Anyone else here because they will never have another girlfriend

[unloveable27]

My long distance ex left me and no other woman will ever want me because I'm only 5'9 and been visually compared to ed sheeran by several strangers. I can't compete in the modern dating market as a sub 8 male.
I'm 27 now and and if I'm still a virgin by this August I will CTB.
Romantic love and raising a nuclear family is the main purpose of life. I don't want to contribute anything positive so I mainly write violent and disturbing stories full of rape and torture. I think about and cry over my ex everyday. I wish I never drank and could take it all back but I can't. I've lost motivation to work on anything that isn't hateful because I hate the world depriving me of the best experience of life due to a genetic dice roll and want to give back as little to society as I can. I will never get a job and plan to rot writing violent stories in my parents basement. Hospitals have been useless and more stress than relief.
I would rather be dead than be a 28 year old kissless virgin

 

[LogosBipartitusEst]

Nuclear family, this natalist shit, is what got us all here. Its part of the same process that makes us suffer.
Not having kids is a great thing, even if its just because you could not find a partner.
Just hire some prostitute.

 

[byec560]

Nuclear family, this natalist shit, is what got us all here. Its part of the same process that makes us suffer.
Not having kids is a great thing, even if its just because you could not find a partner.
Just hire some prostitute.

Anti-natalism gang. Def don't think a prostitute would fix OP though. Neither would a relationship, for that matter. OP, you're 5'9, it's not like you're a hobbit. Ed Sheeran isn't ugly, if he was, he wouldn't be a world-famous pop star. Dating standards are rough, but the amount of dudes walking around out there who aren't "sub 8" is pretty small. Not to give you some reductionist platitudes about how you just need to grindset and things will 100,000% work out for you, because that's stupid, but if one long distance breakup has reduced you to rape and torture fantasies, it sounds like there's more at play than just being 5'9 and "sub 8."

"Romantic love and raising a nuclear family is the main purpose of life"
According to who? These are both two relatively recent concepts in the grand scheme of things. Historically, the "it takes a village" mindset has been far more common, in some places in the world people still live with much more extended family than in the nuclear family structure. Ofc love stories are a tale as old as time, but marriages of convenience and practicality have abounded for most of history. Speaking as somebody also obsessed with love and romantic failures, even I think you might be a tad rigid in your thinking.

 

[unloveable27]

Nuclear family, this natalist shit, is what got us all here. Its part of the same process that makes us suffer.
Not having kids is a great thing, even if its just because you could not find a partner.
Just hire some prostitute.

Not having a girlfriend or a chance at one is the reason I want to CTB. I'll never have another partner so CTB is my only option. Life is so tedious and slow all alone all the time. Its not worth it.

 

[babyneo1]

I miss my ex everyday, that's why I'm here partially

 

[unloveable27]

Anti-natalism gang. Def don't think a prostitute would fix OP though. Neither would a relationship, for that matter. OP, you're 5'9, it's not like you're a hobbit. Ed Sheeran isn't ugly, if he was, he wouldn't be a world-famous pop star. Dating standards are rough, but the amount of dudes walking around out there who aren't "sub 8" is pretty small. Not to give you some reductionist platitudes about how you just need to grindset and things will 100,000% work out for you, because that's stupid, but if one long distance breakup has reduced you to rape and torture fantasies, it sounds like there's more at play than just being 5'9 and "sub 8."

"Romantic love and raising a nuclear family is the main purpose of life"
According to who? These are both two relatively recent concepts in the grand scheme of things. Historically, the "it takes a village" mindset has been far more common, in some places in the world people still live with much more extended family than in the nuclear family structure. Ofc love stories are a tale as old as time, but marriages of convenience and practicality have abounded for most of history. Speaking as somebody also obsessed with love and romantic failures, even I think you might be a tad rigid in your thinking.

It's simple, women are the choosers and apps gave them such a wide pool to choose from they have no reason to settle for less. None of them want a short autistic with a fetal alcohol syndrome face. My only outlet besides drugs is working on art projects which are meant to be as hideous and cruel as possible.

Anti-natalism gang. Def don't think a prostitute would fix OP though. Neither would a relationship, for that matter. OP, you're 5'9, it's not like you're a hobbit. Ed Sheeran isn't ugly, if he was, he wouldn't be a world-famous pop star. Dating standards are rough, but the amount of dudes walking around out there who aren't "sub 8" is pretty small. Not to give you some reductionist platitudes about how you just need to grindset and things will 100,000% work out for you, because that's stupid, but if one long distance breakup has reduced you to rape and torture fantasies, it sounds like there's more at play than just being 5'9 and "sub 8."

