I really don't think we are owed anything by anyone else or the universe... If anything you owe it to yourself if you deem it important. Yes you should be top priority for your parents, but shit parents exist, and people do fine without them. I am not trying to undermine the affect of trauma, especially on children. Being social animals makes no difference, yes we rely on our communities, yes none of us could survive alone, but zoom out from all that and everything we give significance to is a tiny speck in a massive universe. So you are owed something, but you don't get it, then what? go and file out a complaint to a higher power? If an eagle mother decides she can't feed both her chicks, so prioritises fattening up the larger of the 2, the small chick dies and is eaten by his big brother. The small chick didn't ask for any of that, his existence was nothing but misery, but what was he owed? and from whom?
People are largely acting unconsciously, people are made up from their upbringing, experiences, ancestry, ancestral trauma, personal trauma plus so many other complex things. I think you can find great relief when you take responsibility for yourself, when you stop depending on people or things, when you stop expecting people to act a certain way. I have spent a lot of energy trying to change people, hoping for a certain connection with my parents or other people. the only power you have is in yourself. This is kind of what I mean when I say no one owes you anything, in a way I'm saying you can't expect anything from anyone, you are the only player in your life.
I appreciate this may come across differently to how it sounds in my head, this is just a result of my current philosophy, there is no hate or judgement behind it.