Help I need to talk with people 40 or so+

[Bea]

No offense to younger people, but I find it difficult to relate as I have fought this for decades. I also, plain and simple, do not feel comfortable discussing this topic with much younger people due to the fact that I was a teacher for years; it just doesn't feel right. I want them to live and to explore.
Please contact me if you are an "older" person who has also battled this for years. Thank you. Peace.

 

[CURSED again]

No offense to younger people, but I find it difficult to relate as I have fought this for decades. I also, plain and simple, do not feel comfortable discussing this topic with much younger people due to the fact that I was a teacher for years; it just doesn't feel right. I want them to live and to explore.
Please contact me if you are an "older" person who has also battled this for years. Thank you. Peace.

hello - what is your question? i rarely find older people on here - i was initially surprised - i haven't battled this for years but the last 2 years i strongly want to exit.

 

[AnnaJaspers]

I am 39, soon to be 40 in a few weeks. I have also struggled for decades.

My time has come to end this charade.

 

[Bathsheba]

No offense to younger people, but I find it difficult to relate as I have fought this for decades. I also, plain and simple, do not feel comfortable discussing this topic with much younger people due to the fact that I was a teacher for years; it just doesn't feel right. I want them to live and to explore.
Please contact me if you are an "older" person who has also battled this for years. Thank you. Peace.

I'm 43.. and have been feeling like this for years. Looking back I think my bpd kicked in as a teenager and I've felt this way ever since then.

 

[Justme67]

Hi. I am a female, older (in my forties), and have been dealing with depression and thoughts of suicide for a long time. If you, or anyone here, would like to chat, I'm here.

 

[Stan]

I am male and 51. Never sought any form of clinical advise, as Hannibal Lecter said "Do you think you can dissect me with that blunt tool?" Seen too many people go to doctors and just have pills thrown at them.

 

[Stan]

I understand wanting to talk to people of your own age, but just because someone is young, that doesn't invalidate their problems. It's not a competition about who has it the worst, or who's been fighting it the longest.

I think @Bea described the situation quite well. If your vocation was to educate and get the potential out of young people, then it could be difficult to have that type of conversation. Its a poor simile but its like a doctor becoming an executioner, but that's how I interpreted it

 

[justanotherday]

No offense to younger people, but I find it difficult to relate as I have fought this for decades. I also, plain and simple, do not feel comfortable discussing this topic with much younger people due to the fact that I was a teacher for years; it just doesn't feel right. I want them to live and to explore.
Please contact me if you are an "older" person who has also battled this for years. Thank you. Peace.

As an older person, I get it.

 

[CURSED again]

wow - this is great - several people offering assistance - i hope @Bea is finding what she needs -

 

[Lost]

I get it. I am older too

 

[Not_Quite_Dead_Yet]

I get it. I am older too

Same here. Not only do I not always "get" youngsters, they don't "get" me. Ageism is a real thing. I recently had a Millennial doctor lecture me...."A person your age should know better..." Barf.

 

[Justme67]

I have a son in his twenties and would feel uncomfortable talking about suicide with others his age. Although my life sucks, I still want others to succeed. I feel the poster said what he said out of thoughtfulness.

 

[Bea]

I think @Bea described the situation quite well. If your vocation was to educate and get the potential out of young people, then it could be difficult to have that type of conversation. Its a poor simile but its like a doctor becoming an executioner, but that's how I interpreted it

I am absolutely not discounting younger people, as I have struggled with this since my teenage years. I just don't feel comfortable discussing the topic with younger people, as I described. My job has always been to inspire and encourage them. I think it's understandable that I would want to talk about this with people who are closer to my age right now, is all. Peace.

 

[Justme67]

Bea, you have a few members here who are in the older age group. We are listening. Begin the discussion

 

[Bea]

hello - what is your question? i rarely find older people on here - i was initially surprised - i haven't battled this for years but the last 2 years i strongly want to exit.

I didn't have a particular question. I just wanted to talk to some OLD FOLKS. lol ;)

Bea, you have a few members here who are in the older age group. We are listening. Begin the discussion

OK, wow. I'd like to talk about battling this for lotsa years..........

I didn't have a particular question. I just wanted to talk to some OLD FOLKS. lol ;)

OK, wow. I'd like to talk about battling this for lotsa years..........

Also, as I mentioned, I am not comfortable talking with younger people on this topic because I was a teacher for over twenty years and feel compelled to encourage young people, not help them kill themselves. Ouch. I really hope I don't get banned for being age-ist.

Bea, you have a few members here who are in the older age group. We are listening. Begin the discussion

What's your story? Talk to me!!!

I think @Bea described the situation quite well. If your vocation was to educate and get the potential out of young people, then it could be difficult to have that type of conversation. Its a poor simile but its like a doctor becoming an executioner, but that's how I interpreted it

Absolutely NOT a contest.

