Venting Hypersexuality and sexlessness

[Sadbanana]

For those that don't know I'm asperger and finding a girlfriend is literally impossible for me.

While reading some other posts about hypersexuality I have realized I have it too.

I think both of these things are horrible by themsevels, but their combination feels like pure torture. It's a sick joke, universe making fun of me.

 

[AnxiousLife]

It is so sad, that finding a sexual parner is so difficult for a lot of men. Women a lot of the times have standards like: be initiative, dominant, confident, extroverted, good looking, funny and if you do not meet each one of them, than chances of finding someone rapidly drop. It is so fucked up in my opinion. A lot of women can be mean, have different mental issues, addictions, but they still mostly can find sexual/romantic partner with ease. "Equality" they say

 

[youremy]

Try to put yourself in their shoes for a second.

There are countless women who struggle with the same problems.

As for the women who have these "standards" - imagine for one second that your sexuality is a lot more complex than seeing someone attractive of the opposite sex and immediately being prepared to sleep with them. What if you were hard-wired to be attracted to a lot of different qualities, and the exact behaviour and approach that seduced you was difficult to explain or outline on paper?

And then someone slanders you on the internet for it. But it's just the way you are.

Besides, everybody is different. Every quality that someone can have is normally-distributed. You'll always find outliers.

 

[AnxiousLife]

Try to put yourself in their shoes for a second.

There are countless women who struggle with the same problems.

As for the women who have these "standards" - imagine for one second that your sexuality is a lot more complex than seeing someone attractive of the opposite sex and immediately being prepared to sleep with them. What if you were hard-wired to be attracted to a lot of different qualities, and the exact behaviour and approach that seduced you was difficult to explain or outline on paper?

And then someone slanders you on the internet for it. But it's just the way you are.

Besides, everybody is different. Every quality that someone can have is normally-distributed. You'll always find outliers.

I have tried to put myself in their shoes, and it feels amazing. I would have chosen an opposite gender immeditely, if it was an option when I was born and I could have known the implications of being a man/woman.

You are trying to frame it as if women have it difficult as well, on the same level. The reality is, averagely, women have it a lot easier, especially in online dating, which is very popular.

Even from my own experience, most of women I met, who have depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, avoidant PD, different addictions, despite all of their problems, they most of the times have a relationship or have had a relationship recently, and if not a relationship, than something casual with someone. It's singnificantly more rare to find a woman, who cannot find a relationship. We are not even talking about casual sex (which some women want), which is even more unbalanced.

For men, most of the times, with these types of symptoms, it's almost impossible to find someone, moreover if they are submissive and not initiative/confident

 

[Aknu132]

I wish I didn't feel this need to love and be loved. this feeling, unfortunately, will hurt me until I die. Fuck, it causes so much pain.

 

[xhersekk]

That torture It is nature's urging to reproduce, your genes sense the danger of extinction :)

 

[Sadbanana]

That torture It is nature's urging to reproduce, your genes sense the danger of extinction :)

Extinction is good, my genes should be happy they won't have to be here again xd