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JustAboutDone

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Jan 1, 2019
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I cannot agree with this enough

Agree times 10,000

Actually met someone online once: academic, calm, kind, professor type - turned out to be angry, control freak axe murderer type that you could easily imagine having a large deep freeze in a shed out back for a body.
 
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Johnnythefox

Johnnythefox

Que sera sera
Nov 11, 2018
3,129
Actually met someone online once: academic, calm, kind, professor type - turned out to be angry, control freak axe murderer type that you could easily imagine having a large deep freeze in a shed out back for a body.
I don't recall that date! Was I drunk?
 
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MsM3talGamer

Voluntary deletion
Nov 28, 2018
1,504
Lots of serial killer and rapey types online. No frogs that turn into Princes if you kiss them but bullfrogs and toads. Also, there's the danger of being catfished and the "tall handsome Adonis" you've been chatting to is in actual fact a fat sweaty guy in his soiled underwear.
 
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JustAboutDone

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Jan 1, 2019
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Lots of serial killer and rapey types online. No frogs that turn into Princes but bullfrogs and toads. Also, there's the danger of being catfished and the "tall handsome Adonis" you've been chatting to is in actual fact a fat sweaty guy in his soiled underwear.

Massive lolllll

So true!!!
 
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Johnnythefox

Johnnythefox

Que sera sera
Nov 11, 2018
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"tall handsome Adonis" you've been chatting to is in actual fact a fat sweaty guy in his soiled underwear.
Have you been checking out my Facebook profile?
 
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Johnnythefox

Johnnythefox

Que sera sera
Nov 11, 2018
3,129
Lots of serial killer and rapey types online. No frogs that turn into Princes if you kiss them but bullfrogs and toads. Also, there's the danger of being catfished and the "tall handsome Adonis" you've been chatting to is in actual fact a fat sweaty guy in his soiled underwear.
And that Marilyn Monroe look alike ends up looking more like Marilyn Manson.
 
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Pegasus

Pegasus

Experienced
Dec 15, 2018
258
I think social media have a lot to answer for and being on the computer all days means not meeting people. Dating is a general problem I'm wondering how to deal with.
 
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LiveSlowDieFast

LiveSlowDieFast

Specialist
Nov 14, 2018
338
Online dating just seems like the most miserable thing to me, to be honest.
 
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To match the colors

To match the colors

To have control is to be free.
Sep 19, 2018
40
at the risk of being called things im not...i would just assume that its because people have become more selfish, demanding and lacking in loyalty in relationships(this is for both Men and women, covering my ass here).
 
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Fyrinne

Fyrinne

Four of a Kind
Aug 11, 2018
67
at the risk of being called things im not...i would just assume that its because people have become more selfish, demanding and lacking in loyalty in relationships(this is for both Men and women, covering my ass here).

'Lacking in loyalty'.

I don't want loyalty from someone I'm in love with. I'd rather not have someone 'loyal' to me, I want someone who loves me. I want someone who wakes up and thinks, 'I'm so lucky'.

I'm glad 'loyalty' is a dying trend, because people should stay with someone because they still love them, because they are happy, not because of some imaginary act of charity or chivalry.
 
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MAC10

MAC10

Member
Dec 14, 2018
22
Specifically online dating? I tried to set up a profile as someone suggested and so far, I'm getting no responses. I know, that if you go by looks then it will be reciprocated but with Tinder, I accept all women and nothing happens. even on another site.
A combination of Feminism and an advancement of technology, making it easy for people to hook up. You don't need to go to a bar anymore, a few clicks can get you a date. It is very easy for women to get laid on tinder, compared to being near to impossible for men. Want advice? Give up, its not going to change, if anything it will get worse.
 
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peachesNpoison

peachesNpoison

Student
Dec 25, 2018
115
It's what you can expect from super-charged blind-dating, but with an easier angle for trolling. Dating is typically a grind but it has a potentially invaluable prize at the end (whether that's relationship or sex) that's hard to find any other way. Given that dangling carrot, some people take advantage of the power dynamic + anonymity and fuck around with others.
It can be said that it's shitty and unfair, but it's also the entirely expected result given those conditions. If you continue to give it a shot, hopefully it helps to accept the thing for what it is.
 
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Aesthler

Aesthler

Death is the only God who comes when you call
Sep 25, 2018
416
I'm currently doing the whole online dating thing but not really investing a lot of energy into it because I don't care either way. All my profile says Is that I'm not taking it too seriously because they probably aren't either and I just try to have the series of different pictures to show that I have a face.
I get likes and messages and I've met up in person with someone but so far I've not met or chatted with anyone that I personally would feel like I can really open up to or that I'd wanna hang out with on a consistent basis. I think In person dating wouldn't be much different for me personally but if something happens organically from either I'd be okay with it.
 
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ReadyasEver

ReadyasEver

Elementalist
Dec 6, 2018
828
Dating in 2019, I would be frightened to paralysis. I met my wife in the late 80's before the technological / IT boon. I truly believe it was much easier then than now.
 
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Lefty

Mage
Dec 7, 2018
530
I think Asian women are absolutely gorgeous :). But you are right about the women. My daughter is 5' 10" and athletic, I've never seen her date a guy less than 6' 2". The societal "norms" in the US are terrible.

I think asian women are lovely too.
 
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Angst Filled Fuck Up

Angst Filled Fuck Up

Visionary
Sep 9, 2018
2,983
I'm glad I'm not dating anymore. One thing that always bothered me was the fact that I would so often run into women who clearly didn't feel any kind of pressure to work on their personalities. They would feel no qualms about being completely flaky or self-absorbed, and it was painfully apparent a lot of the time.

I remember finding it insulting that I had spent years cultivating myself on a personal level, actually taking the time to improve myself where possible, acutely aware that I needed charm, wit, humor, compassion etc. And none of it needed to be reciprocated because I could be sat opposite the most vile, narcissistic woman, but so long as she was "hot" she was still considered a prize.

I think men are largely to blame for this though - we give women free passes because they look good, or just because they're, well, female. That's one thing I would like to see change, but I don't think it'll happen so long as male thirst is a thing.
 
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Lefty

Mage
Dec 7, 2018
530
I'm glad I'm not dating anymore. One thing that always bothered me was the fact that I would so often run into women who clearly didn't feel any kind of pressure to work on their personalities. They would feel no qualms about being completely flaky or self-absorbed, and it was painfully apparent a lot of the time.

I remember finding it insulting that I had spent years cultivating myself on a personal level, actually taking the time to improve myself where possible, acutely aware that I needed charm, wit, humor, compassion etc. And none of it needed to be reciprocated because I could be sat opposite the most vile, narcissistic woman, but so long as she was "hot" she was still considered a prize.

I think men are largely to blame for this though - we give women free passes because they look good, or just because they're, well, female. That's one thing I would like to see change, but I don't think it'll happen so long as male thirst is a thing.

Some very good points indeed.
 
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bunny

bunny

保管
Oct 3, 2018
364
it's hard, but i don't blame people for leaving. i have nothing to offer
 
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lost illusions

lost illusions

bye
Sep 12, 2018
548
Hey, just I got an email from POF. Someone messaged me that I went to school with. The message asked what I drive, how much do I make, and if I would loan her some money for a car lol
 
HelensNepenthe

HelensNepenthe

Thoughtful poster
Jan 17, 2019
835
Hey, just I got an email from POF. Someone messaged me that I went to school with. The message asked what I drive, how much do I make, and if I would loan her some money for a car lol
Seems very legit!
 
lost illusions

lost illusions

bye
Sep 12, 2018
548
I haven't been on pof in I think 2 years. I don't even have the app anymore
 

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