Discussion When you go out on the street, do you think others see you sad?

[theboy]

Some people prefer to hide sadness. Others show it.
Others try to hide the sadness but it's obvious!

 

[jessisme]

I'm pretty sure it's written all over my face.

 

[quietam pacem12]

Ich denke immer, man sieht es mir an. Und rede über mich. Besonders einkaufen ist schlimm. Aber auf der anderen Seite kann ich es gut verbergen und alle denken, mir geht es gut. Anstrengend. Fühlt euch alle gedrückt. Ich hoffe immer, es ist schnell vorbei, der menschenkonakt.

 

[freevoid]

Unfortunately I have resting bitch face, so I always look sad/grumpy. I have had people asking me if I was okay for most of my life. Even on my less shit days (waaay back) where I was neutral to mild happy. I get it, but it's really fucking annoying.

 

[quietam pacem12]

Menschen sagen heute "wie geht's", wenn man jemanden grüßt. Anstatt Hallo.
Antwortet mal "scheiße", dann klotzen alle verdutzt. Das ist das neue "Hallo". Die Zweibeiner...

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Doubt it. I think most people are too caught up in their own life problems to even bother to notice.

 

[quietam pacem12]

Wie geht's ist heute eine Begrüßung. Würden sie fühlen, wie es ihnen selber geht, würden sie "Hallo" sagen.
Wir hier alle sind zu sensibel für diese egoistische kaputte Welt. Ich bin schon ein gewisser menschenhasser geworden. Es frisst mich oft auf und jeder Tag ist ein endloser überlebenskampf. Leider gibt es viele Menschen, die riechen das und nutzen es aus für ihre eigenen Vorteile. Und wir, gehen daran kaputt. Mir geht es so.

 

[Rairii]

I've been told I look miserable often by others, so I guess so. Then my therapist would like to point out that I had a flat affect

 

[SectOfValtiel]

im not sure people even notice im there unless they have to... i probably just drift by like a ghost
i try to be as polite as possible but i mostly just blend in i guess
i doubt anything about me makes an impact, doubt any strangers even remember i was there

even then, the social anxiety overpowers the sadness a lot of the time, so if anything they probably just see the internal fear and panic
i think i must have pretty dead looking eyes but its not like im making eye contact very often if i can help it
nobody has ever commented on it

so no, i dont think people see me as sad
i dont think people see me as much of anything

 

[outatime_85]

When you go out on the street, do you think others see you sad? No.

Besides growing up the way I did, I was told on a daily basis that no one cares or would ever care or be there, which meant that I had to learn to deal with every issue I had or will have alone and understand that no one, be it in my family, in the public, etc., would ever comfort me, see me, notice me, or see my sadness.

Living that way for the entirety of my life, I learned to never expect anyone to care if I am injured (hospitalized), sad (depressed), miserable, etc.

So, should anyone ever attempt to approach me and ask if I am okay, the only response they would hear is that "I am fine," because any other response would make me a burden.

 

[Regen]

No, most of the time nobody see how I feel. Sometimes I look not good, with bad hair and old clothes, if you are sensitive maybe you could see a little of my inside. But also my psychologist dont see how I feel and if I thougt I show her my inside she only think its not to good but not suicidal bad. Sometimes its useful, but sometimes this is sad for me.

 

[makethepainstop]

Are you kidding? I don't look like I think pleasant thoughts. So it is unlikely anyone would want to notice or care.

 

[StolenLife]

Yup, my face is apparently very expressive.

 

[LivideLamb]

Maybe not sadness, but I'm always really anxious when I have to go out, so I can confidently bet that anxiety is written all over my face.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I think they can sense I'm troubled - my voice is a thin and empty rasp

 

[FuneralCry]

In my case, I think that I look more tired of existing if I had to describe how I looked, but it would make sense to look sad as after all we exist in such a horrific world and existence is such a cruel burden that was unfairly inflicted on us, so of course it's the thing that is more rational, to have negative feelings towards existence. As humans we are all just destined to suffer, deteriorate and die, it's the way that life has evolved. Those who appear to be positive and are full of enthusiasm for existing are likely just pretending, I mean if people actually felt that way it would be so strange to me.

 

[hopelessdreams]

even though i don't want to, it's very obvious when i feel extremely down. it's not only visible on my face, but also in my body language and lack of interaction with others.

 

[Mashedout]

Most people are concerned about themselves, odds are they don't even think or care what you're doing.

 

[UKscotty]

Sad or not, people don't care.

 

[foreversad16]

Sad or not, people don't care.

People not worthy of your thoughts may not care but I promise you that there are many who will care, you just haven't met them yet.

 

[dead lightbulb]

I still wear a mask in "post" quarantine America, and let me say that does not hide a damn thing about my depressed appearance lol. I think people around me suspect I'm miserable but don't know me/care about me enough. Heavy on the don't know me, which is why a lot of the time I'll be sitting with a hood on, headphones in, and my head on my desk and people will look right through me. Past the surface "what's wrong?" that's asked by teachers because I haven't submitted an assignment since September. I really haven't given anyone a reason to care. I'm not important to anyone and I never made an effort to be. I don't expect anyone to care. I sit in high level classes among peers who have millions of extra circulars after school, tons of friends in each of their classes, and normal healthy family lives. I know they demonize me in their heads.

 

[WorthlessTrash]

I haven't been out on the street in forever. I now just occasionally take a car ride. However, when I was out, I always viewed myself as invisible. Nowadays even being out and about in the car makes me nauseous. I just cannot stand people seeing me, when I don't even like myself.

 

[Winterreise]

People are just full. They are either heading somewhere, or they are heading home. To them I look like a stranger. Like they look to me. If only I saw their struggles, I would feel less alone in this world.

Instead, they demonize me, like I demonize them. These perfect people who are allways happy.