Discussion What did your parent, gaudian or a even freind said that messed you up?

[idfwlnh]

Actually my mom regrets what she did shes being nice now I just hope it sticks.

We've talked about that like a heart to heart ik none people here had been that lucky.

She really really regrets what she did. I forgive her for that.

Hope the relationship btween you and your mother gets better...

 

[seeyoulater26]

My mom always told me I would never amount to anything, even as a child. That I was lazy, good-for-nothing, and not really smart.

But there's one memory that really takes the cake.

Had my 25th birthday during the pandemic. My opportunities were scarce but I saved up enough from my VERY small salary to have a birthday dinner with my family. At dinner, my sister suddenly felt weak, became feverish, and had a headache. We immediately thought of COVID. She has always been so frail-looking and I was so scared for her because a friend recently succumbed to COVID. Everyone wanted her tested so whatever the result was, we would know what treatment she needed. My mom instead went hysterical saying if my sister got recorded as a positive case, we would all be "close contacts." She said that would prevent her from reporting to her new work abroad and her company might sue her for breach of contract. Idk if that's a thing but I call BS. I tried to deescalate anyway and tell her gently "I don't think they would do that because it's nobody's fault someone in your family got sick." stuff like that. I promise I tried to sound as reassuring as possible. She ended up lashing out on me and yelled saying "My job is nothing like your pathetic job!" Mind you, the "pathetic job" was the one that kept the bills paid during the pandemic. She was jobless, but her lights were on, water was free-flowing, and she was online because of that stupid pathetic job.

I got so sad about the whole situation. Getting yelled at and berated on my own birthday... at my own birthday dinner I worked hard to have and looked forward to. My job that provided for the family being reduced to nothing. And for what? Caring? My mom showed more concern about her stupid job than her sick child. (SPOILER: SHE DIDN'T EVEN FINISH THE CONTRACT. SHE GOT SENT HOME!) So messed up!

I hid in the kitchen and held back my tears as hard as I could.

I'm in a better place now. She was wrong about all the terrible things she said I was and would be. But they still weigh heavy in my heart.

Fuck her