I think @Bea described the situation quite well. If your vocation was to educate and get the potential out of young people, then it could be difficult to have that type of conversation. Its a poor simile but its like a doctor becoming an executioner, but that's how I interpreted it

Yes, thank you, Stan. I'm overwhelmed ~ in a good way ~ with the amount of response.

Hi. I am a female, older (in my forties), and have been dealing with depression and thoughts of suicide for a long time. If you, or anyone here, would like to chat, I'm here.

Thank you for your response. Please tell your story, if you'd like..........I want to hear it.

Same here. Not only do I not always "get" youngsters, they don't "get" me. Ageism is a real thing. I recently had a Millennial doctor lecture me...."A person your age should know better..." Barf.

LOL. ;)

 

[AnnaJaspers]

Thanks for starting this thread for us old-timers who can't cope anymore.

Looking forward to swapping stories and I will share mine tomorrow.

 

[Mr2005]

I'm 33 is that old enough? I feel I've more in common with the older generation now since I'm always trying to stop them making the same mistakes I did. I'm totally out of touch already since they grew up while I had problems. I still understand them more than they understand me because I've been in their position they haven't been in mine

 

[AnnaJaspers]

I'm 33 is that old enough? I feel I've more in common with the older generation now since I'm always trying to stop them making the same mistakes I did. I'm totally out of touch already since they grew up while I had problems. I still understand them more than they understand me because I've been in their position they haven't been in mine

No idea. You'd have to ask Bea. I think 35 and older but that is me.

 

[Bea]

wow - this is great - several people offering assistance - i hope @Bea is finding what she needs -

I certainly am! I am overwhelmed with the response. Thank you all. Wow.

 

[KiraComplex]

Im young but i just want to say im sorry for life dealing you brothers and sisters (and in between) such cards :(
To suffer for decades, i cant imagine.

 

[Bea]

No idea. You'd have to ask Bea. I think 35 and older but that is me.

LOL!!!!!! I suppose 35 qualifies as long as you are at least mentally 45. ;)

Im young but i just want to say im sorry for life dealing you brothers and sisters (and in between) such cards :(
To suffer for decades, i cant imagine.

I respect anyone, of any age, who is dealing with suicidal ideation. It's my issue that I struggle talking with younger people about it. It's due to my background.

 

[Beautifulletdown]

Hey Bea, I wanted to throw my hat in the ring. I've been dealing with my MDD and suicidal thoughts since age 10 and recently developed an issue with anxiety. I'm now 42. I'm here if you ever want to chat. Be well.

 

[Bea]

Im young but i just want to say im sorry for life dealing you brothers and sisters (and in between) such cards :(
To suffer for decades, i cant imagine.

It does suck to suffer for decades, but that doesn't have to be your reality. But, if it turns out to be so, here we are.

Hey Bea, I wanted to throw my hat in the ring. I've been dealing with my MDD and suicidal thoughts since age 10 and recently developed an issue with anxiety. I'm now 42. I'm here if you ever want to chat. Be well.

I'm sorry, what's MDD?

 

[Beautifulletdown]

It does suck to suffer for decades, but that doesn't have to be your reality. But, if it turns out to be so, here we are.

I'm sorry, what's MDD?

It sucks but we don't have a choice in the hand dealt. Sorry, it's Major Depressive Disorder. Back when I was diagnosed at 13, it was clinical depression.

 

[Mr2005]

It didn't have to be the reality at all. What's taken fifteen years could have been over in a day. If that isn't reason enough to commit suicide I don't know what is

 

[Bea]

It sucks but we don't have a choice in the hand dealt. Sorry, it's Major Depressive Disorder. Back when I was diagnosed at 13, it was clinical depression.

Of course, yes, Major Depressive. Got it.

It didn't have to be the reality at all. What's taken fifteen years could have been over in a day. If that isn't reason enough to commit suicide I don't know what is

Let's not encourage, please.

 

[Mr2005]

I'm not encouraging anyone. Neither am I asking them to encourage me. I'm just facing reality

 

[Bea]

I'm not encouraging anyone. Neither am I asking them to encourage me. I'm just facing reality

Fair enough. But, we should be careful here.

 

[SelfHatingAspie]

43 year old checking in.

Whilst I've been in a pretty dark place for most of my adult life, hindsight has shown me that you probably don't want to rip yourself off by deciding to ctb at a young age. My best years where when I was 37-39, and I would never have seen those had I going through with ctb in my early 30s. Of course, things went rapidly downhill after I turned 40, and I can't see there being any real chance of improvement between now and when I pass.

I've got a lot of opinions in relation to ctb and age; the two main ones being that the younger someone ctb the more tragic it is, and that everybody aged 50 or older should have the right to choose voluntary euthanasia even if they are otherwise physically healthy.

 

[k75]

I'm 40. I haven't been struggling with this as long as a lot around here have, but if you need another friendly ear, feel free to message me.