Venting Got made fun of in a nightclub

[Lamentice]

I love dancing, I go out alone often to just dance, have been for years. I like dressing up, doing makeup, "turning a look" so to speak; 1/2 of it is getting to dress up as art and 1/2 of it is dancing that makes it fun. I've had so many issues the past year, from insanse misogyny at one gay club I had been a regular to on the weekends (don't go there anymore) to now this....

Multiple groups of adult women made fun of me a few nights ago. I took 5mg of THC to loosen up, but I don't drink, so I wouldn't really say I was not in my right mind to perceive what was going on around me. I mean women overtly mocking my dance moves, then laughing to each other, crowding in on me on purpose like they were trying to push me off the dance floor or even hit me, I don't know. I adjusted my skirt at one point and then immediately a group of adult women started pretending to adjust their jeans in a very mocking, bullying way and then laughed. Then the groups (it was like 3 groups before I just left) would leave my vicinity like I was a plague. One group was seemingly attempting to push me off the dance floor before a song came on and it was a faster beat so I was trying to ignore them and enjoy dancing faster and 2 of the girls left and I heard another tell their friend while looking at me, "Yeah, with that song specifically it was just really bad vibes."

Maybe my unsocial behavior from being schizoid gives off bad vibes? I don't participate with others much, no eye contact, don't like to chat or connect, but I am polite and keep to myself so what the fuck is the issue?

I heard another group making fun of how I was dressed, which all these women were next to me in clear ear shot so they really seemed to want me to know.

I used to have so much fun going out, even met people most nights, but in the past year it feels like I've transfered to a parallel universe where people are bullying in adult spaces in ways so absurd I would have believed they'd only happen in fucking fiction. Is this a social media thing? I haven't had social media in 2 years or more now... like what is this? I feel like I have whiplash.

I don't even know, I don't want something that has been an expressive, artistic, destressing outlet for me to be taken because grown adults are acting like teenagers, but.. I also don't want to keep going through this, it's crushing and infuriating.

I don't even know how to process this behavior from other people, I am genuinely so at a loss for how wild that experience was....

 

[Forveleth]

You ignore them. You do your own thing and be happy you can have a good time without needing to be an absolute cunt to someone else.

 

[Lamentice]

You ignore them. You do your own thing and be happy you can have a good time without needing to be an absolute cunt to someone else.

You're right, just kind of unsure how to do this right now, but I'm determined to go out this next weekend to have a better experience. Thinking I should just arrive early and claim a spot by the DJ booth so I can't even see other people the whole night and can just exist in my bubble.

 

[Forveleth]

You're right, just kind of unsure how to do this right now, but I'm determined to go out this next weekend to have a better experience. Thinking I should just arrive early and claim a spot by the DJ booth so I can't even see other people the whole night and can just exist in my bubble.

As someone who dresses "alternative" I leaned to literally ignore people. If someone does not look obviously distressed or like they very much need my attention, I do not even process their existence. My partner has made comments to me several time while out that people were staring at me or pointing and I genuinely had no idea. It is a skill that has to be developed but becomes natural with practice.