Venting Any 20yo+ virgins?

[BigPP]

As someone who is not a virgin, it's totally overrated, just like everything else on earth. Sure it's fun, but so is a roller-coaster, and I don't see many people dying with that as their biggest regret. Idk it's honestly not a huge deal at all. And if you want real advice, telling girls you are a virgin is probably the fastest way into their pants

 

[that_guy2611]

yes

 

[WhatPowerIs]

And if you want real advice, telling girls you are a virgin is probably the fastest way into their pants

I guess if it's that easy this thread shouldn't exist

Shit. U know their doin it earlier and earlier now a days even if it's not consensual.

It is all a bit disgusting isn't it?

 

[castler]

It is all a bit disgusting isn't it?

Why, of course! But now a days we have to take it as a grain of salt and go with the flow. There is no stopping that trend/rollercoaster once it got moving. I can't help but wonder if animals think the same way

 

[WhatPowerIs]

Why, of course! But now a days we have to take it as a grain of salt and go with the flow. There is no stopping that trend/rollercoaster once it got moving. I can't help but wonder if animals think the same way

It's a harsher life to live as an animal. But it's a lot more honest. Good trade off? You be the judge.

 

[castler]

Course like 2 have said, we as humans are trying to imitate the animal physically, but I think we've already long mastered that. We're just standing animals with more privileges and such.

Maroon 5 - animals

But don't deny the animal
That comes alive when I'm inside you

Nickelback - animals

Cause everybody knows
We're just a couple of animals

 

[picklemick]

I'm sure there are alot of animals "yes animals" that are still virgins as well haha. But I'm lit. 32 and am a virgin - can't get lucky for nothing but life isn't all about getting laid.

I think just like survival instincts don't want you to ctb. Your regular instincts should make you want to fuck

 

[castler]

Our minds r so wrapped around the here-now, we're afraid to step into the after-this-life, so we just want to continue hanging out here. Only who knows, the next life might be way more fun this one.

 

[GreenTree]

Nothing be ashamed off. I've had lots of partners but that's caused my problems. Just believe and wait for the right person.

 

[castler]

But c w/ me is I wouldn't want just 1 - more the merrier hahaha. Realistically speaking, I'd be happy with 3/4 partners who all could get along. Why stop @ just 1?

 

[WhatPowerIs]

But c w/ me is I wouldn't want just 1 - more the merrier hahaha. Realistically speaking, I'd be happy with 3/4 partners who all could get along. Why stop @ just 1?

3-4 partners sounds exhausting! I don't know how those people do it. 1's fine for me!

Our minds r so wrapped around the here-now, we're afraid to step into the after-this-life, so we just want to continue hanging out here. Only who knows, the next life might be way more fun this one.

I sure hope so.

 

[AstroV]

Yeah so anybody know how to not let this get to you? I'm a 24 year old virgin myself and it's just impossible to ignore that people like us are an anomaly.

 

[mondoCruel]

I'm almost 40 and have only fucked with hookers. Do I count?

 

[callme]

Yeah so anybody know how to not let this get to you? I'm a 24 year old virgin myself and it's just impossible to ignore that people like us are an anomaly.

Of course, because it's not normal, not recommended and not natural. You are either made for this world or not. There are no ways to fix something inherently broken. We aren't getting better. Wondering if there is a way out is just a delusional way to answer ourselves of course not, but coddling and so-called good behavior by institutions and society giving us false hope every time has installed this feel good, fake language.

Better I'd ssy, get used to the fact you'll never be a man, you will always live alone and move on to whatever can stop you from going crazy. At least what I am trying to do if I knew how...

 

[AstroV]

Of course, because it's not normal, not recommended and not natural. You are either made for this world or not. There are no ways to fix something inherently broken. We aren't getting better. Wondering if there is a way out is just a delusional way to answer ourselves of course not, but coddling and so-called good behavior by institutions and society giving us false hope every time has installed this feel good, fake language.

Better I'd ssy, get used to the fact you'll never be a man, you will always live alone and move on to whatever can stop you from going crazy. At least what I am trying to do if I knew how..

Yeah I agree that you either are or aren't made for this world. But things aren't always unfixable, at least for certain people. I mean I don't see a way out for myself but that's not necessarily the case for everyone. And really dude? I'll never be a man because I'm a 24 year old virgin? I already am a man lol. If there's one thing I can't stand, It's this whole REAL MAN bullshit.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

If there's one thing I can't stand, It's this whole REAL MAN bullshit.

 

[woknows]

Just wanted to ask in order to see if I'm not alone. I never had a gf and I'm still a virgin while being 19. I hate being shamed on and I'm just frustrated that people around me get ONS/FWB and meanwhile I can't even get a hug.

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. Having sex with a selfish person who ruins your introduction to sex can be even worse.

I guess it sucks it's involuntary.

You should improve your social life and skills and approach some girls and don't care if some attempts are unsuccessful.

 

[callme]

Yeah I agree that you either are or aren't made for this world. But things aren't always unfixable, at least for certain people. I mean I don't see a way out for myself but that's not necessarily the case for everyone. And really dude? I'll never be a man because I'm a 24 year old virgin? I already am a man lol. If there's one thing I can't stand, It's this whole REAL MAN bullshit.

I admire you understand so well without judgement, see there is real manhood? Stoic expression at least. I agree with @WhatPowerIs above, but disagree too. If there would be a real man, you have to be one your way.

