No one likes me when I'm quiet, no one likes me when I talk

[Anonymoususer1234]

I'm pretty quiet around strangers and acquaintances. I tend to keep to myself. People always encourage me to open up but whenever I do they like me less and/or tell me to be quiet. I can't even blame them. And I know I shouldn't care about what other people think but it really sucks, feeling like you're doing something wrong no matter what.

Therapists I've talked to act like the issue doesn't exist. They tell me "put yourself out there and you'll make friends easily." My parents keep referring to some nebulous time in the future when I'll have friends or a partner.

I don't know how to explain to these people that it won't happen.

 

[BlendedHeart]

I hear you. I have the same problem. I speak too little, and when I do it, I get constantly interrupted or ignored, so I just keep quiet most of the time.

My mother used to say that too about my "future", but with time she realized none of that will happen.

 

[pebpebpebpeb]

felt this. it's so scary to put yourself out there because you have no idea what might happen. fear of the unknown, if you will. i'm sorry you're going through this.

 

[Ernest1964]

: O "Stop THAT!!! That thing that you do is so annoying! That in and out and in and out! ALL the time. That damned breathing!!!" ... and talking. I gave up trying to please others with my words a long time ago, especially when I'm surrounded at work with all those "WOKE" people. EVERYTHING annoys them.