Are u just determine to pick fault in everything I say.....
@LostAllHope7651
Please don't take everything as a personal attack.
Although I know that can be tough, and I fully understand how and why you may feel that way.
A lot of "constructive criticism" can take place on this site.
It can be quite a steep learning curve initially.
Perhaps some members can be very "direct" in the way they say things.
I understand it can be a bit daunting as a new member.
You can and should stand up for yourself, however.
Going through the process of doing that will actually help you understand better in your mind why you are here, so in fact although it may not seem like it, those who "challenge" you are really your greatest friends in many regards.
As mentioned, the site has been under a lot of media scrutiny.
It's important that we don't take matters lightly (we don't anyhow, but the self-awareness on this matter is extra high at present), so that anybody can't just sign up and say :
"Hey everyone !! This place is cool. Let me know the best methods please...! Missing you already !!"
I'm obviously exaggerating, but you get the idea....
There needs to be a sense of seriousness and intent.
It needs to be clear that you are mindful of what you are doing and why, and that you are serious in the questions you are asking.
Try to phrase your questions clearly and word your posts well, to show you are putting thought into what you are doing.
It should come across from your posts that you are driving your own research and learning.
Otherwise it would be irresponsible of us to share information too freely with anybody who just casually signs up.
Anyhow, I am certain you will soon "find your feet", if that is what you wish.
I guess there's a sort of initial bar you have to clear here, which is important to get rid of people who are only "casually browsing" this site.
We have an important responsibility to get rid of such "casual browsers", as I'm sure you can appreciate.
And if someone "criticises" you, take a step back for a few minutes, and breathe, and don't rush your reply until you're clear in your thoughts.
Ask yourself if the person might have a point that is worth considering (sometimes yes, sometimes no).
It takes a lot of wisdom to be able to question whether you might be at fault, and is the sign of a great and strong person.
But only if that genuinely applies - don't agree with someone unless you can really see the validity of their point.
Anyhow, I'm kind of "waffling" a bit now, but I hope you might have gotten something from my post above, and that it might give you a bit of additional perspective to work with.......