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body_snatcher

body_snatcher

green and lonely
Jan 23, 2023
49
What are the things you wish people wouldn't say to you when they find out? What makes you feel worse about it? I have wanted to CTB myself for many years but I also want to know how to better support a friend right now.
 
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Aknu132

Aknu132

Tenha um bom dia!
Dec 25, 2023
320
Show genuine interest in helping him, don't just tell him to go to therapy or say a few words and leave it at that. Have a real conversation with him, ask him questions, say positive things to him. Express love, try to help.
 
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dearn

dearn

Professional Bulimic
May 30, 2026
34
What are the things you wish people wouldn't say to you when they find out? What makes you feel worse about it? I have wanted to CTB myself for many years but I also want to know how to better support a friend right now.
Talking. Saying generic stuff such as « but why? You're so pretty, you're so kind, you're so blabla.. it will pass » just make me feel worst personally. I think the best u can do is talk about those subjects without any taboo. Spend quality times with your friend, be genuinely interested. But it depends your friend personality too
 
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Passenger4224

Passenger4224

I appreciate everything that can kill me.
Mar 8, 2026
255
Literally anything except "I understand and respect your decision"
 
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flowerbomb

flowerbomb

Student
Nov 28, 2024
123
"You have to think about all the people you will be leaving behind" ---> worst sentence for me. Exactly this guilt is eating me up anyway
 
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burninghill

burninghill

Specialist
Dec 2, 2025
353
Either guilt tripping you about how other people will feel or just telling you it'll get better.

I never understood the guilt tripping thing. I'm 20 years old, my parents are in their late 30s. Am I supposed to wait 50 years for them to die until I can go? I shouldn't have to drag myself along just to make sure other people are kept happy. I want to do what's best for me.
I just hate how such a personal decision is immediately made to be about other people.
It's also a bit insulting. Did you think I hadn't considered that? And why should I care if I know I'll be dead?
 
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Idkwhattopick

Member
Aug 29, 2024
87
Personally I hate hearing: take it one day at a time, or it's just a case of getting through the next hour. I also really don't like being told it's not a solution. Suicide might not be the solution people like, but ultimately it is a method of solving the issues I experience and so is a solution.
 
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Oiled Sandwich

Oiled Sandwich

Lazy Aspiring Demonolator
Jun 10, 2026
85
The constant copes people throw at people wishing to ctb:

"If you leave, you won't be able to enjoy ice cream."

"Eat your favorite food and take a break."

"Just get a dog/cat."

"Join the specific religion I was coerced into believing since childhood."

"This too shall pass."

Like, no, I'm tired of coping. I'm tired of playing by the rules. I just want to leave.
 
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moon2bright

worthless
Apr 11, 2026
48
All the usual shit -- it'll get better, people will miss you, you don't know what will happen in the future.
Personally I hate hearing: take it one day at a time, or it's just a case of getting through the next hour. I also really don't like being told it's not a solution. Suicide might not be the solution people like, but ultimately it is a method of solving the issues I experience and so is a solution.
And the problems we face aren't temporary. (Or they're at least as temporary as any problems you have in a finite amount of time on earth.) The most anyone can ever suggest is just distracting yourself. Is that it? Am I supposed to distract myself from the horrors of the world for however many decades I might have left?
 
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ZeroRedz02

ZeroRedz02

Waiting GTA 6 constantly but my choice is to leave
May 21, 2026
148
The constant copes people throw at people wishing to ctb:

"If you leave, you won't be able to enjoy ice cream."

"Eat your favorite food and take a break."

"Just get a dog/cat."

"Join the specific religion I was coerced into believing since childhood."

"This too shall pass."

Like, no, I'm tired of coping. I'm tired of playing by the rules. I just want to leave.
Well that are some of obvious comments, and i imagine that everybody we will die also our family which is worth to be egoistic and end it once for all.
 
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ex_nihilo91

Member
Nov 5, 2024
9
"It gets better." Sounds like something from the rash of lame suicide awareness pop-punk songs of the 2000s. I am 35 years old lol I'm sure if it was going to "get better" it would have by now. On the contrary, every year it gets worse.
 
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Idkwhattopick

Member
Aug 29, 2024
87
All the usual shit -- it'll get better, people will miss you, you don't know what will happen in the future.

And the problems we face aren't temporary. (Or they're at least as temporary as any problems you have in a finite amount of time on earth.) The most anyone can ever suggest is just distracting yourself. Is that it? Am I supposed to distract myself from the horrors of the world for however many decades I might have left?
Yeahh being told to find a way to distract yourself gets infuriating. I spend all day every day distracting myself but when it gets to a point you can't exist without distracting yourself from your own mind, where your own mind isn't a safe place to be, what's even the point?
 
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tehdragonguy

Member
Sep 17, 2023
9
For me it's "It's your fault". Yes, I know I caused problems. My mental health is awful, and it's not your fault. But I don't need to be constantly reminded of it.
 
Mrs. T-800

Mrs. T-800

schwarzenegger fangirl ♡t-800 from t2 is my love♡
Nov 25, 2025
108
"You'll go to hell." I'm Catholic, so this can be common. In my mind, I don't deserve heaven anyway, and I am inherently made for hell. So I don't care.
 
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