Discussion Your favorite pro-life platitudes and advice.

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I figured that we're going to need a compilation thread of our favorite pro-life platitudes and advice.

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I love it when people tell me.

'Just try Yoga.
'Just exercise'
'have you tried not being depressed'
'happiness is a choice'
'hold on, pain ends'

etc etc

lemme see yours

 

[TAW122]

To add to your list:

'Life is a gift.'
'God loves you.'
'Things will get better.'
'Never give up.'

Urgh, those four platitudes are the ones I come in contact commonly, at least in the recent years.

 

[Nanami]

'Oh don't be such a defeatist.'
'You just need some sunlight!'
'Everyone gets anxious sometimes, you just have to deal with it!'
'No wonder you're always tired if you don't go to bed before midnight!'

 

[15dec]

Anything to the effect of "this person has a harder life but they're still happy"

 

[Lara Francis]

Everything can be solved.!

 

[iHeartRockArt]

Ugh, when people know I'm chronically ill with debilitating medical conditions, and this is their idea of "support."

It gets better.
Don't lose faith.
Don't give up.
You can't be a quitter.
Put it in God's hands.
Pray about it.
It always gets better.
It could always be worse.
Stop being so negative.
That attitude helps nothing.
Do you just need that much attention?
Have you tried natural remedies?

 

[Severen]

1. You just need therapy.
2. You just need to see a psychiatrist.
3. You just need more sunshine in your life.
4. You just need to make some friends.

 

[LiveSlowDieFast]

1. Suicide is selfish
2. Suicide is for the weak
3. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem
4. You don't have the right to take your own life (lol)
5. "Throw out everything you have and start backpacking!"

 

[Severen]

That attitude helps nothing.

I hate this platitude the most. It's like all you have to do is change your attitude and all your problems will magically go away. I'm not even sure if it is a platitude or just a cruel form of trolling. It's just so fucking stupid. It's not even backed by pseudo science...

 

[iHeartRockArt]

I hate this platitude the most. It's like all you have to do is change your attitude and all your problems will magically go away. I'm not even sure if it is a platitude or just a cruel form of trolling. It's just so fucking stupid.

Oh I agree so much. "Think positive." Is another I hear repeatedly. Shit, I WISH I could think positive! They must think I like being negative. I hate it, it's exhausting.

 

[iHeartRockArt]

1. You just need therapy.
2. You just need to see a psychiatrist.
3. You just need more sunshine in your life.
4. You just need to make some friends.

Wow, I have heard the one about "sunshine." wth. Like that's gonna cure us! If it was only THAT easy.

 

[iHeartRockArt]

1. Suicide is selfish
2. Suicide is for the weak
3. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem
4. You don't have the right to take your own life (lol)
5. "Throw out everything you have and start backpacking!"

Yes! All of these! If they only lived a day in our bodies/mind.

 

[Severen]

Oh I agree so much. "Think positive." Is another I hear repeatedly. Shit, I WISH I could think positive! They must think I like being negative. I hate it, it's exhausting.

Negative thoughts is a symptom of suffering.

1. Suicide is selfish
2. Suicide is for the weak
3. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem
4. You don't have the right to take your own life (lol)
5. "Throw out everything you have and start backpacking!"

What's wrong with being weak and selfish though? And to call those who commit suicide weak is stupid as fuck because it takes a lot of strength to fight your survival instinct and some people go through so much suffering, not even the strongest person in the world would be able to handle it for long.

 

[Rose]

"Now that you've hit rock bottom, there's nowhere to go but up!"

 

[Fucking loving it]

Happiness is a choice
Get off of meds, eat organic and do yoga
You need religion in your life

 

[Severen]

"Well at least you don't live in Syria or Afghanistan..."

Oh, I feel sooo much better now. All my problems are gone now...

 

[MsM3talGamer]

Ugh, when people know I'm chronically ill with debilitating medical conditions, and this is their idea of "support."

It gets better.
Don't lose faith.
Don't give up.
You can't be a quitter.
Put it in God's hands.
Pray about it.
It always gets better.
It could always be worse.
Stop being so negative.
That attitude helps nothing.
Do you just need that much attention?
Have you tried natural remedies?

Yup. Same here with my cancer . When people find out, suddenly everyone becomes the "armchair expert" on how to cure cancer. You can't imagine the amount of times I've heard "Have you tried x to cure it? My great uncle's neighbour's aunt's husband did it and he got cured".

Also, hearing "I will pray for you" makes me want to projectile vomit in their face. Or "You're really an inspiration". Like, fuck off with your patronizing platitudes.

 

[iHeartRockArt]

Yup. Same here with my cancer . When people find out, suddenly everyone becomes the "armchair expert" on how to cure cancer. You can't imagine the amount of times I've heard "Have you tried x to cure it? My great uncle's neighbour's aunt's husband did it and he got cured".

