Why we act the way we act

[onlyanimalsaregood]

I wish I could understand what is wrong with me. Why I am such a sensitive person. Why I care for people who don't give a fuck about me. Why I always blame myself for the things that happened. Even if the person was bad to me. I always blame myself in the end. I am feeling so lonely.

 

[Nirrend]

Hi @onlyanimalsaregood

I understand the pain and I PM you

I swear to you, you're not the only one, I imagine how lost you feel right now,

But do not forget that, even if people like you and who don't know you live these things, do not forget that by sharing your pain, you're not alone.

I'm really sorry and I think of you <3

Love <3

 

[lionetta12]

I wish I could understand what is wrong with me. Why I am such a sensitive person. Why I care for people who don't give a fuck about me. Why I always blame myself for the things that happened. Even if the person was bad to me. I always blame myself in the end. I am feeling so lonely.

All my problems stem from how much I care about, support and love people that don't care about me at all. I hate myself for it, I wish I could be as careless and unloving as everyone else in my life and have no remorse or feeling of guilt or compassion. It really ruins me.

 

[theboy]

It is a set of factors: Genetics, the environment in which the person lives, learned experiences, etc.

 

[onlyanimalsaregood]

All my problems stem from how much I care about, support and love people that don't care about me at all. I hate myself for it, I wish I could be as careless and unloving as everyone else in my life and have no remorse or feeling of guilt or compassion. It really ruins me.

Me too, for real

It is a set of factors: Genetics, the environment in which the person lives, learned experiences, etc.

I see

 

[gimzero]

We are program to act from the brain and in death time nothing so why mind create such a sadistic world!

 

[locked*n*loaded]

Because it is human to seek validity.

 

[imdoneee]

I wish I could understand what is wrong with me. Why I am such a sensitive person. Why I care for people who don't give a fuck about me. Why I always blame myself for the things that happened. Even if the person was bad to me. I always blame myself in the end. I am feeling so lonely.

I don't really believe in free will, I think our behaviour and the choices we make are simply a result of genetics, environment and learned experiences etc, like theboy said. I think we act and think the way we do because at some point it was simply necessary, to survive. And by understanding why, we may be able to change that, and learn that it's no longer necessary to do these things.

I don't know. I'm currently seeing a therapist, he's the one who explained this to me. Made me feel safe, like he wouldn't ever judge me for all the fucked up things I've done. Instead maybe he can help me understand why I've made those choices, and to make better choices in the future. I don't know, but I'm giving it a shot, I have nothing to lose.

 

[rationaltake]

I don't know. I really don't. I'm so sorry you're feeling lonely. The people who should blame themselves never do. I'm so sad that you're suffering.

 

[HoneyandGlass]

I think I'm programmed to be like that no matter how much it can sometimes hurt me. I understand. I'm sorry you also experience this.

 

[SarRy]

Personally, I always felt I should at least do no harm. Maybe it was religion. Maybe it was learning people were vengeful. I think the memories that haunt the most are the ones where you hurt/offend someone. In my experience, people aren't very forgiving. I'm very thankful for the ones that are and try to be that way for others. We all make mistakes, but some people act like they're perfect. If the past would just stay in the past....

I was always expected to not be emotional. Being caring was something I had to hide. Everyone wants you to be the strong/stable shoulder they cry on. Sometimes I wish I could be as cold and uncaring as people have been to me, but I think it's at least more honourable to have a heart.