Venting I cant get a job and I am a NEET trying my hardest, it's so frustrating

[Despondent_Fondant]

I live in a small town in Canada. I have applied basically everywhere in my town, several times. I have tried learning new skills and getting remote work at call centers and selling various products, no luck. I have a great resume and did well in highschool, I am literally applying everywhere for anything and I just cant get employment. It's so goddamn frustrating, I'm going on 19 and all my family can seem to talk about is how I am not working and how this gap year has been for nothing and I am useless and pathetic. I feel like I am slipping back into being suicidal again, and I honestly know if I do I wont survive this time. Thanks for reading.

 

[EmptyBlackSoul]

God I feel that. I lived in a small Canadian town for a while too before moving down south near Toronto (again). Me being disabled feels like the cherry on top of it all.

 

[Despondent_Fondant]

God I feel that. I lived in a small Canadian town for a while too before moving down south near Toronto (again). Me being disabled feels like the cherry on top of it all.

Bro I still am looking and I still have found nothing it's crazy, like cant even really further my life if I cant get employment. Thanks for sympathizing I appreciate it. I used to live in oshawa before I had to move, and honestly I could not imagine how hard it would be to live in cities like that while disabled. I wish you all the luck, much love.

 

[birthdaylastwish]

Finding Jobs is hard. Remember that the job also has to find you. I know that same frustation deeply. Its not your fault.

Hope things get better

 

[genie]

I'm a NEET not trying to get a job, I have autism though. I'm on welfare fortunately. I have no good qualifications or drive to get a job. Is welfare a possibility where you are? It may help until you get on your feet.

 

[Despondent_Fondant]

I'm a NEET not trying to get a job, I have autism though. I'm on welfare fortunately. I have no good qualifications or drive to get a job. Is welfare a possibility where you are? It may help until you get on your feet.

Welfare is not possible where I am unfortunately :( . I have even ramped up the job search this last month to AT LEAST 4 or 5 resumes put out a day and still nothing. Like I am applying for minimum wage and nothing more, I can feel my mental slipping again.

Finding Jobs is hard. Remember that the job also has to find you. I know that same frustation deeply. Its not your fault.

Hope things get better

thank you so much for the kind words. Still no job despite my efforts thus far, but this really helped. My family sees me as a useless pathetic nobody, so words like this really hit home for me <3

 

[Higurashi415]

Try to learn coding bro, seriously. You can get jobs that pay decently after a few months if you put the work in.
And you can still apply for other jobs and even work while you study, but that's what I'd advise.
It ain't easy but at least it depends on you and not some stupid and expensive institution that may or may not give you a degree

 

[Despondent_Fondant]

Try to learn coding bro, seriously. You can get jobs that pay decently after a few months if you put the work in.
And you can still apply for other jobs and even work while you study, but that's what I'd advise.
It ain't easy but at least it depends on you and not some stupid and expensive institution that may or may not give you a degree

funny you should say this because I actually am learning to code, but with the advent of AI I dont really know if it's a good return on investment anymore, but I think it's a good skill anyway. I would say I spend a few hours a day learning to code!

 

[graysme]

I feel sorry about your family talking shit about you since you're trying so hard. Maybe consider university or a professional degree if your search won't bring you far, but you'll probably find something before thinking about this. Good luck my friend

 

[Despondent_Fondant]

This is the OP, I finally got a job! I am now a cashier!!!! IK it's stupid but after this long trying im so glad to have any job. Everyone who replied you really helped me a lot. It was rough for a while, and still is but you all helped. Much love <3

 

[Sakura.]

God I feel that. I lived in a small Canadian town for a while too before moving down south near Toronto (again). Me being disabled feels like the cherry on top of it all.

Hi, EmptyBlackSoul! Today is your special day! Today is your birthday!

Happy birthday! I hope you will recover! I wish you all the best!

 

[volo]

This is the OP, I finally got a job! I am now a cashier!!!! IK it's stupid but after this long trying im so glad to have any job. Everyone who replied you really helped me a lot. It was rough for a while, and still is but you all helped. Much love <3

Congrats on getting the job! if I were you, I would try to get out of your town and move to a bigger city.

 

[violetforever]

I'm going on 19 and all my family can seem to talk about is how I am not working and how this gap year has been for nothing and I am useless and pathetic.

this is insane to me. youre barely an adult and very recently graduated yet already being called useless and pathetic. can your parents at least give you some time to adjust? its so discouraging, im sorry.

 

[DonLockwood]

I live in a small town in Canada. I have applied basically everywhere in my town, several times. I have tried learning new skills and getting remote work at call centers and selling various products, no luck. I have a great resume and did well in highschool, I am literally applying everywhere for anything and I just cant get employment. It's so goddamn frustrating, I'm going on 19 and all my family can seem to talk about is how I am not working and how this gap year has been for nothing and I am useless and pathetic. I feel like I am slipping back into being suicidal again, and I honestly know if I do I wont survive this time. Thanks for reading.

I'm in the same boat. Been job hunting for a long while now and haven't gotten anything. Can't even do basic retail jobs without a reference here. It's terrible. It's gotten so bad that my Dad is starting to help me with imputting with jobs and feels the constant need to bring up that he's helping me with it. He might mean nothing by it but I see it somewhat differently. Even the polite "Oh don't worry, You'll get one soon" I get from my Mum have vanished. Can't help but wonder if they both wan't me out ASAP. But I can't believe that your parents are calling you 'useless and pathetic'. My god, some parents they are...

I've gotten close 2 times but didn't get it. It's like God is playing a trick on me. 1st time I've got close I've already talked about on here, but the most recent more is even more terrible. One of the jobs I applied to just to reach my jobs target so I can get my welfare money rings me back and asks for an interview. It was a real shot in the dark since I believed I had no chance. I do the interview and I believe it went quite well. They ring me a week later to say that they want to move forward with the application but I need to get a Working With Childrens check since the role involves working in a school. I get the check done instantly and they go "Great! We'll get back to you about your first day."

A week goes by and I hear nothing. So I just politely ring them back and ask if everything was okay with starting my first day. I immediatley get greeted with a
"Wait, who's this?"
This guy is probably going through a bunch of different people and simply forgot my name.
"Oh it's [name], you rang me the other week about starting.
"Are you [name] [different last name]?
What? No don't tell me.

They thought I was someone else. What an absolute gutpunch. I spent $107 on a background check for a job I didn't get in the end. Just great.

Sorry btw if this sounded like I've just unloaded a bunch of stuff on you. I just wanted to get this out of my system.

 

[EmptyBlackSoul]

Hi, EmptyBlackSoul! Today is your special day! Today is your birthday!

Happy birthday! I hope you will recover! I wish you all the best!

Thank you I'm still alive...for now haha.