You think marriage and children are sadomasochism? Lol! Without the state involved, marriage and children is great and essential for civilization. Unless you want a bunch of poor people, fatherless kids, and poor women and men as a result. Women don't earn as much as men because we typically take on lower paying jobs, slightly lower iq on average, and disabled by pregnancy, and thereafter we earn less because wen you have kids u tend to prioritize wanting to be with your kids rather than working long hours. Feminist ideology makes it seem like men and women are the same but we are very different in our choices, drives, interests. The involvement of the state in giving rights to women over men in the event of divorce is catastrophic, for men and the kids who now don't have a dad. Often women regret divorce down the road too even though we initiate the divorce 70% of the time.