my friends are really questionable

[overthrone]

i made a joke asking if I was getting ignored because my last few texts in our groupchat had gone unanswered
i was met with my friends telling me that i'm selfish because i dont tend to respond to other people's messages
i feel like it's two extremely different scenarios - i dont respond to other people's messages as often because they already get replies from other people. mine had no replies whatsoever.
i know i'm selfish, i understand that, but i feel like it's a false equivalency.
im probably gonna relapse later tonight because of this shit but i just wanted other people's opinions.

 

[chudcell]

i made a joke asking if I was getting ignored because my last few texts in our groupchat had gone unanswered
i was met with my friends telling me that i'm selfish because i dont tend to respond to other people's messages
i feel like it's two extremely different scenarios - i dont respond to other people's messages as often because they already get replies from other people. mine had no replies whatsoever.
i know i'm selfish, i understand that, but i feel like it's a false equivalency.
im probably gonna relapse later tonight because of this shit but i just wanted other people's opinions.

They are gaslighting you

 

[overthrone]

also just remembered that these friends are dating and they went through a rough patch a little while back and i was the one who kept them together and now they're the two ganging up on me. being nice yields such good rewards, doesn't it?

 

[Lamentice]

also just remembered that these friends are dating and they went through a rough patch a little while back and i was the one who kept them together and now they're the two ganging up on me. being nice yields such good rewards, doesn't it?

Would you be willing to go low-contact with them? They just don't seem worth it or genuine to you.

 

[overthrone]

Would you be willing to go low-contact with them? They just don't seem worth it or genuine to you.

i've tried, but the groupchat im in with them is super active

 

[Lamentice]

i've tried, but the groupchat im in with them is super active

Is it just those 2 in there? Can you mute it?

 

[overthrone]

Is it just those 2 in there? Can you mute it?

No, technically 4 not counting me. It's already muted

 

[lethargicnlonely]

i know how you feel, im in a big gc with them and when everyone is firing off responses but i reply once they go quiet and it doesnt help my anxiety thinking they all hate me. its hard to be engaged in the convo when i know theyre gonna ignore me

 

[overthrone]

last thing ill add to this shitty ass thread, but i tried to explain my lack of responses on my declining mental health and one of my friends quite literally said that my mental health is fine because i still talk about things that make me happy rather than not texting at all
what the fuck do you know about my mental health? just because i dont express how i feel doesnt mean i'm doing okay
other friend called me a leech too so

 

[Wojaczek]

this is why i don't fuck with group chats

 

[Lamentice]

last thing ill add to this shitty ass thread, but i tried to explain my lack of responses on my declining mental health and one of my friends quite literally said that my mental health is fine because i still talk about things that make me happy rather than not texting at all
what the fuck do you know about my mental health? just because i dont express how i feel doesnt mean i'm doing okay
other friend called me a leech too so

I am so sorry, these "friends" are mistreating you...

 

[PainThreshold]

I don't think these people are your friends, they sound like an entitled karen.

You shouldn't feel obliged to facilitate shitty behaviour, you don't even need any reason—even a selfish one will do.

But please be careful in case of vindictive personality.