Discussion therapy/psychologist stuff atound emotions?

[ScaredCutter]

im so sorry for making so many similar threads over the time.

ive been constantly struggling with my emotions, i can recognise them, what is the potenial cause and such but im unable to be in complete control, calm down or anything. these have been starting from 3 years ago approx with my partner but, im not blaming him or anything, i try to do a lot for him and help out, but i keep falling back. whenever things are tense, hard, stressing and scary, my mind starts to recall the past, how i slowly lost people, how someone encouraged something illegal, how ive been acting, anf whatever else comes to mind and i start to feel panic and that i must do something. i feel so cobtrolling, demanding and selfish, ive beeb told things because of how ive been acting, who i have become.

some things have semi changed but, it came back anyways. i became less jealous and envious, but thats all gone and came back. still, in situations where my emotions r all over the place, i feel like i need to blurt out everything, but itll only cause problems because of how i deal with it, its so hard to properly face things. i have tried doing other things as a means of distraction but, i keep hivering over and checking things even if i try distracting myself. ive become so ugly, idk how to fix it.

ive been wanting to work on this, fix my emotions, start viewing things differently instead of in one way where i assume it leads to the "same path". i wish i could just accept things. i wish i had a better way of handling things, to stop acting like an overprotective person, watch things closely like smth bad will 100% happen. the person eho i am just destroys eveeything, i cant even keep friends because im scared of just not giving him everything.

i am seeing a psychologist but its just for docial anxiety atm. shoukd i didcuss it with her? idk, im scared just thinking and typing it. im weak on communication as well.

 

[dragonofenvy]

shoukd i didcuss it with her? idk, im scared just thinking and typing it. im weak on communication as well.

Yes. If you need to, write down your thoughts about this topic and bring them in the next time you see them. I've found that, especially in emotional states, I am very descriptive when writing my thoughts out, but when it comes time to talk about them I'm barely even articulate and stumble over my words. With writing it gives a structure and plan for how to explain an idea. Psychologists won't mind if you go into too much detail. They want you to.
Expressing this kind of vulnerability can be difficult, and it is scary to think about, but I think that writing it down will help your collect your thoughts, organize, and understand them better. That's what works for me anyways. I'm a mess when I talk about my feelings but if I have time to sit down and write an essay about them it helps me understand them a lot better.

whenever things are tense, hard, stressing and scary, my mind starts to recall the past, how i slowly lost people, how someone encouraged something illegal, how ive been acting, anf whatever else comes to mind and i start to feel panic and that i must do something.

It sounds like you're having intrusive thoughts and they become overwhelming. Similar things happen to me and I either need to scream or hit myself because it's overwhelming. I've found that the RAIN method helps me a bit with them. You could talk to your psychologist about it or do your own research into it. Here is a link to a worksheet my psychologist gave me. Here's another thing my psychologist sent me regarding intrusive thoughts. These sound a bit basic but they have helped me manage them. Your psychologist can help you manage them more. Emotional processing of these thoughts has also helped me keep them down. Your thoughts to me sound very similar to my own which from my understanding seem to be some kind of trauma related response. I haven't been able to figure it out yet.

start viewing things differently instead of in one way where i assume it leads to the "same path".

This to me sounds a bit like black-and-white thinking which is also another issue I'm working on with my psychologist. Dang, we seem to be pretty similar. This is another thing you should bring up with them. Tell them that you're worried that you think in black-and-white terms too much and give them some examples and they'll help you by challenging some of your ideas. This isn't really something you can work through on your own, you need a neutral third-party to look at how you view things and gently challenge those beliefs which is your psychologist's job.

to stop acting like an overprotective person, watch things closely like smth bad will 100% happen. the person eho i am just destroys eveeything, i cant even keep friends because im scared of just not giving him everything.

I think this is another thing you should bring up. You seem to be very attached to this person at the expense of other things in your life. This sounds like something that you really need to work on. Attachment issues like this can be healed. There's nothing wrong with you. You just need someone who can help you work through these difficult thought patterns and it's a good thing that you're seeing a psychologist for that reason.

