Venting My dad wanted my cat to die

[Kadaver]

On Sunday my cat had a medical emergency and needed to be taken to the vet. He was in pain and I was so worried that I woke my dad up take us to the nearest emergency vet (a little over an hour away) at 4 am. I had originally planned to wait until Monday when our primary vet opened but my cats discomfort escalated pretty drastically

My dad took his time getting ready and acted like I was waking him up just to wake him up and was a complete asshole throughout the entire ordeal; never asking me how I was doing or showing any empathy. I asked my sibling if they could cover the vet bills for now with the plan of paying them back because I didnt have the money on my own. If they had said no my cat would be dead and he would have died painfully. My cat needed a minor operation and had to be held by the vet for 3 days

My dad was "disappointed" in my sibling for paying for the vet bill, claiming he wanted me to "learn." I truly don't know what the fuck I was supposed to learn from watching the thing I love most in this world die a painful death. Now I feel even more shitty as not only could my cat have died but my own father, who claims to care about me, WANTED him to die. I cannot get over this and I think about it constantly—My dad wanted me to lose the thing I love most forever. He wanted me to go through the agony of grief on top of my already shit mental health

I haven't spoken to him about this but I plan to because its just such a cruel thing to want, and especially for his own child. I just want to die.

 

[Worndown]

Nice guy!
How is your cat?

 

[overcastdays]

Jesus. Absolutely needlessly cruel. I just don't get how people can be like that, let alone to their own children. I should count myself lucky I guess... Hope you're holding up alright. You and your cat.

 

[J&L383]

Jesus. Absolutely needlessly cruel. I just don't get how people can be like that, let alone to their own children. I should count myself lucky I guess... Hope you're holding up alright. You and your cat.

Me too. .
I don't own a cat but my brother has always had one and I enjoy visiting him. For me it's the responsibility for another life that sort of makes me anxious. So instead I have neighbors whose pets I visit with.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

Your message really hit me. I'm glad you shared this. I'm an older guy, my kids are adults now. In a way, I can relate to being annoyed at the inconvenience and expense. A sad thing about our world is that a situation like yours can seem like a trivial irritation to a dad. But you're right, it's not trivial. The human heart is absolutely not trivial. The concern of a child of any age toward their pets is important on a whole higher level. I'm sorry you had this experience. You're a good person for caring so much for your cat. By sharing this you reminded this tired old man (me) to be a little more kind. Sorry for rambling. I hope your cat is doing well.