Every day is just so empty

[byec560]

Unemployed student here. Gotta work on my thesis that I've been procrastinating on but it just feels so distant and pointless. Rejection after rejection from jobs I want and I'm too lazy and weak-willed to put the fries in the bag or stock shelves. Never see anybody during the week. See people on the weekends, but I don't feel connected to any of my friends in the slightest. Same shallow, boring conversations all the time. They don't really trust me, and to be honest I'm not entirely sure why. Barely know anyone who has any woman friends, and the few that do won't introduce me. Tried online dating but nobody liked my profile. No chances at getting a good job. No chances at getting a girlfriend. Bored of my friends and the feeling seems to be mutual. Bored of life. No sign of anything ever getting better. What the fuck am I supposed to do all the time? Thinking of all the people who hurt me just yucking it up while my life is so empty causes something like a sharp pain in my stomach. I sleep so much. I almost never want to eat. Don't really want to ctb anymore, but I just don't know what my life is gonna look like from here on out. I'm tired boss. I don't know if I can keep going like this.

 

[enjoytheride]

I can relate to most of what you have shared. The best solution I have found so far is to keep going, no matter how painful it is. Keep going through the dark forest in hope of finding that bright meadow. Take a rest there, keep going until we see the plains... There could be a better solution, I just haven't found it yet. Faith helps me keep going through the forest, but it still at times seems to not give the batteries of my soul enough charge.

Hugs, my dear!

 

[Dinorun]

dont get discouraged about the job and finding a relationship, i know how painful those rejections can be, but try to remmber that a lot of the times the rejections have a lot to do with external factors that have nothing to do with you, could be that the hr woman getting your cv just had a bad day or she just picked the one paper before yours out of the pile or milion other reasons

you dont get attention on some dating site? so what. if they rejected your look or based on how your profile is set up they did you a favor because it wouldnt have worked anyways, you are not looking for just any woman and even 100 likes in a inbox means nothing. you are looking for the one who will like you for you.

saying there is no chance based on past experince is a broad generlization. you just didnt whats yours yet and if you stop looking you will doom yourself.
remmber that in the end of the day you need just one girl to say yes and one company to take the risk on you and let you though the door and i promise you someone is out there who is meant for you and it will happen when you least expect it. keep trying and it will hit.

 

[hurts2b-old]

I dropped out because my experience with university was much the same. Now unemployed with no hope for anything better. This is the realest post on this whole damn site.

 

[Pallf]

I finished my bachelor's in December of 2025 and I'm in the same boat. can't get a job, I have debt piling up, and I don't see a way out. I don't want to CTB, I just need a lifeline.

 

[byec560]

dont get discouraged about the job and finding a relationship, i know how painful those rejections can be, but try to remmber that a lot of the times the rejections have a lot to do with external factors that have nothing to do with you, could be that the hr woman getting your cv just had a bad day or she just picked the one paper before yours out of the pile or milion other reasons

you dont get attention on some dating site? so what. if they rejected your look or based on how your profile is set up they did you a favor because it wouldnt have worked anyways, you are not looking for just any woman and even 100 likes in a inbox means nothing. you are looking for the one who will like you for you.

saying there is no chance based on past experince is a broad generlization. you just didnt whats yours yet and if you stop looking you will doom yourself.
remmber that in the end of the day you need just one girl to say yes and one company to take the risk on you and let you though the door and i promise you someone is out there who is meant for you and it will happen when you least expect it. keep trying and it will hit.

"try to remmber that a lot of the times the rejections have a lot to do with external factors that have nothing to do with you"
I mean, a little bit of column A and a little bit of column B. The job market is fucked and I have a piece of trash degree. But even my friends with legitimately good credentials are struggling so I don't hold out much hope for myself.

"wouldnt have worked anyways, you are not looking for just any woman and even 100 likes in a inbox means nothing. you are looking for the one who will like you for you."
Yeah but don't you think finding the one woman would be more expedient if I had 100 opportunities instead of zero?

"saying there is no chance based on past experince is a broad generlization."
Saying the sun will come up tomorrow is a broad generalization. Sure, it's come up a billion times before, but there's always tomorrow!

"someone is out there who is meant for you and it will happen when you least expect it"
Until that one person gets bored and leaves, maybe.

I don't mean to be overly aggro for no reason, but I'm just saying my life circumstances don't inspire hope. Some of it's my fault, some of it is not my fault. You're right there for sure, but also both me and the things surrounding me make up the texture of my life and neither are looking so hot for me.

 

[Dinorun]

"try to remmber that a lot of the times the rejections have a lot to do with external factors that have nothing to do with you"
I mean, a little bit of column A and a little bit of column B. The job market is fucked and I have a piece of trash degree. But even my friends with legitimately good credentials are struggling so I don't hold out much hope for myself.

