Discussion what to keep in mind when writing suicide note?

[thronesick]

over the years I think i have written like five drafts of suicide notes to my family and friends. i thought about giving each person individually a different letter but i didn't want to say so much for one person and not for another and what if the person i leave a note to doesn't even gaf. i thought about prerecording videos to congratulate my baby sister on each milestone and rite of passage like congrats on your first day at school happy 18th birthday sorry i shot myself in the head or like congratulations on graduating but i don't know. i don't wanna leave some cryptic text to my friends and say hey thank you for everything and then they try to rescue me. as i read each note explaining my reasoning it just feels so corny. does anybody feel this way? trying to explain themselves thoroughly. i can't reassure a loved one successfully because they're gonna grieve the way they do which is disappointing because nothing i say will convince them that i did this as a favor.

 

[Musiclover338]

you're going to be dead so it not like it really matters anymore is how i look at it

 

[TennTrixie]

I definitely struggle with this. I want to leave a note to reassure my family there is nothing they could have done to stop it, but I'm hoping they can convince themselves it wasn't suicide. Leaving a note would obviously make it clear it was suicide.

 

[soonnotkoei]

you're going to be dead so it not like it really matters anymore is how i look at it

+1. it might seem a bit selfish but id rather not explain everything.

 

[areyousafe??]

I think back to my first suicide letter and realise how stupid and corny it was, and how things and people which mattered to me back then, doesn't matter to me now. I have decided I will probably not leave a note, or just a very brief one...so that I don't regret writing something stupid (even though I will not be alive to feel regret).