What is your biggest regret in life?

[RedHarlequin]

I don't regret anything. I followed my heart and always did what i wanted to do, not what others have told me to. I'm ready to die; and i will die happy.

Perfect :)

 

[Zerengin96]

Not dying during my childhood. I honestly think after not being born at all, dying as a happy kid is the second best option.

 

[RedHarlequin]

I know it is real difficult to shut off all the regrets, and I don't know how often you think about yours.

But think abut it, how many old people say stuff like Ì wish I had thought about my failures some more.. they mostly say I wish I had spent more time relaxing, maybe alone, maybe with friends, whatever their preferences would have been. This makes me feel Im on the right way of my not giving a damn strategy, and a couple of months after starting to do this, I lost a lot of toxic friends and even my toxic job, and I have to admit, that felt pretty damn good. Now I will soon start a new job with much bigger pay and like 50% of my friends are not dicks, which is a pretty good number.

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Not dying during my childhood. I honestly think after not being born at all, dying as a happy kid is the second best option.

I know this feeling too well (hugs)


Edit: 50% percent of friends, not 50. I have like 2 non-toxic friends now :D

 

[CursedSoul]

not killing myself for my abusive ex when i had the pistol at the age of 15 )



there is not one second i don't think about it and don't hate myself for it, PAIN

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Having sex before I was emotionally mature. And not understanding the difference between sex and intimacy

I truly ruined my chance in Uni by falling in love with a toxic person, failed school could have escaped home and got surgeries and traveled. Now I'm a neet with my dad. I'm ruined mentally and emotionally

 

[RedHarlequin]

Just realised a regret of mine:

Not listening to my emotions soon enough, just listening to others saying how and what I should feel.
I could have avoided some serious suffering!

So I hope someone can at least learn from this- if you are at a job you hate (and you haven't jet tried out all possible options), don't listen to ppl saying stuff like `the salary is good, I work twice as much, its not a physical job, can't be that bad`.

But its not only the job, this pretty much refers to all aspects of life: living with parents and being miserable every day, telling yourself its ok to avoid change, shitty relationship, shitty friends..whatever.

But I think this was necessary for me, now Im extremely aware of what is shitty for me and can leave toxic stuff almost immediately.

 

[September5th]

I somehow turned the best time of my life into the worst. It took me what? 8 months. Fuck me.

 

[JFED]

Not having the confidence in myself that i should have.

 

[RedHarlequin]

I somehow turned the best time of my life into the worst. It took me what? 8 months. Fuck me.

Same, took me even less. Was a wid ride though, and we get to take all of the life lessons with us.

 

[breadlexington]

My biggest regret is that I gave up on every dream I ever had to make other people happy.

This will be a long post, I'm sorry. It's a very good question. I want to write my story even if I don't think anyone will read it.

My dad took his own life when I was young. Art and writing were a huge part of what helped me heal psychologically. I had a chance to move across the country to try and make it as an artist when I was young.

Probably I would have failed. There's a reason why we have the phrase "starving artist" after all. But then I would have lived my life knowing I gave my dream a chance before I let it go.

My mother begged me not to move far away. She told me a lump she had might be cancerous. I gave in. I moved home. I got a boring little office job. I gave up my hopes of being a writer. My mother turned out to be perfectly healthy. When I moved in with her she never missed an opportunity to tell me how lazy I was. How worthless. How foolish and bad with money and bad at everything I am. How I could never have a roommate because I was so difficult. How no one would ever love me but her.

I moved in with my sweet boyfriend. He had dreams of refurbishing houses. I wanted to live in a city, but I gave up that dream too to make him happy. I spent my 20s living in foreclosed houses and spending all my weekends smiling as I miserably painted walls. My sweet boyfriend became a husband who won't let me eat or sleep when he's angry. He hurts me when he wants to have sex with me, but he tells me I'm overreacting because someone else raped me once. He gambled away all the money we made from those houses. He tells me I should kill myself like my father did.

I gave up my little office job because my husband told me my work stress was ruining our marriage. Now I don't even have enough money to leave him.

And so: my biggest regret is that I didn't believe in my own dreams when I had the time and the money to follow them. My dad left me a little bit of money. I could have gone anywhere in the country at 22. I would have had to work as a waitress or something to pay the bills while I wrote, but I could have done it. Instead, I listened to the people who said they loved me and I am now a prisoner to their abuse.

 

[RedHarlequin]

My biggest regret is that I gave up on every dream I ever had to make other people happy.

