Would you consider yourself a NEET?

[StaircaseToMadness]

NEET is an acronym for "not in education, employment, or training"

I think it could have crossovers with some people here, including myself, as a good chunk of NEETs feel quite empty and don't see the point in even bothering in trying in life which I myself resonate with.

How do you feel about this?

 

[cherryblossom]

Do you become a NEET by choice or does it just mean that you weren't able to find a job for example?

 

[StaircaseToMadness]

Do you become a NEET by choice or does it just mean that you weren't able to find a job for example?

In this context I'm talking about choice, although it's a good point that many who want to find work can't highlighting the terrible economy

In my opinion if your truly done with life you won't really care about going to college, working, education ect because nothing genuinely matters to you

This is assuming you have the luxury to neet of course, many people, in fact most don't. Fortunately my family is well off so isn't an issue for me.

 

[SixNeufUn]

Nee, I am still training tho

 

[landmine]

i used to be a NEET ! im trying to go to school now though. (i was one since around my teen years, and kinda bordered on hikineet until i gotten more help)

 

[cherryblossom]

In this context I'm talking about choice, although it's a good point that many who want to find work can't highlighting the terrible economy

In my opinion if your truly done with life you won't really care about going to college, working, education ect because nothing genuinely matters to you

This is assuming you have the luxury to neet of course, many people, in fact most don't. Fortunately my family is well off so isn't an issue for me.

I see, thank you for explaining!

 

[Biblom2000]

I think that everyone lives life in their own way and if someone decides to be neet on their own it is because they must be very damaged not to think about having a future, it is not that I feel sorry for them but it is what they have to do and you decide if to follow or not, the only bad thing about that condition is that death is not going to touch. at your door

 

[willow115]

Currently, yes. I fell out of employment when my mental health shattered. I got ptsd from severe work environment harassment so it's actually scary for me to try again. Sometimes I get temporary remote work.

 

[AlcoholicSphinx02]

I'd consider myself a NEET, but it's due to a lot of things:
1. A shitty past relationship with a girlfriend, whom I broke up with.
2. A jackass of a dad, who kicked me out because he was a hotheaded asshole who thought he was better than me and falsely criticized me, which then turned into an argument that resulted in me becoming homeless for a time.
3. The amount of times I've been hurt in life by those I'm vulnerable with and also me being introduced to video games around the same time, at around age 6-7

 

[norain]

a little bit

 

[affirmatice]

I'm employed at great job making lots of money. I'm on this forum for other reasons, no amount of money in the world could give me back what I lost

 

[lnlybnny]

Yes. It's one of my reasons to want to ctb, I'm 29 and never had a job, I don't fit in into the world

 

[PI3.14]

I used to be NEET on and off but never by choice. I have had severe depression at 19-20 that completely destroyed my life. I'm 26 now. It was so severe that when my psychiatrist did the assessment, I almost scored the highest possible number, I was 4 points short of scoring the maximum. I'm in college again. I try to recover my life but unfortunately I sat a deadline for myself to fix some stuff and I believe I won't have time to achieve what I want before the date I sat.

If by about 2 years and a half I don't lose my weight and get a gf then I'm offing myself. Losing weight is kinda easy to be honest if you don't cut so much calories. However what woman will love a 5'5 guy who is almost 27 and never had a job or career and doesn't even having a driving license or a car. Add to that me being awkward, introverted, socially anxious, and extremely boring since I don't have hobbies or anything interesting about me.

I'm certain I will end my life after about 2 years from now. I don't expect life to change much during this time or for me to change my mind. I want to emphasize that I'm yearning for love, not sex. I could easily get sex if I want to since I live in europe but I want my first time ro be with someone whome I really love.

 

[Fangarina]

I disagree with you. Just because someone wants to end their lives, doesn't mean they need to sabotage every part of it in the mean time.

I have a great career that I have worked hard for. I am still going to CTB.
I am very aware that for me to survive until my planned date, I still need to bring in an income to keep a roof over my head and pay my bills. I have a silly amount of pets that are expensive to keep. By having my job, I am leaving my house daily and pushing through until my planned date as I have important things coming up that I would ruin for family members if I left beforehand. I don't want big days for them being clouded by the fact I am not there to celebrate with them. There are 2 big dates left, once they are past I will CTB… and until then, I need to keep going to work and paying my bills.

It's not a clear cut - if you truly want to CTB you must be depressed in your house and never leave. Financially that would not be possible for most, and also it would pull my CTB date closer which I don't want.

 

[PI3.14]

I disagree with you. Just because someone wants to end their lives, doesn't mean they need to sabotage every part of it in the mean time.

I have a great career that I have worked hard for. I am still going to CTB.
I am very aware that for me to survive until my planned date, I still need to bring in an income to keep a roof over my head and pay my bills. I have a silly amount of pets that are expensive to keep. By having my job, I am leaving my house daily and pushing through until my planned date as I have important things coming up that I would ruin for family members if I left beforehand. I don't want big days for them being clouded by the fact I am not there to celebrate with them. There are 2 big dates left, once they are past I will CTB… and until then, I need to keep going to work and paying my bills.

It's not a clear cut - if you truly want to CTB you must be depressed in your house and never leave. Financially that would not be possible for most, and also it would pull my CTB date closer which I don't want.

I can relate to the important dates thing. I decided not to even think of CTBing before my sister marriage. She's been engaged for over two years and her wedding is finally around the corner.