"wouldnt have worked anyways, you are not looking for just any woman and even 100 likes in a inbox means nothing. you are looking for the one who will like you for you."
Yeah but don't you think finding the one woman would be more expedient if I had 100 opportunities instead of zero?

"saying there is no chance based on past experince is a broad generlization."
Saying the sun will come up tomorrow is a broad generalization. Sure, it's come up a billion times before, but there's always tomorrow!

"someone is out there who is meant for you and it will happen when you least expect it"
Until that one person gets bored and leaves, maybe.

I don't mean to be overly aggro for no reason, but I'm just saying my life circumstances don't inspire hope. Some of it's my fault, some of it is not my fault. You're right there for sure, but also both me and the things surrounding me make up the texture of my life and neither are looking so

Regarding the first part: Ofcurse it's a combination of a lot of things that directly do with you and those that don't
but what I'm saying is offer yourself some grace don't be so hard on yourself as if you are solely responsible using it to fuel self hatered and doom pattern of thinking
It's ok to not hold hope but giving up is a whole other thing. It's a numbers game

What you said about your friends if anything it's proving that you may have hard time even if you had better credentials it's just showing that many people struggle and you shouldn't focus on your and be mad about your "piece of tresh degree" compared too..
Keep trying



About the second part: yeah no shit if you had 100 matches you would have better chance at finding someone
But it's love.. there are people who switch partner every week and it means nothing anymore and there are people who got married to the first person they dated

We don't have equal starting point due to looks status wealth etc but this is how the world works. You can say it would have been easier if I had 100 matches or you just accept that you have 0 and still not give up


Third everywhere I went I was a isolated loner yeah I had "friends" but they weren't really friends.. I never really got close to anyone or was invited anywhere and I spent my high school escaping to computer games becuse I hated myself and had bad environment (technically) I met 1000s of women through school army some of them were friends some thought I was a complete loser it flantuates I would always get rejected and I asked a lot at best I'd get dropped after 2-3 dates "you are a great guy but"… I'd pay for everything I'd drive long times to see them everything I could based on that I myself reached the conclusion that I'm fundamentally unloveable low status zero, I convinced myself I'll die alone as you wrote no one will stay for me when everyone can get better than me and stuff it's the only logical conclusion after so many years of humaliation and I truly understand it
But then I met my gf and it wasn't some sort of a compermise or anything she's more beautiful inside and out than any of woman I asked out and was interested before I was convinced from day 1 she's too good for me and there's a catch..
nope… she proved to me that alllll my past rejections all the times I've been hurt none of it matters
Your broad generalization can be true for all your life………. Until one day someone comes and breaks it on your face…


And yeah part of me still thinks im boring and she will leave but every day we choose each other and even if one day she will leave I know I'll be ok just like I was with all the rejections before her… if anything it's a strength… look around you at all the couples do you think they were not dropped many times before by other people? You just keep going becuse you need only one match


Yeah your life don't inspire hope I understand it but you just keep going becuse stopping is not an option
If I had said nah it's hopeless and not began trying to talk with my girl we would forever be two strangers
And I wouldnt meet that amazing person
You can be down, you can aknowlage you are at the bottom but you never know when the tides will turn and you will start rising





I don't know if you read this far and I doubt it but I wouldn't invest and write this much if I didn't care about you maybe I identify someone who's going through similar pains to mine

I truly wish you will find friends who like you (I still struggle with it myself) a gf, a good job
That one day you will look back and laugh and most importantly the strength to give yourself slack and compassion

 

[4colliez]

I feel the same way lol. I just finished my exams for the year and now I literally have nothing to do. Can't do much out in the heat and the only thing that could add substance to my day is the gym but I'm losing motivation for that too. I'm planning on looking for jobs after the summer but the prospect of going back into minimum wage costumer service genuinely makes my depression worse. I sleep all day but I am just so tired still lol. Nothing and no one to do things with and I feel like I can't change that so I'm accepting this may be my life form now on. It all just feels so exhausting and pointless but we're here and keep on keeping on i guess

 

[byec560]

Regarding the first part: Ofcurse it's a combination of a lot of things that directly do with you and those that don't
but what I'm saying is offer yourself some grace don't be so hard on yourself as if you are solely responsible using it to fuel self hatered and doom pattern of thinking
It's ok to not hold hope but giving up is a whole other thing. It's a numbers game

What you said about your friends if anything it's proving that you may have hard time even if you had better credentials it's just showing that many people struggle and you shouldn't focus on your and be mad about your "piece of tresh degree" compared too..
Keep trying



About the second part: yeah no shit if you had 100 matches you would have better chance at finding someone
But it's love.. there are people who switch partner every week and it means nothing anymore and there are people who got married to the first person they dated

