Discussion Does having a ctb date really help?

[Liebestod]

I'm asking this because it seems that it would just induce anxiety. I feel like an impulsive suicide is more likely to be successful and is better overall for the mind in the moments leading up to it. I have several dates in mind but in reality I could be gone as early as September 2026 and as late as December 2028. It just depends on how life goes for me. If it gets even more unbearable I'll likely do it sooner if not than later. Impulsive suicides are generally more successful as SI and anxiety aren't as much of a problem if you're acting out of impulse.

 

[Forveleth]

Some people like having a target date where they know things will get better. Some people see it as a pressing deadline which makes them anxious. It depends on the person. I personally do not make an attempt until I feel calm and ready and have no planned date.

 

[socksnsandles]

agreed. having a specific day seems daunting. a general timeframe seems nice tho

 

[Pipsqueak!]

Yeah, every time I've had a CTB date I get major SI and never go through with it. My only actual attempt was done impulsively.

 

[JamieD]

Once I made the decision that I was going to ctb, I have felt total peace. I haven't set a firm date as yet but I know I am ready and I don't fear it

 

[ipmanwc0]

I think successful suicides are more of a spur of the moment thing, done without too much thought. I think that's the best way to defeat SI. so it seems to me to be a bit incompatible with having a planned suicide day