Next will be my younger brother. But he isn't engaged and less likely to be so in the next 2-3 years. Also he knows that I don't plan to live until 30 unless my goals get achieved.
This makes him less likely to set up important dates in the next 2 years.

I was able to push myself until now. However, if my brother announce he's getting married or something in the next 2 years then I will CTB anyways. He knows about this too since I was very clear with him that I'm in fact living my last 2-3 years.

 

[Fangarina]

I can relate to the important dates thing. I decided not to even think of CTBing before my sister marriage. She's been engaged for over two years and her wedding is finally around the corner.

Next will be my younger brother. But he isn't engaged and less likely to be so in the next 2-3 years. Also he knows that I don't plan to live until 30 unless my goals get achieved.
This makes him less likely to set up important dates in the next 2 years.

I was able to push myself until now. However, if my brother announce he's getting married or something in the next 2 years then I will CTB anyways. He knows about this too since I was very clear with him that I'm in fact living my last 2-3 years.

My sister is getting married too, that's the first date. Then a 21st I can't miss.
That's why I am aiming for start of August. I vowed I'd not be here by my 40th. I'm kinda leaving 2 years earlier but that was my cut off date. I'd have gone sooner had my sister not sprung her wedding on me. Now I feel obligated to stay for this because it would destroy her if I missed it. She has been through hell and back, and her last marriage was abusive, she has now found the most beautiful human on earth to share her life with and I need this wedding day to be her day, and not be tainted by her baby sister missing it.


It's a huge thing to push past pain to keep your sisters day from being shadowed with sadness somewhere too.
I did see you don't plan on being here by 30 unless your goals are achieved. I don't think your goals are wild and unrealistic, so I am rooting for you. I feel like I spend more time on here praying everyone finds a way off of the bus route, because I live in a world where I wish everyone would find happiness somehow…meanwhile I never have the hope for me

 

[Defenestration]

NEET is an acronym for "not in education, employment, or training"

I think it could have crossovers with some people here, including myself, as a good chunk of NEETs feel quite empty and don't see the point in even bothering in trying in life which I myself resonate with.

How do you feel about this?

Yes
No studies
No job
No passion
No love( died)

Im in invalidy in my country.

 

[killmesoftly]

Yup. I graduated in the spring and haven't been able to find a job since. Now I spend every day alone crying wanting to die, bedrotting watching inane youtube videos to try and distract myself. I have no energy, no motivation, no friends or social life. It's so insanely depressing, every day feels like torture. I want to ctb so bad but can't find the supplies.

 

[PI3.14]

I did see you don't plan on being here by 30 unless your goals are achieved. I don't think your goals are wild and unrealistic, so I am rooting for you.

In fact, given my unique set of circumstances, they're very unrealistic. Losing weight isn't of course unrealistic at all. However, both my physical appearance and my socioeconomic status makes it almost impossible to find someone who loves me for me. Add to that me being awkward and uninteresting too. Given my age, I should have a job, my own place, and at least an appearance of a full grown man instead of the appearance of a middle schooler. Now, I do have my own place but my parents are the ones renting it for me which makes me feel even more ashamed of myself.

TBH, I'm pretty much certain that my story will end in about 2 years, unless I die before.

 

[Unspoken7612]

I'm employed but currently not in work. I have lost the will to live, which is naturally affecting my motivation in my job. I have a great job that lots of people envy - it doesn't pay especially well but other than that it is great.

 

[NoPoint2Life]

This is soooo embarrassing but at age 44 I am kind of a neet. I worked 20 years at two office jobs and I would say working is indeed the hell most people here experience and dread.
My mom is in bad physical health so when we moved 6 years ago, the deal was I wouldn't have to work if I helped to take care of her. Well my OCD got a ton worse and I was at the point where I couldn't work even if I wanted to.
I go for exposure therapy and occasionally the therapist mentions me possibly working again in the future. My father also thinks I need to get better so I am possibly able to work in the future.
My mom has even more problems now and while my OCD has improved somewhat, I don't think I would be able to handle a job at this point, and I think it would actually set me back a lot.
But part of it is also that I honestly have no desire to work again. I never did, there was never anything I wanted to do career wise, and I was basically forced to work because that's the way life goes. I have zero interest in it plus I don't think I'm capable of doing so. It's part of why I say I'm not wired right and why I would be happy to die at any moment.
So whenever somebody mentions the possibility of getting a job someday I have to bite my tongue so hard so that I don't start saying my true views on the subject. It's nice to be able to say those things here but at the same time I am embarrassed because most needs seem quite a bit younger.

 

[SoulWhisperer]

Probably a NEET soon-to-be. I suck at human and social interactions, I'm terrorised of people unironically and can't get shit straight. On my own I am afraid of anything and will always pick not doing something out of fear than trying. My personality is so weak I let everyone take advantage of me, step on me and I can't ever find a way to fight back. The only thought in my mind is to just snap but I know I shouldn't. The fact that I am weak physically too doesn't help (I'm an intellectual person I keep telling to myself...! ...)

I am literally living in the hopes of someone taking care of me because I am incapable of living normally and failed at trying to adjust it basically.

Sucks.

 

[Agon321]

By definition, yes, I am NEET.

I worked for a while and when I decided I wanted CTB, I quit and decided I would live until I ran out of money.
I just wanted to live a peaceful life without much stress.
This has been going on for over a year now.

I don't have much money left, so I need to seriously consider my next moves.
CTB is getting brighter and brighter on my horizon. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing...

 

[We Are Angels]

I wish I could be a NEET.