Venting Thought I could trust my friend.

[purpleorangegreen_]

Recently I message one of my best friends, who I thought would be cool and support my wishes to CTB. 5 mins later my brother shows up at my front door and threatens to get me help and tell everyone in my life about my suicide plans. I am so scared, now I feel I have to go even sooner. I am so stupid.

 

[FuneralCry]

You just can't trust people and that is the reality, it's a terrible idea opening up about suicide in this anti-suicide society, it just cannot be discussed openly. But that does sound like such an awful situation to be in, it disgusts me how so many in this world refuse to accept suicide as a valid option as the fact is that not everyone wants to exist here, people like that seriously lack any compassion. It's like they forget that we are all going to die anyway.

 

[Dawns]

Unfortunately i would say you can't really trust anyone with that information. I have a best friend friend who's also very suicidal but he's told my parents multiple times about things i had been doing (drinking/drugs/planning to CTB) so unfortunately you can't really trust anyone.

 

[purpleorangegreen_]

It's like they forget that we are all going to die anyway.

This is exactly what I've been thinking! Where's the point in living, just to be an old, helpless person waiting for the end to come? I'd rather die.

 

[Worndown]

Friend has different meanings depending on what side of this issue you stand. On his side, he was being helpful.
Knowing what friend to tell is the question. You have a great friend but a lousy confidant.

 

[Georg]

I mean what did you expect your friend would do after telling him about your ctb-plan? What outcome were you wishing for?

You will never gain anything from telling others about your ctb-plan if you are serious about it.

 

[ringo99]

It's usually best to confide such things verbally so you can follow up with telling them to keep it to themselves until you were ready to reveal it yourself. Doing this in person would do a much better job of conveying the seriousness of what you just said than a text.


I hate saying this but maybe you could lie to your brother say it was just ordinary venting. Then confront your friend and ask him why he blabbed to your brother.

 

[Little_Suzy]

If someone I knew informed me they were going to commit suicide and I didn't know anything about their intentions, or if I believed they were venting, I would notify a close family member.

You can't give an atomic bomb to a buddy and expect them not to freak out.

It is preferable to share your news in person.

I am not a bad friend; yet, after reading your text, you can describe me as a very confused and frightened friend.

I simply want to make sure you're okay.

 

[purpleorangegreen_]

UPDATE



I recently met up with the friend that blabbed and they apologised over and over and we made up. I told them that they don't owe me an apology and that they did the right thing. I told them that I'm fine and that it was just regular venting. However, that isn't true. I've scheduled a message to be sent a week after my planned date for CTB.



Also, me and my brother recently got into an argument- not gonna say about what - but before he left my house to go home he yelled at me something along the lines of "Go ahead and do your plans then. We'd all be better off without you."



I need to CTB. I have to

 

[charlotte_]

I'm really sorry things went that way. It's awful to live in a society where suicide is considered as something taboo and problematic, so you really can't discuss those information with anyone. Still, I hope that you're feeling better now. You didn't deserve any of that. Best wishes to you

 

[Letgo]

It's good that everything is back to normal with your friend.
With your brother sometimes you can get into "disagreements" but I don't think it was very smart for him to say what he did.
The most important thing is that you are ready. If you are not, take as much time as needed. If you are it's ok
You don't have to because of what your brother said. It's just when you are ready and sure. It is a one way ticket only.