This will be a long post, I'm sorry. It's a very good question. I want to write my story even if I don't think anyone will read it.

My dad took his own life when I was young. Art and writing were a huge part of what helped me heal psychologically. I had a chance to move across the country to try and make it as an artist when I was young.

Probably I would have failed. There's a reason why we have the phrase "starving artist" after all. But then I would have lived my life knowing I gave my dream a chance before I let it go.

My mother begged me not to move far away. She told me a lump she had might be cancerous. I gave in. I moved home. I got a boring little office job. I gave up my hopes of being a writer. My mother turned out to be perfectly healthy. When I moved in with her she never missed an opportunity to tell me how lazy I was. How worthless. How foolish and bad with money and bad at everything I am. How I could never have a roommate because I was so difficult. How no one would ever love me but her.

I moved in with my sweet boyfriend. He had dreams of refurbishing houses. I wanted to live in a city, but I gave up that dream too to make him happy. I spent my 20s living in foreclosed houses and spending all my weekends smiling as I miserably painted walls. My sweet boyfriend became a husband who won't let me eat or sleep when he's angry. He hurts me when he wants to have sex with me, but he tells me I'm overreacting because someone else raped me once. He gambled away all the money we made from those houses. He tells me I should kill myself like my father did.

I gave up my little office job because my husband told me my work stress was ruining our marriage. Now I don't even have enough money to leave him.

And so: my biggest regret is that I didn't believe in my own dreams when I had the time and the money to follow them. My dad left me a little bit of money. I could have gone anywhere in the country at 22. I would have had to work as a waitress or something to pay the bills while I wrote, but I could have done it. Instead, I listened to the people who said they loved me and I am now a prisoner to their abuse.

Your mom sounds extremely narcissistic and it might be that you have repeated this relationship model with your partner, because it just feels familial.
But I don't want to sound like a textbook, just wanted to show you this:






She seems so proud and happy!!

 

[breadlexington]

Your mom sounds extremely narcissistic and it might be that you have repeated this relationship model with your partner, because it just feels familial.
But I don't want to sound like a textbook, just wanted to show you this:






She seems so proud and happy!!

I think you're quite right. Before I gave up on the idea of getting better, I was seeing a very expensive therapist. (My husband makes a lot of money.) She said the same thing you're saying - that I ended up marrying someone with narcissistic tendencies because that kind of relationship felt like home. At the moment I can't pay $175/hour for insight, but I thought you should know that you came to the same conclusion as a trained professional. Maybe that's nice to know?

Thank you for replying to me. It was kind of you to read all that.

 

[Brianiskillingme]

Not fighting harder to save my first marriage. I still love him but he has moved on and remarried.

 

[may13]

"What is your biggest regret in life?"

Living it.

 

[Leiden]

Meeting my Fiance

 

[Karlala]

Man I'm so exhausted I can't sleep I Miss my wife so much I wonder how she will feel when she gets the call that I'm gone. She probably won't care I'm doing this on Father's day

 

[zekeyaeger]

being born

 

[orca87]

Biggest one is sabotaging a relationship and friendships, second biggest one is not getting over it for a year now…

 

[Glandular]

Not living while I was still healthy. Now, I'll just rot away unless I ctb first.

Ten years ago, I had the chance at a completely different life with "the one that got away". Maybe, just maybe, I wouldn't have developed that disease if I followed that path. I will regret this until my dying day.

 

[damnatio memoriae]

Not telling my parents about my ADHD at a young age. Now they don't believe me

 

[starrvingstar]

dont beat yourselves up over things of the past its best to move on with your life and not let that hold you back or keep you stuck.

 

[orca87]

dont beat yourselves up over things of the past its best to move on with your life and not let that hold you back or keep you stuck.

It could be so easy!

 

[RichardFirst]

My biggest regret is the harm that I've caused others.

 

[starrvingstar]

It could be so easy!

easier said than done haha

 

[OceanBlue]

It's not up to me, but - not having an artistic ability to express my views about the world.

It would have been nice to have done more to protect sentient beings from coming into existence.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Not hanging myself in the womb by my umbilical cord

 

[BringMeToLife]

I regret that I've never been confident enough. Everytime I want to do something, I'm not confident enough and end up doing nothing.

 

[Kodokushi]

Being born. Should've been either a miscarriage like my twin or aborted way before...

 

[ChildrensITV]

I should have studied harder after uni. I am not gifted so I should have worked harder. After uni, I kinda gave up and went on autopilot.

 

[unnormal9]

Being born.