hoppybunny
Fearer of the Future
- Jun 26, 2024
- 316
This is just what I've noticed from the small amount of people i interact with but mainly my parents but most ppl really do not have your personal joy in mind at all.
And I'm not saying it's even intentional at all. I've noticed most ppl do this unintentionally or non maliciously.
They give you advice or expect you to suffer for no fucking reason.
For instance my mum works in healthcare and it's very obvious she hates her job, yet she keeps trying to force my siblings and i into it.
I currently have a terrible healthcare job anytime i complain, they just insist i power through the suffering.
My theory is that it makes her feel like her suffering is worth it the more ppl she forces into it.
My dad Especially tells me to just bear with it but he himself would never actually work in healthcare because he thinks it's beneath him but he's so quick to tell my siblings and i to do it.
My sister too she keeps telling me to move out even if i have to get roomates becauae she genuinely thinks me having roomates is an acceptable amount of suffering i should be ok with enduring and she gets mad that i insist on just staying with my family until i have enough to move out. She knows that i hate living with strangers more than i hate being harassed by my parents but she just thinks i should just put up with it.
My coworkers too, anytime someone even mentions wanting to do something like going on vacation or switching career paths, suddenly every single person that talks about how much the job sucks, thinks it's better to stay at work and try to talk them.out of it.
If a coworker says they want to spend the weekend sleeping they start suggesting that they should find something to do.
Like why is sleeping a bad thing?!?!
It's like having joy or being happy is seen as being lazy or shameful while suffering is viewed as noble it's just so annoying.
Cause I'm always looked at wierdly for trying to maximize my happiness and minimize my suffering.
Like I'm the kind of person that will happily pay for an uber so i don't have to drive, no matter how expensive it is, yet I'm treated as wasteful because i think my comfort is worth more than the cost of an uber.
This is Especially an issue i see when it comes to enforcing social norms.
My mum yells at me and gets angry all the time for not being a "traditional woman". Even though there are little to no benefits in doing "womanly" things. We are always late to church every week cause my mum has to do makeup and do her hair but she insists that i have to do it to even though i get ready much faster than her and have no interest in doing it.
We're also always late to work too because of it. Like if u know that all this extra bs makes you late why are you trying to force me too?!?!?
If she was doing it because she liked dping it then she would wake up earlier to do it or she'd be ok going without it if she was late but she acts like she's naked if sheeaves the house without makeup.
All my female coworkers keep talking ablut how they need to go on diets so they can wear bathing suits ny July 4th.
Just wear them?!?! Or eat normally the entire year. Why are u depriving urself of normal food for a bathing suit?!?! Like i don't get why they act like they can't eat normally throughout the year. You're only options aren't starving or junkfood every day?!
And then the conversation always flows like they're expecting me to say I'm dieting too. Like no tf I'm not!! I'm not punishing myself to wear a bikini.
And I'm not saying it's even intentional at all. I've noticed most ppl do this unintentionally or non maliciously.
They give you advice or expect you to suffer for no fucking reason.
For instance my mum works in healthcare and it's very obvious she hates her job, yet she keeps trying to force my siblings and i into it.
I currently have a terrible healthcare job anytime i complain, they just insist i power through the suffering.
My theory is that it makes her feel like her suffering is worth it the more ppl she forces into it.
My dad Especially tells me to just bear with it but he himself would never actually work in healthcare because he thinks it's beneath him but he's so quick to tell my siblings and i to do it.
My sister too she keeps telling me to move out even if i have to get roomates becauae she genuinely thinks me having roomates is an acceptable amount of suffering i should be ok with enduring and she gets mad that i insist on just staying with my family until i have enough to move out. She knows that i hate living with strangers more than i hate being harassed by my parents but she just thinks i should just put up with it.
My coworkers too, anytime someone even mentions wanting to do something like going on vacation or switching career paths, suddenly every single person that talks about how much the job sucks, thinks it's better to stay at work and try to talk them.out of it.
If a coworker says they want to spend the weekend sleeping they start suggesting that they should find something to do.
Like why is sleeping a bad thing?!?!
It's like having joy or being happy is seen as being lazy or shameful while suffering is viewed as noble it's just so annoying.
Cause I'm always looked at wierdly for trying to maximize my happiness and minimize my suffering.
Like I'm the kind of person that will happily pay for an uber so i don't have to drive, no matter how expensive it is, yet I'm treated as wasteful because i think my comfort is worth more than the cost of an uber.
This is Especially an issue i see when it comes to enforcing social norms.
My mum yells at me and gets angry all the time for not being a "traditional woman". Even though there are little to no benefits in doing "womanly" things. We are always late to church every week cause my mum has to do makeup and do her hair but she insists that i have to do it to even though i get ready much faster than her and have no interest in doing it.
We're also always late to work too because of it. Like if u know that all this extra bs makes you late why are you trying to force me too?!?!?
If she was doing it because she liked dping it then she would wake up earlier to do it or she'd be ok going without it if she was late but she acts like she's naked if sheeaves the house without makeup.
All my female coworkers keep talking ablut how they need to go on diets so they can wear bathing suits ny July 4th.
Just wear them?!?! Or eat normally the entire year. Why are u depriving urself of normal food for a bathing suit?!?! Like i don't get why they act like they can't eat normally throughout the year. You're only options aren't starving or junkfood every day?!
And then the conversation always flows like they're expecting me to say I'm dieting too. Like no tf I'm not!! I'm not punishing myself to wear a bikini.
