Venting Being an ugly woman sucks

[ironrain]

Men say that women have it better because they have more likes on dating apps. But those are all noise because men swipe right on literally everything.

Men say that women have 99% probability of success if they approach the man first. But never mention that the women should be pretty.

Generally, everything men say about women should be applied to beautiful women. Being an ugly woman is the same as being an ugly a man, except some creeps thinking you're easy and desperate.

I hate being ugly. This makes me so dysmorphic/dysphoric/whatever to the point I see no difference between myself and a man. I wish I was feminine and beautiful. I can't even take normal guys seriously because of how efeminated (???) I feel compared to them. But at the same time I realise that demanding being masculine from a man is sexist. So I'm the problem here, if I weren't a giraffe I'd gladly date a 175cm guy but I'm a giraffe... I'll never have that. I remember I had a dream about being on some party that was outdoor, someone's wedding or sth, and there was my husband. In the dream I was petite and he hugged me and his hands were big and strong... Crazy that many women get it by default and I'll never have that without being sexist. Life is so unfair.

 

[2106lvsk]

i relate to u a lot, i am short tho. and i dated a guy that was 175cm. he claimed he was an incel. i thought he'd be loyal but nah the minute he got attention from another girl, he was gone lol

 

[randomuser2348]

I hate being ugly. This makes me so dysmorphic/dysphoric/whatever to the point I see no difference between myself and a man. I wish I was feminine and beautiful.

we've set an unhealthy and utterly repulsive standard in our society that a woman's appearance and characteristics should be a checklist in the dating scene. no, i don't want an unhealthily skinny partner with sharp features, perfect skin, and sizeable breasts. i want someone who cares for and understands me as a person. drives me nuts that standards go beyond that.

I can't even take normal guys seriously because of how efeminated (???) I feel compared to them. But at the same time I realise that demanding being masculine from a man is sexist.

not really, that's just a preference

So I'm the problem here, if I weren't a giraffe I'd gladly date a 175cm guy but I'm a giraffe... I'll never have that. I remember I had a dream about being on some party that was outdoor, someone's wedding or sth, and there was my husband. In the dream I was petite and he hugged me and his hands were big and strong... Crazy that many women get it by default and I'll never have that without being sexist. Life is so unfair.

so your main concern is your height and how that may affect your relationship dynamics? that sounds like a reasonable concern, though depending on the nature of one's attraction, that will in all likelihood be something you throw to the side.

i saw your prior post yesterday that mentioned your height, and you're not nearly as tall as you think. here in australia the average height for a man is around 175cm

 

[Lazuli]

Maybe it's just me, but I consider being a tall woman a plus. Models and pageant contestants are mostly tall.
I'm only 163 cm and many petite friends of mine (155-158) often said they wished they could be as tall as me.

 

[tonicer]

As a tall'ish man myself 195cm i always wanted a lady that's as tall or even taller than me. People who don't like you just because you are tall are not people who deserve you in the first place. My older brother for example lives in an RV and most women he gets to know via some dumb dating app think it's a huge red flag but those women don't deserve him anyway if they only want a man who is rich and has a house. What do they want a house or a good guy? Same goes for you. A woman is a woman no matter if she's tall or not.

 

[ironrain]

Maybe it's just me, but I consider being a tall woman a plus. Models and pageant contestants are mostly tall.
I'm only 163 cm and many petite friends of mine (155-158) often said they wished they could be as tall as me.

When you have longer legs then yeah. Many tall women don't, me included. So, it's just useless centimetres. In my opinion, there's no benefit in being tall as an average woman.

 

[Lazuli]

When you have longer legs then yeah. Many tall women don't, me included. So, it's just useless centimetres. In my opinion, there's no benefit in being tall as an average woman.

"No benefit" is kinda final. I still think it's not that bad. Many women wear high heels despite discomfort just to gain those additional centimeters.

 

[ironrain]

"No benefit" is kinda final. I still think it's not that bad. Many women wear high heels despite discomfort just to gain those additional centimeters.

You're right. I fixated on height too much. I'm ugly, not only tall

i relate to u a lot, i am short tho. and i dated a guy that was 175cm. he claimed he was an incel. i thought he'd be loyal but nah the minute he got attention from another girl, he was gone lol

Most incels are hoes, they just can't act on that and blame women. I'm so sorry that that happened to you, I hope you find a good man