Help Worried about another user

[Meditation guide]

I might've played a part in him wanting to move his plans

So this person messages with you for no more than 3 days and now has decided to take his own life tomorrow over it? Seriously, this is someone you should stop messaging with immediately. Most of the people who message me on this forum have some kind of screwed up ulterior motive.
This guy is playing games with you in a very sick way.

 

[Deleted member 19654]

Honestly I find the fact that they have romantic feelings for her after only 3 days of online messaging a red flag on its own.

I don't really understand how you can develop romantic feelings if you've never seen the other person too

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

As much as it might not seem like it to you this person is deliberately manipulating your feelings.
I think you need to back off and not message them for a while. This is not what you think it is. You are being toyed with.

You have been here 4 days! What is going on here? Someone already has feeling for you? Is this a joke?

And they are so enamoured that they'll ctb over this romantic rejection. God, this reminds me of threads by that dude who tried to commit suicide with cough syrup and ibuprofen.

 

[TheEndisNear121200]

I don't really understand how you can develop romantic feelings if you've never seen the other person too

He's just toying with her emotions. it's easy to prey on vulnerable people online. I sadly know all about this because it happened to me in the past

 

[botanormal]

LOL, always seemed so nice. Both of you have been here for three days. Unless you've known each other from before, I think it is a bit rushed to make these types of judgments.

All these new accounts that are showing up are making me feel a bit paranoid, don't know why.

Sorry, don't mean to make you feel paranoid, I promise I'm not here for the wrong reasons. I talked to @darksideofthebright the other day, and they were really sweet on their posts and we commented back and forth a little, so I think that's why they say that, no bad intentions!

Did this person reach out and contact you first?

They reached out to me after we talked a little on one of their threads, they were just thanking me for some of the things I said there so it wasn't like they specifically intended to look for a relationship, I don't think.

 

[Meditation guide]

The first time someone I was messaging with on another forum said he was about to commit suicide I freaked out and was horrified and wanted to notify his parents and the police. I later realized it was pure manipulation of my feelings and something he routinely did all the time. I stopped messaging with him.

Being this manipulative with someone caring is incredibly sick and exploitative of someone's emotions, for attention.

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

He's just toying with her emotions. it's easy to prey on vulnerable people online. I sadly know all about this because it happened to me in the past

Yeah, but this is a new level of toying with other's emotions. Three days. Well, we had Tigeress and airboy 2 months ago, they chatted for 2 days and had "trust issues" and the ensuing drama was the reason Tigeress faked her suicide. Those were the days.

 

[botanormal]

I don't really understand how you can develop romantic feelings if you've never seen the other person too

They did ask to see a picture of me after they sent me one, so he has seen me once. Do you think I shouldn't have done that? Feeling like I might've made a bad decision after reading all of these comments. Thank you for responding though!

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

The first time someone I was messaging with on another forum said he was about to commit suicide I freaked out and was horrified and wanted to notify his parents and the police. I later realized it was pure manipulation of my feelings and something he routinely did all the time. I stopped messaging with him.

Being this manipulative with someone caring is incredibly sick and exploitative of someone's emotions, for attention.

Yeah. Sadly, I fell for this song and dance once. Never again, though. Next time someone tells me they want to ctb, they will only get "Safe travels" from me.

 

[Weary Soul]

I used to be so starved for connection to someone who understood what I was going through, that when I actually got it, I felt love for that person. Not romantic love, but a grateful kinda love.

I am older and know the difference now, but I did not know the difference when I was a lot younger.

There are many different types of love - not just romantic love.

However, for me, if I truly love a person, I would never, ever suggest that they are the cause or influence for a decision to hurt myself. Ever. I would never want to harm them or leave them with a legacy of pain. That is not love, that is emotional manipulation.

To the unnamed person who wrote this to botanormal - I am not sure why you wrote what you did; however, If you truly love this person, please do not hurt them this way. If you choose to take your life, that is your choice, no one else's.

(hugs to you both)

 

[Deleted member 19654]

They did ask to see a picture of me after they sent me one, so he has seen me once. Do you think I shouldn't have done that? Feeling like I might've made a bad decision after reading all of these comments. Thank you for responding though!

Yes please be very careful of who you trust in the future. Don't send out photos of yourself

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

They did ask to see a picture of me after they sent me one, so he has seen me once. Do you think I shouldn't have done that? Feeling like I might've made a bad decision after reading all of these comments. Thank you for responding though!

Don't send your picture if you don't know the person and know you can trust them.