"Romantic love and raising a nuclear family is the main purpose of life"
According to who? These are both two relatively recent concepts in the grand scheme of things. Historically, the "it takes a village" mindset has been far more common, in some places in the world people still live with much more extended family than in the nuclear family structure. Ofc love stories are a tale as old as time, but marriages of convenience and practicality have abounded for most of history. Speaking as somebody also obsessed with love and romantic failures, even I think you might be a tad rigid in your thinking.

Rigid sure but not wrong. I prefer the old way. I wish i was born two decades earlier

 

[stepanch1k]

Another? Damn you guys are lucky, suffering really is subjective

 

[dearn]

My long distance ex left me and no other woman will ever want me because I'm only 5'9 and been visually compared to ed sheeran by several strangers. I can't compete in the modern dating market as a sub 8 male.
I'm 27 now and and if I'm still a virgin by this August I will CTB.
Romantic love and raising a nuclear family is the main purpose of life. I don't want to contribute anything positive so I mainly write violent and disturbing stories full of rape and torture. I think about and cry over my ex everyday. I wish I never drank and could take it all back but I can't. I've lost motivation to work on anything that isn't hateful because I hate the world depriving me of the best experience of life due to a genetic dice roll and want to give back as little to society as I can. I will never get a job and plan to rot writing violent stories in my parents basement. Hospitals have been useless and more stress than relief.
I would rather be dead than be a 28 year old kissless virgin

I am virgin too. Accepting it make me feel like I am a cool monk. #lowcortisol
Joke appart, I am sorry you feel like that.
But I can tell you that majority of girls doesn't care about height. I swear. I am 5'7 and idc if my partner is more or less than 5'7

 

[ZeroRedz02]

My long distance ex left me and no other woman will ever want me because I'm only 5'9 and been visually compared to ed sheeran by several strangers. I can't compete in the modern dating market as a sub 8 male.
I'm 27 now and and if I'm still a virgin by this August I will CTB.
Romantic love and raising a nuclear family is the main purpose of life. I don't want to contribute anything positive so I mainly write violent and disturbing stories full of rape and torture. I think about and cry over my ex everyday. I wish I never drank and could take it all back but I can't. I've lost motivation to work on anything that isn't hateful because I hate the world depriving me of the best experience of life due to a genetic dice roll and want to give back as little to society as I can. I will never get a job and plan to rot writing violent stories in my parents basement. Hospitals have been useless and more stress than relief.
I would rather be dead than be a 28 year old kissless virgin

Well bro i am virgin from 23 years this means that i am virgin from when i did born in this crazy-shitass-weirdo-absurd and creepy world and believe to my words because you need to believe to my words [I will be a virgin for the rest of my life] cause i am an asocial and a primitive guy.

Oh and why u said it, they did diagnosed me as an autistic tho so it will less the percentual to 1% and to 0,01% with psychotic depression diagnose.

 

[LonelyOutcast0528]

If you're white, then you can just go to Southeast Asia. Most people there are short and will naturally worship you for being white, and you'll naturally have an easier time finding a girlfriend. The West isn't everything.

 

[byec560]

If you're white, then you can just go to Southeast Asia. Most people there are short and will naturally worship you for being white, and you'll naturally have an easier time finding a girlfriend. The West isn't everything.

Passport bro cope tbh. Firstly, the average height of a male under 25 in a lot of urban areas is 5'9 nowadays so not tiny by any means. Second, a lot of the major destinations in SEA are flush with white foreigners so the novelty has worn thin in most places. Third, when women are interested in white men specifically it's usually because they want a meal ticket. I've heard a ton of stories about shlubby white dudes moving to Hanoi, getting a bunch of Tinder likes and going "Broooo I'm goated. The women here just 'worship' white guys." and then they get scammed out of their money and retire to Tay Ho to hang out with other white dudes all day lol.

 

[tymiaomioa]

If you're white, then you can just go to Southeast Asia. Most people there are short and will naturally worship you for being white, and you'll naturally have an easier time finding a girlfriend. The West isn't everything.

You're overthinking it, mate. The local scene in Southeast Asia is completely syndicated. Why fleece a couple of idiots when you can mass-produce the scam? I mean, my sperm-donor of a dad went to Vietnam to marry, and the bride just abandoned the daughter and vanished into thin air. But sure, if that's your kink, go for it . The local gangs absolutely adore guys with a racial superiority complex like yours.

