There is no correct way of living no matter how much society, religion or toxic movements tell you how to live.

[FireFox]

Society is in this constant competition of whether being single is better or having a relationship. A woman or a man wanting to marry or a person wanting to be single are both valid lifestyles neither is better than the other. I am 28 and have been single all my life. Rescently I have been hanging out with this guy who loves spending time with me. Its clear he does like me.

Things between the guy and I are progressing. He wants to see me again and together we are planning our 3rd vist to a musuem.

Only spending time with this guy I finally realise that I needed all those years as single woman to learn to live by myself and discover what I want in life. I have been doing fun things by myself and have had amazing experiences. No matter how much fun I had I still longed for a boyfriend. When I visted Hyde Park by myself I ate fish and chips in this cafe by the Serpentine river. When I saw other people with their their partners I wished I could for once experience what they have. I had a great day during my first time vist to Hyde park but still that longing was there.

I realise now being single is not for me. Other woman and men can find happiness in being single but I am not these people and never will be. I have tried my best to enjoy life as a single woman, God knows I have tried. I have had amazing experiences doing fun things by myself and discovering myself but honestly all these years of being single I have never been happy. We have all these toxic communities in society ranging from the trad life movement to the certain radical feminists movement and the red pill movement with all 3 groups pushing their beliefs of everyone to accept a particular lifestyle to be happy. The truth is there is no correct way of living

 

[Pluto]

 

[Hvergelmir]

Other woman and men can find happiness in being single but I am not these people and never will be.

Frankly, most people do best with a partner. Evolution kind of made it that way - there are reasons that the established norms are the norms.
But also what you say; there's nothing wrong with being happy without, or in a non-standard configuration, just less common. The brain is very flexible, and we're not all the same.

People have too strong opinions, on too fuzzy subjects, perceiving their own experiences as universal truths.

 

[Forever Sleep]

I agree- it's not fair to push our own wants and beliefs on others. If they insist they are happy or unhappy in a given situation- their opinion should be respected. They're the ones living it. I suppose those of us who are single may try to look on the positive side of that and for some of us, that can be true and empowering. Personally speaking, I am ok alone. I mean- I'm suicidal but then, I expect I would be suicidal even if I was with someone! I actually think if I had got with any of the guys I had crushes on, the outcome would have been terrible for both of us. So, I'm almost grateful nothing ever developed.

That said, I'm really happy for couples who find happiness together- that's great.

I suppose it can work in the other direction. People staying in toxic situations- whether that be jobs, home life, a relationship, because they still believe that is better than nothing. Maybe it is for them but I also think people can become trapped in toxic environments because they feel obliged/ pressured to stay or, too scared to leave.

I absolutely agree though- each to their own. We're individuals with different backgrounds and needs. It stands to reason we will all be varying happy or unhappy in certain situations.

 

[FireFox]

I agree- it's not fair to push our own wants and beliefs on others. If they insist they are happy or unhappy in a given situation- their opinion should be respected. They're the ones living it. I suppose those of us who are single may try to look on the positive side of that and for some of us, that can be true and empowering. Personally speaking, I am ok alone. I mean- I'm suicidal but then, I expect I would be suicidal even if I was with someone! I actually think if I had got with any of the guys I had crushes on, the outcome would have been terrible for both of us. So, I'm almost grateful nothing ever developed.

That said, I'm really happy for couples who find happiness together- that's great.

I suppose it can work in the other direction. People staying in toxic situations- whether that be jobs, home life, a relationship, because they still believe that is better than nothing. Maybe it is for them but I also think people can become trapped in toxic environments because they feel obliged/ pressured to stay or, too scared to leave.

I absolutely agree though- each to their own. We're individuals with different backgrounds and needs. It stands to reason we will all be varying happy or unhappy in certain situations.

@Forever Sleep On Tiktok and various social media platforms there are various extreme moments promoting to young people that certain life-styles are superior and encourage young people to emulate these lifestyles. There is the trad wife movement telling women there is fulfilment in being a stay at home mum and living traditionally like in 1950 while the decenter men movement tells women its empowering to decenter men and be single.

Now I realise its up to the individual to decide what life they want is best for them. My only problem with trad wife movement is woman being financially dependant on the man and being left in poverty once the man leaves. If a woman wants to be a stay at home mum she needs to have a plan in an event the man leaves her. Decenter movement is also valid because a woman can find fulfilment in not having men in her life but not every woman is made for that life.

No style of living is superior. I do think society needs to stop being in this competition of which lifestyle is superior.