Also, hearing "I will pray for you" makes me want to projectile vomit in their face. Or "You're really an inspiration". Like, fuck off with your patronizing platitudes.

Oh same here as well! Can't tell you how many times I just wanted to go off on someone for the same things. Then I have to take into account that they are just very uninformed and not thinking about what they're saying. But doesn't help much.

 

[MsM3talGamer]

Oh same here as well! Can't tell you how many times I just wanted to go off on someone for the same things. Then I have to take into account that they are just very uninformed and not thinking about what they're saying. But doesn't help much.

Exactly! It happens to me both online and IRL. I've had to learn to bite my tongue and ignore some infuriating comments. Some people are horribly insensitive and patronizing. I can't let them wind me up though because the stress isn't good for me.

 

[Armadillo]

"Suicide doesn't solve any problem" (Dafuq?)
"Exercise, it makes you feel better"
"Using drugs is only going to make the situation worse" (LOL)
"This antidepressants is helping you, it's not true that is completely useless like you say"
"You feel like this because your life is empty"
"This medication can't have all those side effects, you just took one pill" (do I have to take it even if it makes me sicker? LOL)
"Trust me" (fucking hate this one. Prove me you are trustworthy, then I'll trust you)
"You tried everything, right? Why not an exorcism?" (Yep, that happened)
"You have to do something to feel better, not waiting to feel better to do something"
"But you have a beautiful life, think about the migrants that get eaten by sharks in the Mediterranean"
"Therapy is helping you, don't say you are not going anywhere"

Probably many more but can't remember them all.

 

[iHeartRockArt]

Exactly! It happens to me both online and IRL. I've had to learn to bite my tongue and ignore some infuriating comments. Some people are horribly insensitive and patronizing. I can't let them wind me up though because the stress isn't good for me.

Exactly the same for me. Stress causes me really bad flare ups and progression of my disease. Ugh. I have to let a lot of things go. I hate that you suffer and deal with these things too, but it's nice to know someone else understands.

 

[Lra888]

Just do something you enjoy.

When you accept things then you can change them.

Try breathing exercises.

Go running.

It gets better.

Time heals.

 

[Lra888]

"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem."

This one is ridiculous because who wouldn't want a "Permanent solution" to all problems? And most problems aren't temporary.

 

[MAIO]

"Now that you've hit rock bottom, there's nowhere to go but up!"

The only thing guaranteed in life is it can always get worse.

 

[deflagrat]

I read suicidewatch every day, I have a few that they usually repeat:

"I love you".
"You matter, your life is important".
"You can't do this to your family and friends".
"Go to the hospital they will help you."
"Things will get better as it got better for me".
"You can't take that decision back".
"I am sorry for whatever is happening to you."
"Make new choices in your life and your life will change for the better".

 

[GreenLantern]

Grow "thicker skin"- If something affects me or hurts me, it just does. It's just the way I am. I can't magically make it not hurt me.
"Improve social skills"- I have good "social skills" as is. It's insulting for random people to tell me to improve this or that.
Don't worry about it/them
Don't let it/them bother you
We've all felt like that sometime- not true
Take more initiative
You're too nice
Don't take it personally or seriously/don't be so sensitive

 

[15dec]

Grow "thicker skin"- If something affects me or hurts me, it just does. It's just the way I am. I can't magically make it not hurt me.
"Improve social skills"- I have good "social skills" as is. It's insulting for random people to tell me to improve this or that.
Don't worry about it/them
Don't let it/them bother you
We've all felt like that sometime- not true
Take more initiative
You're too nice
Don't take it personally or seriously/don't be so sensitive

Honestly, I think you just listed off everything people have said to me in the past few months. Lol

 

[GreenLantern]

If you work hard, play by the rules/keep your nose clean, you can make it in life.- what a croc a shit.

They lie to you to get you to be a "good" person while many people will be horrible toward you, and STILL get ahead.

 

[Comatose11]

Yup. Same here with my cancer . When people find out, suddenly everyone becomes the "armchair expert" on how to cure cancer. You can't imagine the amount of times I've heard "Have you tried x to cure it? My great uncle's neighbour's aunt's husband did it and he got cured".

Also, hearing "I will pray for you" makes me want to projectile vomit in their face. Or "You're really an inspiration". Like, fuck off with your patronizing platitudes.

I used to think people who had cancer didn't have to hear people's BS advice and no one would blame them for it. I've realized I'm wrong. Someone could be born with a disease, and people would still try to find a way to make it their fault.

 

[Tyuiop]

The most painful ones my sister said to me after my last attempt:
"You don't want to die. You just want a different life."
"You should visit a children's oncology ward."