 

[Passenger4224]

My long distance ex left me and no other woman will ever want me because I'm only 5'9 and been visually compared to ed sheeran by several strangers. I can't compete in the modern dating market as a sub 8 male.
I'm 27 now and and if I'm still a virgin by this August I will CTB.
Romantic love and raising a nuclear family is the main purpose of life. I don't want to contribute anything positive so I mainly write violent and disturbing stories full of rape and torture. I think about and cry over my ex everyday. I wish I never drank and could take it all back but I can't. I've lost motivation to work on anything that isn't hateful because I hate the world depriving me of the best experience of life due to a genetic dice roll and want to give back as little to society as I can. I will never get a job and plan to rot writing violent stories in my parents basement. Hospitals have been useless and more stress than relief.
I would rather be dead than be a 28 year old kissless virgin

I am here for similar reasons. My genetics are so fucked up to the point where I was born as the wrong gender and will never be able to find a husband because of it. My goal in life was to get married, but I made the mistake of leaving my abusive ex and I would do anything to go back. Only thing I have left to do is die.

 

[byec560]

I am virgin too. Accepting it make me feel like I am a cool monk. #lowcortisol
Joke appart, I am sorry you feel like that.
But I can tell you that majority of girls doesn't care about height. I swear. I am 5'7 and idc if my partner is more or less than 5'7

Idk about don't care because height is a common beauty standard but some people really inflate its importance.

I am here for similar reasons. My genetics are so fucked up to the point where I was born as the wrong gender and will never be able to find a husband because of it. My goal in life was to get married, but I made the mistake of leaving my abusive ex and I would do anything to go back. Only thing I have left to do is die.

Not to sound like I'm minimizing, but I feel like pleasing men is easier than you make it out to be. I don't know if you mean born the wrong gender as in being transgender or struggling to attract a homosexual partner (in the sense that some gay people feel "if only I were a woman, attracting a guy would be easy"). Either way, it sounds like if you put yourself out there in more LGBT-oriented spaces you could have some success. I know some LGBT people who honestly aren't all that remarkable but have had an insane number of partners just because the in-group preference for other queer partners is very strong and there's generally a high tolerance for neurodivergence. Just my two cents though. Will it feel as good as your ex? Probably not for a while, but at least it'll give you something.

You're overthinking it, mate. The local scene in Southeast Asia is completely syndicated. Why fleece a couple of idiots when you can mass-produce the scam? I mean, my sperm-donor of a dad went to Vietnam to marry, and the bride just abandoned the daughter and vanished into thin air. But sure, if that's your kink, go for it . The local gangs absolutely adore guys with a racial superiority complex like yours.

Yeah, passport bro cope is so fucking crazy to me. Power of wishful thinking I guess.

 

[devils~advocate]

Ed Sheeran is 5'-8"....and has multiple relationships....singers, models,etc.
Its not about if he has looks or not.....that's all subjective anyway.
I think its all about attitude and confidence mostly. The guy is a globally recognized singer and is super confident about his ability.
Some if not a lot of women are super attracted to this.
There are a few channels on YT that talk about dating and how certain attributes or attitudes influence it all.
I would encourage others to not put so much value on having just any relationship.
It has to be right for you in all areas....I know this from my own experience, unfortunately too late.

 

[mrwagnerfan]

I'm a virgin so I sympathize with you

 

[Passenger4224]

Not to sound like I'm minimizing, but I feel like pleasing men is easier than you make it out to be. I don't know if you mean born the wrong gender as in being transgender or struggling to attract a homosexual partner (in the sense that some gay people feel "if only I were a woman, attracting a guy would be easy"). Either way, it sounds like if you put yourself out there in more LGBT-oriented spaces you could have some success. I know some LGBT people who honestly aren't all that remarkable but have had an insane number of partners just because the in-group preference for other queer partners is very strong and there's generally a high tolerance for neurodivergence. Just my two cents though. Will it feel as good as your ex? Probably not for a while, but at least it'll give you something.

I believe I'm trans but don't identify as such since I will CTB before I have a chance to transition.

Gay dating is not for me - I prefer a heteronormative relationship dynamic, and gay men want something more equal. If I want a manly partner, I have to be manly myself. Dealbreaker.

 

[hwid]

I'm not suicidal because I can't get a girlfriend, but the reasons I want to CTB also happened to make me unattractive to the few women I knew personally before I cut myself off from society.

I always desired to have a relationship but at least I'm not leaving anyone behind when I CTB.

Now could having a relationship (or the ability to have one) have made my life worth living? I have no idea. Probably not though. I really just wanted a job I didn't hate and friends.

 

[Passenger4224]

Ed Sheeran is 5'-8"....and has multiple relationships....singers, models,etc.
Its not about if he has looks or not.....that's all subjective anyway.
I think its all about attitude and confidence mostly. The guy is a globally recognized singer and is super confident about his ability.
Some if not a lot of women are super attracted to this.
There are a few channels on YT that talk about dating and how certain attributes or attitudes influence it all.
I would encourage others to not put so much value on having just any relationship.
It has to be right for you in all areas....I know this from my own experience, unfortunately too late.