But also to say there isn't and that stoic calmness is only needed is wrong, somewhat, as well as being born a man is enough. We don't remember Burt Reynolds just for being born, do we? Neither we put the Big Lebowski or Sam Eliott near Buzz Lightyear, or the Narrator next to Tyler Durden for a reason.

Now, you seem to have taken what somebody might call easier way, by having your own way in seeking a solution to this problem for others, or at least finding hapiness for othersm which is indeed not nearly as easy, in fact likely more impossible in a world obsessed with overconfidence and attention-seeking. Indeed it is admirable.

But still, to not reproduce or to never participate in society in this way is soul-crushing precisely because we are men. It makes or breaks us and is indeed, losing your manhood, a part of being a human, it's no coincidence you need a very specific departure from the material world, like religious and spiritual students do, to overcome it. It's undortunately one of the unmanliest things to do.

Don't get me wrong, I am around your age, I have never even been looked at by a woman other than as a balding, poor, and massive lump or fat. I never know what being a man really is, closest to being stoic, but not even that. It's probably just a privilege of men fortunate to have a secure life and before all, good looks and great personalities, but it definitely exists.

I myself see no solution to never having remotely any success, other than the one that is upon all of us.

 

[castler]

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age. Having sex with a selfish person who ruins your introduction to sex can be even worse.

I guess it sucks it's involuntary.

You should improve your social life and skills and approach some girls and don't care if some attempts are unsuccessful.

But I got this funny thing about rejection... tho I need to work on soc skills.

 

[woknows]

But I got this funny thing about rejection... tho I need to work on soc skills.

No one likes rejections. I mean, you can wait for women to approach you. Just don't complain if it takes longer:).

 

[DetachedDreamer97]

Yep... Though I will ascend... one day...

 

[Symbiote]

 

[milly]

I'm almost 27, never even had a relationship or went on a date. I'm a kissless virgin. 3 more years and I'll finally be a wizard.

Aren't you already a werewolf?

 

[castler]

I'm almost 27, never even had a relationship or went on a date. I'm a kissless virgin. 3 more years and I'll finally be a wizard.

I kissed a girl ....... Well..... When I was in kindergarten.... Right on the smacker..... I think it was one of those truth/dare games... Just gotta do the truth/dare game again...

 

[BigPP]

You just rendered your statement completely irrelevant.

Because vast majority of people dying do so having already lost virginity.

It's not a big deal spending a lot of money when you're financially stable and have expendable income.

Lmfao how fucking detached from reality can you be?

The continuous platitudes like "sex isn't everything", "sex isn't a big deal", "just hire a hooker" is pretty much like saying to a suicidal people that there's no reason to worry and that life is beautiful. The most frustrating thing in virginity is how oblivious the regular people are to this situation and how ill informed and low effort their advice is.

Btw. being a virgin in your late teens or early adulthood isn't a tragedy. It's when you get older, your window of opportunity gets smaller and you realize the damage that loneliness dealt to you is when it hits you the hardest. There's no light at the end of this tunnel.

Every person who is no longer a virgin, was once a virgin. You say all this like there is no way I know what it's like, like I lost my virginity when I was 6. I know what it's like to be a virgin, and I know what it's like to not be a virgin. I'm just saying don't paint a "grass is greener" situation for yourself. You can make this argument for a relationship, and wanting that closeness with someone, but if you are banking on the sex doing that you will be very disappointed. Don't put sex on a pedestal

 

[Lebensunwertes]

As someone who is not a virgin, it's totally overrated, just like everything else on earth.

As someone who is not homeless, it's totally overrated. Homeless people you're not missing on much.

Sure it's fun, but so is a roller-coaster, and I don't see many people dying with that as their biggest regret.

Because vast majority of people dying do so having already lost virginity.

Idk it's honestly not a huge deal at all.

It's not a big deal spending a lot of money when you're financially stable and have expendable income.

And if you want real advice, telling girls you are a virgin is probably the fastest way into their pants

Lmfao how fucking detached from reality can you be?

The continuous platitudes like "sex isn't everything", "sex isn't a big deal", "just hire a hooker" is pretty much like saying to a suicidal people that there's no reason to worry and that life is beautiful. The most frustrating thing in virginity is how oblivious the regular people are to this situation and how ill informed and low effort their advice is.

Btw. being a virgin in your late teens or early adulthood isn't a tragedy. It's when you get older, your window of opportunity gets smaller and you realize the damage that loneliness dealt to you is when it hits you the hardest. There's no light at the end of this tunnel.

 

[WhatPowerIs]

No one likes rejections. I mean, you can wait for women to approach you. Just don't complain if it takes longer:).

I wonder why is it that way anyway? That men are expected to step forward? Is it like this in other countries? Feels like an idea that only happens in the West.

 

[lex]

27. Being mentally ill ain't attractive, especially not if you're male

 

[Dysgenic Pup]

lol...

 

[piger]

20. Virginity and sex are overrated and shouldn't be focused on because they're only shallow feelings that fill in a deep hole of self-worth and satisfaction in life. The more you try to go out of your way for it the worse its gonna turn out. The real getter is finding someone whom you genuinely love and vice versa; and I lost that person. There will never be anyone that could "replace" her, and I am a failure like how most of you feel.

I hate people anyway, and I'm too socially inept to actually meet new people nonetheless even people who are like me or like us. It gets harder as you get older as the quality of men or women out their gets shittier and shittier.