We don't have equal starting point due to looks status wealth etc but this is how the world works. You can say it would have been easier if I had 100 matches or you just accept that you have 0 and still not give up


Third everywhere I went I was a isolated loner yeah I had "friends" but they weren't really friends.. I never really got close to anyone or was invited anywhere and I spent my high school escaping to computer games becuse I hated myself and had bad environment (technically) I met 1000s of women through school army some of them were friends some thought I was a complete loser it flantuates I would always get rejected and I asked a lot at best I'd get dropped after 2-3 dates "you are a great guy but"… I'd pay for everything I'd drive long times to see them everything I could based on that I myself reached the conclusion that I'm fundamentally unloveable low status zero, I convinced myself I'll die alone as you wrote no one will stay for me when everyone can get better than me and stuff it's the only logical conclusion after so many years of humaliation and I truly understand it
But then I met my gf and it wasn't some sort of a compermise or anything she's more beautiful inside and out than any of woman I asked out and was interested before I was convinced from day 1 she's too good for me and there's a catch..
nope… she proved to me that alllll my past rejections all the times I've been hurt none of it matters
Your broad generalization can be true for all your life………. Until one day someone comes and breaks it on your face…


And yeah part of me still thinks im boring and she will leave but every day we choose each other and even if one day she will leave I know I'll be ok just like I was with all the rejections before her… if anything it's a strength… look around you at all the couples do you think they were not dropped many times before by other people? You just keep going becuse you need only one match


Yeah your life don't inspire hope I understand it but you just keep going becuse stopping is not an option
If I had said nah it's hopeless and not began trying to talk with my girl we would forever be two strangers
And I wouldnt meet that amazing person
You can be down, you can aknowlage you are at the bottom but you never know when the tides will turn and you will start rising





I don't know if you read this far and I doubt it but I wouldn't invest and write this much if I didn't care about you maybe I identify someone who's going through similar pains to mine

I truly wish you will find friends who like you (I still struggle with it myself) a gf, a good job
That one day you will look back and laugh and most importantly the strength to give yourself slack and compassion

Thanks for the kind words. To clarify, I think my friends like me, but we're just not in a super trusting relationship lol. Trusted my last gf a whole lot but she ended up saying and doing things that made me change my view of her pretty substantially. Since then I've just been noticing some not-so-great stuff in my environment and people are starting to seem pretty nasty and selfish from where I'm sitting. Oh well, I guess. Glad to hear that things seem to be working out relatively well for you. Always good to see on a forum as bleak as this one.

I feel the same way lol. I just finished my exams for the year and now I literally have nothing to do. Can't do much out in the heat and the only thing that could add substance to my day is the gym but I'm losing motivation for that too. I'm planning on looking for jobs after the summer but the prospect of going back into minimum wage costumer service genuinely makes my depression worse. I sleep all day but I am just so tired still lol. Nothing and no one to do things with and I feel like I can't change that so I'm accepting this may be my life form now on. It all just feels so exhausting and pointless but we're here and keep on keeping on i guess

Idk about you, but for me the constant treadmill of trying to get better is just so exhausting. Make friends -> try to be friends with their friends -> nothing happens -> make other friends -> do them a bunch of favors -> nothing happens -> apply for jobs -> nothing happens -> don't apply for jobs -> nothing happens. Mindset problem maybe, but god it sure is depressing.

 

[itsgone2]

Just wondering but for OP and others on this thread the main issue is work.
We need work. We need purpose.
I've been a great fool in life but even i could see this coming. Too many mergers. Outsourcing. Mass immigration. Automation. AI. Private equity slashing everything and not caring if quality suffers.
It's awful now. I feel bad for everyone. Young people yes, but then those too who lose jobs and trying to find something new.
Your resume isn't even making it to hr. It's being prescreened by most. The entire process is automated. People are throw away now. It's horrific.
It's been in motion for a long time. But even 25 years ago it wasn't like things. It's accelerated. It's awful.

 

[halbermensch]

There's this very exhausting, insufferable quality to everything in life that makes everything weigh so painfully on me. Living day-to-day chronically disappointed by everything and everyone, including myself, whose good intentions always seem to somehow make things worse than they already are, is like I am already eternally burning in hell without even having to die. I feel like some sort of vengeful, tormented spirit forced to exist forever invisible, untouchable and alone, and over the course of many years I've grasped at every thing I could see to effectively no avail. Keeping myself physically busy is good for about a day at best and then it starts making me feel even more miserable about myself and everything when I start to realize I still have to come back home to my anguishing, lonely presence anyway. Depression cognitively impairs me so much and I am utterly unable to study anything as well. Existence is an inescapable torture chamber.