weird urges to insult my friends

[unhealthylonelyfrea]

how can i stop spamming "stfu" while talking to someone i care about? my gf just unfollowed me because i spammed "stfu" more than 30 times in the chat for no reason

i have no idea why this is happening to me

 

[strawberryjampan]

lmfao, nothing is "happening to you", you're the one doing it. get real

 

[scarecrowbubu]

how can i stop spamming "stfu" while talking to someone i care about? my gf just unfollowed me because i spammed "stfu" more than 30 times in the chat for no reason

i have no idea why this is happening to me

It's probably frustration getting a hold of you. It's ok, probably It's not the best time to have a conversation when you feel like that. Many things could influence it. Did you sleep enough? Did you eat? Had too much coffee? Wish you peace.

 

[FuneralCry]

Then just don't communicate with those people.

 

[unhealthylonelyfrea]

lmfao, nothing is "happening to you", you're the one doing it. get real

i dont do it, it just happens

 

[ringo99]

You're trying to sever connections between yourself and the people you care about so the sense of loss and pain they feel if you decide to ctb won't be as large. You're unconsciously performing an unselfish act even though it causes you a lot of pain. I know because that's exactly what I've been doing for years to my coworkers. It took me a long time to realize it. At least half of the coworkers on my team dislike me because I was an asshole to them in the past. I've stopped now since I'm numb and don't care what people think about me anymore. If you really want to stop then I hope this explanation helps.

 

[Forever Sleep]

i dont do it, it just happens

Obviously you are writing the replies though... Think maybe you need to get into the habit of proof reading your messages before you send them. If you're compulsively insulting people- you can modify your language before you hit 'send'.

Also- I think it's worth you trying to analyse why you're doing this. Presumably it's because you're feeling annoyed? What at?

Me for example- one particular friend will text me- 'How are you? How's it going?' (They already know it's likely going badly.) Normal really but I dread such a text because- I don't want to lie- but- if I tell the truth and say I'm struggling- they'll (maybe naturally) try and come up with things to try to 'help'... Except they don't help- they just annoy me further because they don't take their own advice and they don't like platitudes themselves. So- I'm getting to the point where I'm just going to ask them to stop asking me. Thing is- I know it's my own problem but- for the friendship to continue and be pleasant for both of us, we probably need to avoid that whole cycle.

Maybe you need to look at what it is they're saying that's annoying you. Why do you want them to stop saying certain things? If the friendships are important to you- maybe you can try and prevent those things being said to begin with- so you don't get triggered. If it's just compulsive though- I don't know... Maybe other things in life are making you frustrated and you're lashing out at those closest to you?

 

[pphinquiry]

I'm not a fan of psychologists or psychiatrists but imo you should to talk to one. You could be having some type of compulsive behavior that seems kind of tourettes like and could be neurological.

That is if you genuinely feel you can't control it. If you are just being dramatic and trying to create excuses for dumb shit you are writing in chats than that is on you.