Discussion What do you regret?

[Bruce]

What do you regret about life? For me, my biggest regret is probably going to a college I hated and not leaving when I had the chance. But there's plenty of other things I regret, like never putting myself out there, never putting effort into my appearance, spending too much time online and isolating myself, etc. You never get back those wasted years.

I went to a college which I didn't like, I quit, it didn't seem to make much of a difference. Then I went to a second college which I didn't like, I finished, it seemed to make some difference. And then I went to a college which I did like, I finished, it seemed to make a good difference. I put myself out there. .. In the end though nothing really made a difference. I'm not saying that it wouldn't have worked out for you just that .. sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn't. Don't beat yourself up for what it could have been! You did what you thought was the best with what you had and that's really the best you can do. Not just you, but EVERYONE in this discussion. None of you should really beat yourselves up! It's not you, it's the world!

I regret closing my heart to love.

I already told this before but when I finally meet someone great, single... with values, liked to study, to work... i discovered that she had not already one boyfriend, but many.... basically she was sleeping with a different man every week, I was in my late 30's.

I tried to forget her, I meet a lot (I mean a lot!!! really) of woman, beautiful, inteligent... but didnt feel love for anyone else. I tried hard... well... maybe I couldnt control my heart.

Mate I .. I'm sorry! I'm really sorry! I know how hard is to stop caring. No, not hard but impossible.

As for me, I don't really regret much. I look back and I can't see how different choices would have led to different, better results.

 

[human909]

I regret everything, i hate life.

 

[WeDontKnowTheFuture]

I regret not having been happy and enjoy life as other around me were doing but it isn't my fault.

 

[arandomname]

I regret going into any relationship cus that just made me desire closeness and human connection more.

I regret everything bad I have done as that has just increased my feelings of guilt and self-hatred.

I regret about wanting to develop games I want to make as it makes me want to continue life when I know death is the more logical decision.

Feel this, I made peace with dying alone and then got close to someone. Tricked myself into thinking what I made peace with wasn't true anymore and now back to making peace with it.

 

[OptingOutSmiling]

One stupid mistake. Making me lose the one person I ever loved. Realising all of this too late, what matters and what doesn't matter.

 

[Daxter777]

Breaking my ex's heart and disappointing her. And no i didn't cheat.

Also not investing in bitcoin but i think everyone that didn't regrets that they didn't.

I also regret going to the psych ward when I got extremely depressed instead of just CTB

 

[fawnfurever]

Not knowing how to regulate my emotions and insecurities. Lost a 6 year relationship with a guy that I know for a fact would've been a fantastic long term partner if I was normal and responsible. If i actually cared and loved myself. I wish him the best, and will always wonder what our life would've been like was I any different.

 

[hypervigilance]

I regret not turning my back on my family of origin in 1988.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Being born

 

[AuroraB]

i regret having jobs without having a legit profession...being a stoner in middle and high school and college and not going to medical school.

 

[Bruce]

I regret everything, i hate life.

Oh man! <3

One stupid mistake. Making me lose the one person I ever loved. Realising all of this too late, what matters and what doesn't matter.

Breaking my ex's heart and disappointing her. And no i didn't cheat.

Also not investing in bitcoin but i think everyone that didn't regrets that they didn't.

I also regret going to the psych ward when I got extremely depressed instead of just CTB

Not knowing how to regulate my emotions and insecurities. Lost a 6 year relationship with a guy that I know for a fact would've been a fantastic long term partner if I was normal and responsible. If i actually cared and loved myself. I wish him the best, and will always wonder what our life would've been like was I any different.

Oh you guys and girls! Yeah I did that too, I made mistakes as well. But is it really always and only us? If she would have made mistakes I would have not pushed her away. In my eyes this is love! Accepting mistakes, accepting the other person for who they are. Their mistakes are not important, what's in their heart is. If they left you then maybe they did not care about you as much as you cared for them. This happend to me. Fuck I was crying and she was smiling asking why am I crying and saying that it's not important and it will pass. More then two years passed and I'm still there in that parking lot crying my guts out. It's just so incredibly sad to see good people blaming themselves when it's not fully or only their fault. You are much better then you think you are!

i regret having jobs without having a legit profession...being a stoner in middle and high school and college and not going to medical school.

Is it that hard to make peace with who you are and work just a simple, average job? Maybe you can find one that you like. Sometimes simple can be better, less stressful, cathartic maybe?

 

[divinemistress36]

Breaking my ex's heart and disappointing her. And no i didn't cheat.

Also not investing in bitcoin but i think everyone that didn't regrets that they didn't.

I also regret going to the psych ward when I got extremely depressed instead of just CTB

Same! Got talked into electroshock therapy bad idea

 

[Kali_Yuga13]

I regret not going no-contact with my dad much earlier in life and the life that resulted from not doing that and the years I have left to remember not doing that. It amounts to being true to oneself which is sometimes hard to do under the duress of gaslighting.

 

[straysheep]

Not taking more risks

 

[oneeyed]

*reads title of post* how much time you got?

 

[darkenmydoorstep]

Having an abortion and having a child. Both reproduction related. Really I suppose I should just never have had sex ever. Then neither would have happened.

 

[emptinessdancing]

Having always been "the stong one", the "one to go first", :"the one we all look to for answers"------ I regret never admitting how incredibly crushing the pressure of all that was. Did I do it really well? Yes. I did. But did it kill me in the end? I am afraid it will. I have put on a mask for everyone and every single situation in my life thus far, I have no idea who I ACTUALLY am now. I regret that. I regret ever ACTING; albeit the very thing that has allowed me to survive thus far! The result of that alone is all my relationships ending up in some kind of lie. Now? I only have 2 left. (relationships. why? cuz no one can keep a facade up forever, and most people will leave long before the fallout of that. ) I just wish I had somehow not let the last few people in at all. Its crushing all of us. No matter which way you look at it. its terrifying and incosolable. I hate all of it. And I know they do too. The only way out is to disappear and isolate from them the way I have from everyone else. And that is what I am in the process of doing now. its heartbreaking to be honest. I am not a monster. The opposite actually, to be sure. I see it all over them-- as much as they dont want me to go; they crave any sort of distance from me that they can get because they WANT to live and get on with their lives. And goddmamnit-- who can blame them???
Anyway, thats my regret: maybe just letting anyone in, in the first place.

 

[Valhala]

For allowing myself to lose her, my only true love. If I could turn back time just two years ago, I could fix everything, but that's impossible, unfortunately..

 

[Electra]

Not seeking help sooner