Bunnymmm
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- Aug 29, 2022
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Lookism and how pretty you are affects your entire life and outcomes. I think that insurance should cover necessary surgeries to help us ugly people. I have seen too many kitchencels posts to think otherwise.
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I mean.. then it kind of has to be free for everyone? Cause attractiveness is subjective to a degree even if you're rating it based on a scale of conventional standards. And what about the people with extreme body dysmorphia, who are convinced they are "ugly" but have completely warped perceptions of themselves, what would be the approach?Lookism and how pretty you are affects your entire life and outcomes. I think that insurance should cover necessary surgeries to help us ugly people. I have seen too many kitchencels posts to think otherwise.
I don't disagree that some people get surgery not because they're ugly but because of real BDD, and because of this I don't disagree that sometimes surgery ends up looking worse than before. But no, this "aesthetics is subjective" is literally not true, or not in an absolute sense. Attractiveness is... mostly objective really, otherwise most people wouldn't be attracted to mostly the same genetic markers and most importantly lookism wouldn't exist (and neither both Halo and Horns effects).Plastic surgery is a scam, you'll almost certainly end up botched to some degree and look weird. I understand insecurities but it's not the answer. Some things can be adressed naturally, like understanding facial bones anatomy and how that can be influenced thought mewing, proper posture, and certain suture techniques. There is also face yoga and just being lean and healthy. I feel bad for anyone thinking plastic surgery is solution because they are usually just gonna make things way worse. Don't mess with you face, you gonna turn yourself into a freak. When we focus on something very much, our perception gets distorted. Aethetics are subjective. Even the best looking people can be insecure because they convinced themselves that some feature they have is undesirable or could be better. If you can't achieve it through gentle natural techniques, don't bother with it. Accept it or you'll likely ruin your face with surgery and feel million times worse. Feeling botched feels unimaginably worse then insecure.
Plastic surgery is extremely limited in what it can be achieved. Human face is one of most complex shapes in existance. Mother nature or God made our faces to be recognizable, or to have character and that is something that cannot be understood really. It's like art, you can't really understand it scientifically, like why it all has to be together in certain way for it to work. People that have plastic surgery usually end up looking weird. The uncanny valley look. Technically you can give someone certain features that are considered "perfect" and they end up looking extremely weird, unrecognizable, and the character is wiped out of their face. They look generic and it's impossible to put a finger on it.I don't disagree that some people get surgery not because they're ugly but because of real BDD, and because of this I don't disagree that sometimes surgery ends up looking worse than before. But no, this "aesthetics is subjective" is literally not true, or not in an absolute sense. Attractiveness is... mostly objective really, otherwise most people wouldn't be attracted to mostly the same genetic markers and most importantly lookism wouldn't exist (and neither both Halo and Horns effects).
Also, surgery can end up looking worse, but the keyword here is CAN. For some people, surgery would literally improve our faces because we have obvious deformities or asymmetries that make our looks be in the far end of ugliness, objectively (that is, for the inmense majority of people). Why do I say it would literally improve our faces? because we're extremely ugly, so it's very unlikely we would end up being worse, unless they basically butcher us which is frankly a minuscule chance (except if you go to a black market surgeon idk). So, if the bad looks truly exist and are not part of BDD, then no, surgery is not a scam. It's the only way of being treated as a human being, because lookism doesn't just affect dating or quick sex, it also affects job interviews, being treated as a human with basic decency, having friends, basically let's be honest, living.
But yes, it could be the wrong choice for some people, that's for sure.