Discussion When (or if) you choose to CTB, what do you want to happen to your "online presence"?

[Forveleth]

Why do you think your life got better afterwards deleting some of your social media?

All the studies that they have done on how social media affects your brain are really true.

• External validation - I stopped worrying about what everyone thought about me. I was no longer doing things just for "likes" on a website but rather because I wanted to do them for myself. I no longer had to think about taking pictures of what I was doing to post or what I was going to say about it. I could just sit and enjoy things in the moment.
• Cut the dopamine addiction - It has been shown that constantly refreshing social media looking for new posts/notifications has some of the same addictive qualities as gambling. If not constantly checking feeds for something new, anxiety can develop. Now I am ok with not getting constant notifications. I do not feel the need to instantly know the second something posts online.
• General toxicity - Social media is a toxic cesspool and is generally terrible for mental health. It is mostly negativity either from obnoxious people or just the sheer amount of bad news constantly talked about these days. Once I stopped being bombarded with constant negativity, my mental health actually got better and I stopped being grumpy all of the time.

While I am still sad and suicidal I was worse when I had social media. I do not miss it at all.

 

[HereWeGo!]

@Forveleth
Yes I'm getting you. But don't you consider SaSu as social media?
I've been thinking if SaSu are for the good or bad for me a actually.

 

[bananaolympus]

I don't have social media but even if i had i don't care i keep them as it is

 

[ryo]

I don't really care, I'll leave all (or most of them) of them as is. My online presence doesn't matter that much. Most of those accounts are just fragments of me scattered across the internet. Nothing personal or profound is really tied to them, and if someone stumbles upon my profile or a random comment years down the line, I doubt it'll mean much. Erasing everything clean seems like a lot of effort for something that won't matter to me once I'm gone. The Internet is something like a written log after all.

 

[aiyuxhan]

Right now, I have deactivated my social media accounts where people IRL have access to me.

The day I ctb, I will reactivate IG, and make an ambiguous post with an emoji or one word. And I will ctb afterwards.

I don't mind my social media presence to stay up I guess.

 

[Forveleth]

@Forveleth
Yes I'm getting you. But don't you consider SaSu as social media?
I've been thinking if SaSu are for the good or bad for me a actually.

I do not consider SaSu the "typical" social media site. I have never felt the need to post a picture of my outfit for people to look at nor have I ever checks for likes on any of my posts here. I do not follow anyone and I follow threads only because I find the topic interesting/informative. I am content with being offsite for days at a time and do not worry about "missing" something.

Technically this site could fall under a definition of social media but I have never felt the anxiety here that has been associated with the more typical social media sites.

 

[bankai]

I have a Destiny 2 account that's very dear to me. In some ways, it's a part of who I am. My Guardians are an extension of me. I would like my Guardians to live on with my in game accomplishments. I even jokingly asked one of my close friends if he'll play my account if I quit the game for some reason. Told him not to tank my KD too much lol. But maybe people will see me on their friend list and remember some fun interactions we had together in the Vault of Glass. I couldn't leave behind anything of use for this world, after all.

Other accounts, I really don't care. I haven't posted in social media accounts for ages. I don't think anyone will notice unless they personally hear about my departure somehow. Even then, I don't think anyone will care much outside of a momentary "oh that's sad", if they even care to do that at all.

Have you watched Overlord by any chance?it's similar to your situation.

 

[willitpass]

I stay off social media. I don't have an online presence, and I'm okay with that. From a more "normal" standpoint, I am perfectly okay with nobody being able to find out a single thing about me from a google search. Especially working in healthcare, you can never be too cautious with some patients. This site is really my biggest online presence. I've been around long enough I've made somewhat of a mark here, albeit rather unintentionally. Though as is the nature of this site, the turnover is so high I know I too will one day be just another username in the void. Hopefully my day for that is sooner rather than later, though the universe seems to find is amusing to keep me here indefinitely. Any other digital trail I have is simply emails or the like, and I could not give two fewer shits what becomes of that.

 

[gnomes]

I have made too many things that are hosted by others so even if I want to delete, don't have ownership of some of my work

 

[itsoverforme303]

Have you watched Overlord by any chance?it's similar to your situation.

I haven't but I am vaguely aware of it.

 

[Jade10666]

nothing!

It is not unlike being hit by a bus - suddenly everything stops and there is an archive of a moments in time.