 

[SmellyRat]

They did ask to see a picture of me after they sent me one, so he has seen me once. Do you think I shouldn't have done that? Feeling like I might've made a bad decision after reading all of these comments. Thank you for responding though!

Sounds like a creep....

 

[TheEndisNear121200]

They did ask to see a picture of me after they sent me one, so he has seen me once. Do you think I shouldn't have done that? Feeling like I might've made a bad decision after reading all of these comments. Thank you for responding though!

Yes you made a mistake by sending it, you shouldn't trust strangers online. But please don't beat yourself over it, delete this guy and move on with your life. I've made worse mistakes online as I was a very naïve girl

 

[Good4Nothing]

Yeah, but this is a new level of toying with other's emotions. Three days. Well, we had Tigeress and airboy 2 months ago, they chatted for 2 days and had "trust issues" and the ensuing drama was the reason Tigeress faked her suicide. Those were the days.

How do you remember all this stuff?

 

[StringPuppet]

They did ask to see a picture of me after they sent me one, so he has seen me once. Do you think I shouldn't have done that? Feeling like I might've made a bad decision after reading all of these comments. Thank you for responding though!

I don't intend to sound mean but you're way too trusting lol

 

[mahakaliSS_MahaDurga]

How do you remember all this stuff?

Photographic memory, lol.

 

[Meditation guide]

I would love to see all the other bullshit that guy has been writing. This is not the place to find online romance. It's going to be predator and prey.

 

[flower]

is it by any chance a user who posted a thread about meeting irl?

 

[botanormal]

Yes please be very careful of who you trust in the future. Don't send out photos of yourself

Don't send your picture if you don't know the person and know you can trust them.

I didn't think they had any ill intentions before this. You're both right, I will be more careful in the future. Thank you for the support.

They messaged me telling me they saw my post, and want to leave the site. Feeling really conflicted about all of this. I don't like the idea of driving someone away from their support. I wish I knew how to read these situations a little better. Thank you to everyone leaving comments, they've all been so helpful.

 

[SmellyRat]

is it by any chance a user who posted a thread about meeting irl?

I think i might know who it is....

 

[Ghost2211]

Lol, I like how everyone is trying to figure out who the dude is now.

OP, do yourself a favor and let him go.

 

[Deleted member 23009]

Oh my god, what kind of thread did i stumble upon???
This is a big red flag imo, please be careful with sharing information/photos about yourself with people you barely know. And always be on your guard with trusting people. There are a lot of vulnerable people that predators target. Not saying that this is the case 100% but imo it's highly likely it's manipulation.

 

[Meditation guide]

They messaged me telling me they saw my post, and want to leave the site. Feeling really conflicted about all of this. I don't like the idea of driving someone away from their support.

Of course they did, more manipulation.

 

[Deleted member 23009]

@Maxtothemax Opening your spoiler is the best thing i've ever done in my life

 

[botanormal]

is it by any chance a user who posted a thread about meeting irl?

Sorry, I never meant to out the user's profile. If I am misinterpreting things, I don't want them to feel like an outcast on these forums because of me. Hugs to everyone responding.

 

[Meditation guide]

I think i might know who it is....

I think I might know too.

 

[Deleted member 17949]

You've only been talking for a couple of days and as internet friends but they've already developed romantic feelings?

agreed, whatever this is it's just not it, I wouldn't engage too much with a situation like this.

 

[darksideofthebright]

They messaged me telling me they saw my post, and want to leave the site.

Honestly, at this point, I know it might be hard but try to prioritise yourself and not think too much of this user and his message. Most people are not here to try to attack anyone and drive others from their support, but as soon as they display inappropriate behaviours, they need to understand that there are rules in place that EVERYONE has been advised to read carefully when signing up.

I am sorry this is causing headaches.

 

[x~Sophia~x]

Just remember that we can be anyone we want to be on the Internet, especially when using alias profile pictures and names. Much of the time, we don't even know for certain users' genders, we can only guess.

This person could be making up his/her life story in order to manipulate other members. They may not even be suicidal, their reasons for being here may be to entice vulnerable members of the opposite sex (or same sex depending on their sexual orientation) for their own selfish reasons - money, sex, photographs, sex talk, or even suggesting meeting up, then standing you up.

This is the furthest from a dating site I could ever imagine, and this member is raising red flags.

They obviously want you to feel flattered by the suggestion that they are developing feelings for you, and the fact that they are claiming to be older than you, that can be very enticing for someone of your age.

Please don't reciprocate in any way, this behaviour is not normal and you should report this member to admin in my opinion.