threathening a friend that i'll ctb

[404]

honestly i hate doing this but im very desperate for their attention ever since they told me that they might cut ties with me
i know threathening them will make them do that much quicker but i can't think properly anymore
i think i really deserve to kms at this point

 

[Suicidebydeath]

Send them another message and apologise? If you want to stay friends. The sooner you send an apology, the better. Otherwise they might feel resentment.

I don't know if it'll help with fuzzy thinking but you want to treat your friend how you would want to be treated if you were them. The longer it goes since the last interaction was negative though the worse it will be for them, so the less they'll want to remain friends.

Edit on: as others said too it depends on whether the relationship. Friends fall out sometimes, good friends will make it through that and rarely fall out. If you can't count on their support you might want to move on if that's better for you.

 

[The anhedonic one]

Oh god I am so sorry you are going through this.
Fear of rejection is an emotionally devastating feeling. You can actually feel the anxiety of it all over your body.
I have suffered from this too. Way more times than I care to remember.
Does your friend know how you really feel ?
If they know how you are really feeling, and are not showing any empathy towards you then maybe it's best to just let them go.
Even though it will be very painful to do so, it will free you from the burden of the intense fear of rejection.
I hope this makes sense, and helps you in any way. Hugs.

 

[anklebiter]

honestly i hate doing this but im very desperate for their attention ever since they told me that they might cut ties with me
i know threathening them will make them do that much quicker but i can't think properly anymore
i think i really deserve to kms at this point

I've been in this boat before, sometimes you just get rlly overwhelmed with your thoughts or feelings that you say it not rlly caring about the aftermath without you meaning to harm them it sucks and is hard. I'd probably just apologize saying that you were overwhelmed with everything but tbh if they were already trying to cut Ties with you it might be better to just move on from that friend

 

[404]

but tbh if they were already trying to cut Ties with you it might be better to just move on from that friend

i don't have any other friends aside from them and i can't make any new friends because of my mental state that's why im so desperate for their attention

and i can't apologize to them right now since they're ignoring me...

 

[anklebiter]

Yea it can be really hard moving on from friends when you don't have any others speaking from experience, but as hard as it is it might be best. The fact that they were threatening to drop you is kinda messed up and people like that will just help in making you miserable, I'd just say my peace to them and end it on good terms it will be hard at first but I promise you'll find better people and will have the time to focus on yourself and decide if you want to try getting better or to ctb

 

[404]

The fact that they were threatening to drop you is kinda messed up and people like that will just help in making you miserable

i think it's my fault for them hating me to that degree since i already threatened them and when they were still helping me with my problems, i haven't changed one bit and i got worse which made them upset-

 

[ferret-in-a-sock]

I've been there, at least mentally. Sometimes your friend may have other real life problems and they're overwhelmed too. They don't know how to help you and they feel upset. Sometimes even if they're ignoring you saying, "I am sorry. I am going through a rough time. I will give you space." And then setting a few days aside to cool your head and theirs and going "Hey, do you mind if we talk? What's been going on with you? I feel like I'm upsetting you and you don't want to be friends. Is there something we could do?"

Like maybe your friend feels you don't care about them or that if you only text them about your bad feelings, they feel a kinda wariness.

Im also going through fearing a friend rejecting me. Logically, I know they're going through their own big problems and might be at risk themselves, but I'm sensitive and compromised and the "I don't want to talk to anyone" line hurts, a lot. I've deleted my messaging app, reinstalled it, and checked like crazy. Obsessive.

But gotta shove that under the rug.

 

[Linda]

honestly i hate doing this but im very desperate for their attention ever since they told me that they might cut ties with me
i know threathening them will make them do that much quicker but i can't think properly anymore
i think i really deserve to kms at this point

You may be desperate for this person's attention but it seems clear that they are not desperate for yours. That is not a viable situation in the long term. Your best option may be to take control of the situation yourself, and walk away from that person, But don't threaten them. That wouldn't do anybody any good. Breaking up with someone is always difficult, but it will become easier if you are doing the breaking up.

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I think weaponizing CTB is just going to cause the exact opposite effect of what you seek.

 

[internetgirl]

I've been there. Doesn't help, don't do it please. At "best" they will never see you then same again and likely try to distance themselves even more :( at worst they may report you. Being in patient is something that isn't good for a lot of people and I'd hate for that to happen.

 

[UKscotty]

That's emotional abuse and is not fair.

They have every right to drop you, I certainly would if I was being manipulated like that.

 

[cami]

hey lovely, i understand why you feel like this but texting people that is not okay at all. please apologise or take it back. one mistake doesn't make you a bad person, but if you continue with this pattern of behaviour then that becomes questionable. please stay safe, you are loved by us if nobody else.

 

[404]

i don't think i deserve to live anymore
i can't think properly and i hurt other people
and most of the time i just cry and scream

im so tired