Venting Never have a romantic relationship due to chronic pain

[nothinghereforme]

Chronic pain means I can never satisfy a partner without hurting myself.I dont want to get better or learn to cope if pain cant ever be gone I will be
It's in all my body and muscles can't masturbate doctors haven't found out in years
I have no interest in anything else lost all passion for hobbies and everything just try to drug and drink myself to sleep as much as I can afford
Why does my family think rehab will help me when my problem is doctors can't fix my pain, my body is already damaged for good and I can never have the only thing I wanted most nothing interests me I'm a eunuch now I hate myself and the whole world and life especially people who think I should learn to cope with my situation when it's not worth it for their jobs

 

[easypeasy]

Chronic pain means I can never satisfy a partner without hurting myself.I dont want to get better or learn to cope if pain cant ever be gone I will be
It's in all my body and muscles can't masturbate doctors haven't found out in years
I have no interest in anything else lost all passion for hobbies and everything just try to drug and drink myself to sleep as much as I can afford
Why does my family think rehab will help me when my problem is doctors can't fix my pain, my body is already damaged for good and I can never have the only thing I wanted most nothing interests me I'm a eunuch now I hate myself and the whole world and life especially people who think I should learn to cope with my situation when it's not worth it for their jobs

I have chronic pain, also. Can't work. Can't attend social events, funerals, Xmas. Anything. Can't wear shoes. Wasn't my fault. Medical negligence. 2 family family members teased me and said I was a pain druggy which isn't true. I take what I'm told. That was my brother and his wife. She screamed at me. He didn't stop her. Nobody stood up for me. She said worse but I can't repeat it it's too hurtful to re-live. If I could meet with and live with someone who had chronic pain, I'd like that but it's not something you can find easily.

 

[Afterglow]

It sounds like you just need a partner who's asexual, there's plenty. I don't think you should hate yourself, it's not your fault. I hope you find someone who can see past your illness, I really do.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

I understand how awful it is (though chronic illnesses and pain took away my sex drive). I had to have surgery because I had several massive tumors on my reproductive organs, and after I had this operation it completely killed any desire I had to ever have sex again. There was a lot of internal scar tissue that has to be cut out.

This might as well make me useless to 95% of girls and guys, because they want sex and I can't deliver. My body physically can't really get aroused anymore. That's on top of the existing pain and fatigue that I live with daily. Don't really believe in love anymore because my long-term partner/husband didn't really believe I was actually in pain or suffering for years and years and made light out of it. At this point I don't know what is worse, having no partner, or having one who never really understand you.

No one really understands what it's like to be in this situation unless they experience it themselves. They don't realize how chronic health problems can strip an individual of all the things we want, the things that make life worth living.