You don't need to do everything all in one session. I don't know which would be best to focus on first, but maybe you could try bringing up all of these topics so that your psychologist is aware of them, and then pick one of them to focus on.

At the very least, if I am wrong about some of the things I've said in this post I think you should at least bring up these topics with your psychologist. I only know you from this post alone, but your situation seems pretty similar to mine so I figured I'd chime in with some of my thoughts. Let me know if you think this has helped you at all or if you have any questions.

 

[ScaredCutter]

Yes. If you need to, write down your thoughts about this topic and bring them in the next time you see them. I've found that, especially in emotional states, I am very descriptive when writing my thoughts out, but when it comes time to talk about them I'm barely even articulate and stumble over my words. With writing it gives a structure and plan for how to explain an idea. Psychologists won't mind if you go into too much detail. They want you to.
Expressing this kind of vulnerability can be difficult, and it is scary to think about, but I think that writing it down will help your collect your thoughts, organize, and understand them better. That's what works for me anyways. I'm a mess when I talk about my feelings but if I have time to sit down and write an essay about them it helps me understand them a lot better.


It sounds like you're having intrusive thoughts and they become overwhelming. Similar things happen to me and I either need to scream or hit myself because it's overwhelming. I've found that the RAIN method helps me a bit with them. You could talk to your psychologist about it or do your own research into it. Here is a link to a worksheet my psychologist gave me. Here's another thing my psychologist sent me regarding intrusive thoughts. These sound a bit basic but they have helped me manage them. Your psychologist can help you manage them more. Emotional processing of these thoughts has also helped me keep them down. Your thoughts to me sound very similar to my own which from my understanding seem to be some kind of trauma related response. I haven't been able to figure it out yet.


This to me sounds a bit like black-and-white thinking which is also another issue I'm working on with my psychologist. Dang, we seem to be pretty similar. This is another thing you should bring up with them. Tell them that you're worried that you think in black-and-white terms too much and give them some examples and they'll help you by challenging some of your ideas. This isn't really something you can work through on your own, you need a neutral third-party to look at how you view things and gently challenge those beliefs which is your psychologist's job.


I think this is another thing you should bring up. You seem to be very attached to this person at the expense of other things in your life. This sounds like something that you really need to work on. Attachment issues like this can be healed. There's nothing wrong with you. You just need someone who can help you work through these difficult thought patterns and it's a good thing that you're seeing a psychologist for that reason.

You don't need to do everything all in one session. I don't know which would be best to focus on first, but maybe you could try bringing up all of these topics so that your psychologist is aware of them, and then pick one of them to focus on.

At the very least, if I am wrong about some of the things I've said in this post I think you should at least bring up these topics with your psychologist. I only know you from this post alone, but your situation seems pretty similar to mine so I figured I'd chime in with some of my thoughts. Let me know if you think this has helped you at all or if you have any questions.

thank u! everything uve said makes things feel a little more clear to myself. ill try to do whats possible with my psychologist!

im bad at communication in any way. i feel super embarrassed or, i feel like the things im aaying is fake or me just overreaction/being dramatic. i tried doing it before but it felt like i was being wrong on what i wrote, i try being as accurate as i can about everything but it alqaya feels unfinished and like imbjust saying stuff.

would u think that sheets stuff like RAIN could help with it? i hardly did stuff like that because i found them silly lol

 

[dragonofenvy]

im bad at communication in any way. i feel super embarrassed or, i feel like the things im aaying is fake or me just overreaction/being dramatic. i tried doing it before but it felt like i was being wrong on what i wrote, i try being as accurate as i can about everything but it alqaya feels unfinished and like imbjust saying stuff.

Same here. It's hard being vulnerable. It doesn't have to be perfect, nor does it necessarily need to be 100% accurate since you're talking from an emotional state. You could also use it as "notes" so to speak to help you summarize your thoughts which is what I often do.

would u think that sheets stuff like RAIN could help with it? i hardly did stuff like that because i found them silly lol

They are a little silly and a bit childish but I've found them to be helpful. They're not a magic wand, and it takes a bit of practice but it does make things better.