Discussion Thoughts on scars?

[bloodybushman]

For those of you with scars, marks, or any other physical indicators of self-harm or attempts to CTB, what are your general day-to-day thoughts and opinions regarding them?

Are your thoughts about them mostly negative, positive, or neutral? Do you sometimes forget they exist?

How much do the opinions of others affect your own thoughts regarding your scars? Would your thoughts on them be any different if society wasn't so judgemental?

Have they caused you any trouble in securing a job or friends?

Do you wish they were gone, and if so, are you doing anything to lessen their appearance? Or do you wish they were more visible?

Do you like or dislike joking about them? Do you like or dislike if other people joke about them? Do you have a favorite and/or least favorite joke in particular?

Do they itch, ache, cause numbness, etc?

Feel free to answer as many or as few of these questions as you'd like. (Or none of them, if you have something else to share regarding scars.)

 

[AngelTear]

For those of you with scars, marks, or any other physical indicators of self-harm or attempts to CTB, what are your general day-to-day thoughts and opinions regarding them?

Are your thoughts about them mostly negative, positive, or neutral? Do you sometimes forget they exist?

How much do the opinions of others affect your own thoughts regarding your scars? Would your thoughts on them be any different if society wasn't so judgemental?

Have they caused you any trouble in securing a job or friends?

Do you wish they were gone, and if so, are you doing anything to lessen their appearance? Or do you wish they were more visible?

Do you like or dislike joking about them? Do you like or dislike if other people joke about them? Do you have a favorite and/or least favorite joke in particular?

Do they itch, ache, cause numbness, etc?

Feel free to answer as many or as few of these questions as you'd like. (Or none of them, if you have something else to share regarding scars.)

1.) I honestly forget they're there until they start itching

2.) Positive, I love them tbh but I do also forget they're there sometimes

3.) Honestly so far no one has been that judgemental of my scars but when they're brought up to does make me wanna do more

4.) I had trouble getting a job long before I even had sh scars and I'm not looking for friends so that's a non issue for me

5.) I wish they were deeper and more visible (they're already pretty noticeable as is) like how some surgery scars look

6.) I have never joked about them before and would rather no one joke about them at all.

7.) They itch regularly but I've gotten used to it however there are some that cause me discomfort from time to time

I feel like I'm the odd man out because I absolutely love my scars and cutting makes me feel so good. I'm not ashamed at all and I want to be covered in scars but I'm just too lazy to do clean up every time so I haven't done anything to myself in a while. I also sorta miss how my suicide attempt felt. I used a noose and when I was about to fall unconscious it was like everything was lifting but I didn't die (obviously) bc of how I tried to do it. It just left me feeling woozy (which I must say was a pleasant experience for me too, it was like I was somewhat high) and pretty bad neck pain...and and extra 2k in debt from a hospital stay Xd

 

[otomedissection]

I think my feelings toward mine are mostly neutral. I stopped self-harming for several years but gradually got back into it when things started getting worse. I don't really bother to try and cover them up, but I've since started cutting in areas that I can easily hide instead. I feel weird about the ones on my arms because I work with young kids and it's sometimes sad having to make up a story when they innocently ask about them. I also feel shame in the sense that the scars on my arms are more shallow because I've always been afraid of going too deep. I'm worried more about people thinking things like "wow, if you're gonna self-harm, do it 'right', you attention seeker" rather than reacting negatively to the fact that I cut itself. Overall, I'd say I've accepted them.

 

[bigwomanbigwoman123]

i actually hate my scars. i feel deeply ashamed of them. at some point during my worst year for self harm, i stopped doing it to cope and started doing because i wanted as many scars as possible. i was attention seeking i guess. and that makes me even more ashamed. the amount of scars that all overlap just looks really ugly, and i look like a weirdo.

my scars have ruined summer for me i think. where most people are lookinh forward to summer, i just isolate more as going outside with long sleeves is just too much for me. and people like to tell me that its okay for me to go sleeveless, that its just part of my body, but that doesnt change how embarrassed i am about my scars

 

[Hvergelmir]

Very neutral - I mostly forget about them. I haven't cut in a long time, so the scars are all old. They don't seem to bother anyone or draw much attention, despite being clearly visible.

i just isolate more as going outside with long sleeves is just too much for me

Coincidentally I prefer long sleaves for sun protection. With thin cloth, it doesn't have to be a burden.

 

[dragonofenvy]

Very negatively at times, other times I don't care about them. I unfortunately cut down my nose because I didn't like how big it was and people in school used to say I was Jewish because my nose is big, so I have to deal with that reminder each time I look in the mirror. My other scars are on my shoulders so they're easy to hide from others and myself so I don't notice them much. Back in the day someone noticed my fresh scars on my shoulders cause they started bleeding and shamed for me them so I still carry the shame on my shoulders, literally and figuratively.

I'm lucky because nobody sees the shoulder scars, and nobody would assume that a scar on someone's nose is SH so I don't get bothered by others about them. SH actually helped me make a friend with someone who also cut and she wanted to see my scars so it's not all bad.

I have been tempted to cut again on my wrists, to try to make deep scars, but I've so far haven't and hopefully can continue doing so.