Help How to make people hate me?

[joegoes100]

I'm committing on February 14th, I'm already set on it, but I want to make sure no one misses me. I figured I'd try to make people dislike me before I die so no one feels bad. I don't know how to though and I need tips. I'm a friendly and semi popular person in my community and I don't have any grudges, so I'm scared people won't take me serious. It's also hard for me to actually make them hate me because I'm so reliant on what others think of me. Please I need any input on how to make them dislike me.

 

[MyLifeisHell]

You're not gonna flip people's opinions of you that easily unless you do some truly vile shit and any sudden and abrupt shifts in character are liable to be later interpreted in light of your suicide.

Do you want to talk about what's going on?

 

[joegoes100]

You're not gonna flip people's opinions of you that easily unless you do some truly vile shit and any sudden and abrupt shifts in character are liable to be later interpreted in light of your suicide.

Do you want to talk about what's going on?

That's what im worried about but I just want to be forgotten. I don't wanna burden anyone with guilt or pity that I died.
And no, it's okay.

 

[cyanidekitty]

That's what im worried about but I just want to be forgotten. I don't wanna burden anyone with guilt or pity that I died.
And no, it's okay.

i think atleast someone will realize later on like "oh so thats why they tried to get me to hate them." almost as if it makes sense now lol

but seriously, ppl will most likely still grieve or be sympathetic anyway
even people i dont know who ive read up on i still think about from time to time

 

[FloopDog]

I'm committing on February 14th, I'm already set on it, but I want to make sure no one misses me. I figured I'd try to make people dislike me before I die so no one feels bad. I don't know how to though and I need tips. I'm a friendly and semi popular person in my community and I don't have any grudges, so I'm scared people won't take me serious. It's also hard for me to actually make them hate me because I'm so reliant on what others think of me. Please I need any input on how to make them dislike me.

Discuss politics, that seems to do the trick even if they aren't your true beliefs they seem to make people go the other way, that's coming from someone with BPD, I usually self destruct, I tell people lies just to make them hate me, I don't know why it's just how it goes. That's for Americans at least, if you're from another country try something else controversial.

 

[acidjar]

I don't want to hurt the people I love either. I love them so much. I am so miserable but they make living slightly more comfortable. But it's not enough to want to live for them. So I understand.

The next best thing is doing everything I can to hurt them less. I've thought about isolating myself and making them not care about me. But it just doesn't seem like it'd work out. Honestly, it'd probably hurt them more. I think about scenarios where one of my friends start backing away and then I hear that they killed themself later on. And god, I'd feel so awful. Like maybe I could've done something about it. Or that I wanted to at least talk to them one more time or something.

I've kinda resigned myself to the fact that if I'm killing myself, someone is going to get hurt. There's probably no good solution to it. But maybe I can leave less unanswered questions and bring them some closure. So I'll write a note explaining why I'm killing myself, why it's not their fault and that I was planning this out for a long time now so there wasn't anything they could've done to change this.

 

[joegoes100]

i think atleast someone will realize later on like "oh so thats why they tried to get me to hate them." almost as if it makes sense now lol

but seriously, ppl will most likely still grieve or be sympathetic anyway
even people i dont know who ive read up on i still think about from time to time

I never considered that honestly.

Discuss politics, that seems to do the trick even if they aren't your true beliefs they seem to make people go the other way, that's coming from someone with BPD, I usually self destruct, I tell people lies just to make them hate me, I don't know why it's just how it goes. That's for Americans at least, if you're from another country try something else controversial.

I'm in America also so this will actually work perfectly.

I don't want to hurt the people I love either. I love them so much. I am so miserable but they make living slightly more comfortable. But it's not enough to want to live for them. So I understand.

The next best thing is doing everything I can to hurt them less. I've thought about isolating myself and making them not care about me. But it just doesn't seem like it'd work out. Honestly, it'd probably hurt them more. I think about scenarios where one of my friends start backing away and then I hear that they killed themself later on. And god, I'd feel so awful. Like maybe I could've done something about it. Or that I wanted to at least talk to them one more time or something.

I've kinda resigned myself to the fact that if I'm killing myself, someone is going to get hurt. There's probably no good solution to it. But maybe I can leave less unanswered questions and bring them some closure. So I'll write a note explaining why I'm killing myself, why it's not their fault and that I was planning this out for a long time now so there wasn't anything they could've done to change this.

Thank you for the input.
No one would understand my reasoning, so I'm leaving a simple note. Until then I think I'll just isolate my self from everyone.

 

[MyLifeisHell]

That's what im worried about but I just want to be forgotten. I don't wanna burden anyone with guilt or pity that I died.
And no, it's okay.

You may not want to but I'm afraid that's how it will be. So trying to make peace with or ameliorate something that is bound to happen is better and more realistic than trying to prevent it completely.

 

[joegoes100]

You may not want to but I'm afraid that's how it will be. So trying to make peace with or ameliorate something that is bound to happen is better and more realistic than trying to prevent it completely.

I will try. I have a lot of time to my self so I'll just think about it a lot.