone else, they possess a strong survival instinct. So, to know that someone they care about felt things were that bad that they could override those billions of years of evolution is confusing. That probably adds to the already intense cocktail of emotions they're confronted with.

That said, I'm sure there are instances of people who genuinely do feel hatred for someone who ctb. In those circumstances, I'm not sure what could drive someone to feel such a powerfully negative emotion for someone who just decided that their quality of life was no longer acceptable, at least not to them.