Help My ex is self harming and threatening to ctb

[takeyourshotfunboy]

For some background, my ex, let´s call her Amy, does have a history of lying a lot and/or telling me things that just seemed unlikely (she had a girlfriend who was in a coma, she was in a car crash with her friend and the friend died, saying that she´s never dated and then saying that she had dated like 20 people before me, stuff like that). She also recently told me that she works near a bridge and in 4 years she is going to jump off it.

Yesterday a girl from my friend group, let's call her Valerie, comes up to me, sort of cradling Amy in her arms. I notice that Amy is bleeding through her sleeves. I freak out of course. I pull Valerie aside. She tells me that Amy went to the bathroom and cut herself and she doesn´t know why. The funny thing is that both me and Valerie have experiences with self harm and yet neither of us know what to do. I ask Valerie if I should call or tell someone, she says no because Amy has been to the hospital before and it didn´t help her (which I get because I´ve been there before and it didn´t help me in the long run either. I bring Amy some bandages and she says she can put them on herself. She then proceeds to run to the bathroom, possibly to cut more. Me and Valerie just sort of sit there dumbfounded.

Is this some sort of cry for help or is she just an attention whore? Advice?

 

[Marriedwithsuicide]

For some background, my ex, let´s call her Amy, does have a history of lying a lot and/or telling me things that just seemed unlikely (she had a girlfriend who was in a coma, she was in a car crash with her friend and the friend died, saying that she´s never dated and then saying that she had dated like 20 people before me, stuff like that). She also recently told me that she works near a bridge and in 4 years she is going to jump off it.

Yesterday a girl from my friend group, let's call her Valerie, comes up to me, sort of cradling Amy in her arms. I notice that Amy is bleeding through her sleeves. I freak out of course. I pull Valerie aside. She tells me that Amy went to the bathroom and cut herself and she doesn´t know why. The funny thing is that both me and Valerie have experiences with self harm and yet neither of us know what to do. I ask Valerie if I should call or tell someone, she says no because Amy has been to the hospital before and it didn´t help her (which I get because I´ve been there before and it didn´t help me in the long run either. I bring Amy some bandages and she says she can put them on herself. She then proceeds to run to the bathroom, possibly to cut more. Me and Valerie just sort of sit there dumbfounded.

Is this some sort of cry for help or is she just an attention whore? Advice?

In all honesty it could be both. I've seen both sides and I've honestly frog marched people to the dr and fought for real help