Is suicide parents fault?

[destinationlosangel]

Just to make it short, I'm new here. My 14 y.o died by suicide in January. He took my dad gun and shot himself. Since then I blame myself. I remember he told me once " see that's why I don't tell you things, we argue about everything" he basically was saying I'm not a good listener. I'm suppose to die too I can't live with this guilt I feel that I killed him. I love him so much I can't take it anymore. I'm here to find a method.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Its hard to say unless u look at every aspect of ur relationship with ur son. There are many who have ended up here on this forum because of their parents. All I'll say is dont make the same mistake with your other kids. Love them, be there for them, try to understand them and always be honest with them.

 

[badtothebone]

I standed against harassment and attacking groups many times (look at my halo btw I'm so pure ). So did many others. Charlie, Tesha & Chinaski to name a few.

@badtothebone no one here knows the full background, so no one can tell. Many things could've caused it, but it's totally possible you weren't guilty of anything. Sometimes suicide happens for other factors even with extremely good parenting.

I hate telling others what to do but if you can, please endure for your other two kids, they need you more than you think. It's easy to feel a distant or a burden when one is suicidal but a parent is the single most important person in a kid's life. It's a situation when both sides can't be satisfied since fragile kid brains deal with death even worse than parents do.

Thank you so much! I made the first payment to PI to investigate my son suicide. This will give me some type of peace even if it's temporary so I will seek help for my other two children. I know they need me so much and I appreciate your support and straight forward advice! Coming here changed me to the better! I didn't know this site have great people until I made it here!

I'm sorry for your loss. This wasn't your fault. I lost my family very recently and I'm only 18 years old. You should give yourself time to think. I understand you.. I can understand the pain in your heart. I experienced the same pain.

I'm sorry for your loss too! Thank you for understanding-losing loved ones always very painful regardless to how they died. I think losing someone to suicide in general is very unique in grieving and leave loved ones always asking why what did we do wrong!