when i ctb i plan to write letters to many people i care abt. bad idea?

[gotomrg]

not just friends, but ex friends, my mom, my girlfriend, some people i used to really care about, my ex boyfriend. i think i have some things to say to them (no blaming, just some things), but im afraid it may be too traumatizing for them. some people dont even want to write a single note because of it.
so my question is whether its a bad idea or not.

 

[stermc]

I am doing the same. I don't think it is traumatizing. I think it's traumatizing to see someone go by suicide and never have answers or last words that could comfort them somehow.

 

[FuneralCry]

It's up to you whether to leave notes or not, but I don't see it as a bad idea as it could mean that those who are left behind are less likely to be left with as many unanswered questions.

 

[Zaphkiel]

I already wrote them
To mom; to pop, to the 2 witnesses that were at my marriage, and my ex wife.
Each case is unique, if you feel the need for it, do it.

 

[gotomrg]

I already wrote them
To mom; to pop, to the 2 witnesses that were at my marriage, and my ex wife.
Each case is unique, if you feel the need for it, do it.

I am doing the same. I don't think it is traumatizing. I think it's traumatizing to see someone go by suicide and never have answers or last words that could comfort them somehow.

may i ask how are you planning to send those? i dont want to leave them next to my body, even though it's quite reliable and will get to the addressees in time lol. i also hate the idea of other people reading letters that were not meant for them. i wish there was a way to send these letters individually without any risks of them being sent already and me failing at my attempt (and other people interfering).

 

[CentreMid]

not just friends, but ex friends, my mom, my girlfriend, some people i used to really care about, my ex boyfriend. i think i have some things to say to them (no blaming, just some things), but im afraid it may be too traumatizing for them. some people dont even want to write a single note because of it.
so my question is whether its a bad idea or not.

Ultimately, it's up to you, but I don't think it's a bad idea. If you think it will give the people in your life some sort of closure, even to a small degree, then go for it.

 

[stermc]

may i ask how are you planning to send those? i dont want to leave them next to my body, even though it's quite reliable and will get to the addressees in time lol. i also hate the idea of other people reading letters that were not meant for them. i wish there was a way to send these letters individually without any risks of them being sent already and me failing at my attempt (and other people interfering).

I am ctbing in a hotel, probably, but I will let all the letters inside of a box in my room and send a late email to my brother in law (just because I don't want to bother my family, considering they will be dealing with a lot) telling him all the instructions to get to the letters (he also has similar views on death to me, so I think he will do it all more calmly).

 

[xXAJBXx]

there's no harm in it, as long as you know exactly what you want to say. you don't want to spend too long drafting and writing it that you end up suffering for much longer than intended.

 

[gotomrg]

I am ctbing in a hotel, probably, but I will let all the letters inside of a box in my room and send a late email to my brother in law (just because I don't want to bother my family, considering they will be dealing with a lot) telling him all the instructions to get to the letters (he also has similar views on death to me, so I think he will do it all more calmly).

that's a good plan. unfortunately i dont have anyone who could just send out all of my letters without reading them first. but at the same time maybe it doesn't really matter. cant be affected if im dead.