Some people are just born without much confidence & don't stand a chance. :(

 

[LonelyOutcast0528]

Ed Sheeran is 5'-8"....and has multiple relationships....singers, models,etc.
Its not about if he has looks or not.....that's all subjective anyway.
I think its all about attitude and confidence mostly. The guy is a globally recognized singer and is super confident about his ability.
Some if not a lot of women are super attracted to this.
There are a few channels on YT that talk about dating and how certain attributes or attitudes influence it all.
I would encourage others to not put so much value on having just any relationship.
It has to be right for you in all areas....I know this from my own experience, unfortunately too late.

Ed Sheeran is wealthy and famous. That's it. If it weren't for his wealth and his status as a world-renowned musician, he would be your average depressed shortcel on the verge of suicide. It has nothing to do with attitude or confidence. It's looks first and foremost, but some women can overlook the looks factor if a man has other things that elevate his status and make their friends jealous (e.g. being a world-renowned musician).

 

[violetforever]

If you're white, then you can just go to Southeast Asia. Most people there are short and will naturally worship you for being white, and you'll naturally have an easier time finding a girlfriend. The West isn't everything.

1. thats predatory
2. i dont think anyone wants to stoop to desperate measures like that? it feels like that would be a blow to their already low self esteem?

this thread is kind of a mess (as expected)

racial superiority complex

yeah this too. those choice of words. "naturally worship you for being white". so what do you really want? a loving relationship or to be worshipped by someone you view as inferior in comparison to you? its not the same thing. so fucking weird and gross and racist.

 

[LonelyOutcast0528]

I'm a virgin so I sympathize with you

You should try seeing an escort. Depending on where you live, you can often find attractive young women at a reasonable price.

1. thats predatory
2. i dont think anyone wants to stoop to desperate measures like that? it feels like that would be a blow to their already low self esteem?

this thread is kind of a mess (as expected)

yeah this too. those choice of words. "naturally worship you for being white". so what do you really want? a loving relationship or to be worshipped by someone you view as inferior in comparison to you? its not the same thing. so fucking weird and gross and racist.

I'm sorry, I didn't mean it in a condescending way. English isn't my native language, so I may have made the wrong choice of words. I simply meant that being white is often perceived positively in Southeast Asia, which could give him certain social advantages compared to the West.

 

[DeersCanTalk]

You should try seeing an escort

What's the point? 1 hour of expensive forced unpassionate sex? WTF! The other things you wrote are very true tho, height is a gift from some guardian angel because it's such a mental crutch it's insane. Life is so crazy.

Anti-natalism is sooooooo cringe, don't disrespect or ignore your human instinct, be happy OP that you can still yearn for having kids and being in a real relationship. Some people seem to have lost this completely it's so sad ;( Also people saying that mentally unstable people shouldn't have kids are eugenicists and shouldn't be taken seriously.

OP please take pride in how genuine and real/raw you are, it takes soul and heart to be as honest as you are <3

Wishing u luck!

 

[Ricoshay]

I'm literally fighting demonic/shadowy forces as hallucinations/illusions during the day and night. It's why my previous gf and everyone left me. Good news is romance is the last thing on my mind, bad news is I'm never going to find a girl that wants to be with a guy tormented by the forces of evil lmao.

 

[violetforever]

I'm sorry, I didn't mean it in a condescending way. English isn't my native language, so I may have made the wrong choice of words. I simply meant that being white is often perceived positively in Southeast Asia, which could give him certain social advantages compared to the West.

well being white is perceived positively everywhere. its really creepy to specifically go to a developing region to prey on the women there because you know you have that advantage. theres no way to make it sound good.

 

[LonelyOutcast0528]

well being white is perceived positively everywhere. its really creepy to specifically go to a developing region to prey on the women there because you know you have that advantage. theres no way to make it sound good.

I mean, think about it. If the roles were reversed and she were in the hypergamous and gynocentric West, she would probably orbit around the top 15% of men and see the bottom 85% as expendable, using them for their resources, mainly attention and money. It's simply a matter of place and circumstances, and I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with it, generally speaking.

 

[coolcow1289]

I'm afraid to agree with this because I really don't think I'm an incel. I'm single not because I'm ugly or women hate me. But because I'm not capable of interpersonal relationships. But it's true I don't get a lot of attention from women. Once in my life I've been asked out and that is the only relationship I've ever had, 6 years ago now. And it was a disaster.

Not having a girlfriend is a symptom, not the cause. In my case. But I do feel for the incels. Hypergamy is normalized and open hatred and dismissal of short, bald, or otherwise "unattractive" men is just accepted.